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posted December 06, 2012 10:01 AM            

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he wants to marry me i have a child with him but i dont want to marry him because he has been talking to other women and has been hiding the phone for me. and i told him i dnt wanna marry him because of that but he don't listen he says that i am. i think he just wants to tie me down so i wont leave him ..

what should i do i need HELP!

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posted December 06, 2012 10:07 AM            

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can you please help me Linda

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posted December 06, 2012 10:14 AM            

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He is just playing with your mind by telling you that you want to marry him.When people keep telling the same thing again and again you will eventually come to believe it even though it may not be true.Listen to your heart,dont let him or anyone else influence your decision.

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posted December 06, 2012 10:58 AM            

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but he already payed the deposit for the church and he got the rings i dnt knw what to do

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posted December 06, 2012 11:01 AM            

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he got the rings already and payed for the deposit to get married idnt knw what to do HELP he said that im not going to get rid of him

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posted December 06, 2012 11:04 AM            

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They arent as valuable as your life.

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posted December 06, 2012 11:04 AM            

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They arent as valuable as your life.

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posted December 06, 2012 11:05 AM            

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Are you real?

In the case you are real, what are you still doing with this man?

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posted December 06, 2012 11:10 AM            

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i know and im not going to get married with him tht if he wants to pay for the whole church itz up to him tht i am going to say NO .. but he has done alot of things behind my back talk to alot of women so i dnt wanna deal with it anymore he has done tht all the time i catched him again ..

so how do i get rid of him ?

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posted December 06, 2012 11:11 AM            

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im w him because i am in skool and i want to be a medical assistant and im stuck here

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posted December 06, 2012 11:12 AM            

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Tell him what you are telling us! It's unacceptable that he was talking to other women and even if he promises to stop, the relationship is already ruined.

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posted December 06, 2012 11:14 AM            

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ive been loyal to him all the time and he still dnt stop he has done the impossible so i wont look at his phone

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posted December 06, 2012 11:21 AM            

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can u please tell me how to get rid of him? he just doesnt get it i dnt knw if itz because of the *** i think thatz why.. he says he loves me all the time like yesterday he called me i didnt answer and he texed me he loved me in like a cuple txts ..

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posted December 06, 2012 11:32 AM            

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please help !

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posted December 06, 2012 11:53 AM            

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anyone gonna help me ??

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posted December 06, 2012 12:02 PM            

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I`m sorry but i think you need to deal with this one on your own...this is an astrology forum not a place where you can go to so that somebody can make life decisions for you.

If you don`t want him then tell him communicate it and if he keeps trying then keep reminding him.If you don`t want marriage tell him he can`t force that on you nobody can force something on you that you don`t want to do.Instead of constantly repeating that you need help tell him what you are thinking.

If he keeps persisting then break it off with this man whatever you have and move on.

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posted December 06, 2012 12:05 PM            

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oo itz because he dnt get it and i told him so many ways thanks anyways ill try to see how to get rid of him

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posted December 06, 2012 12:09 PM            

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Very simple.

Go to the church. Speak to the church pastor/priest and also to a church clergy elder.

Explain the situtaion and tell them everything you have told us. They will cancel the wedding. That is for sure.

I am a Christian myself and I will pray for you. Meanwhile, I am confident that the church will be sensible and side with you.

Having a child with him is separate from you agreeing to marry him.

And you can come to me at anytime. My ears are here for you.

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posted December 06, 2012 12:13 PM            

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thank you so much i am going to talk the priest and tell him whats going on

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posted December 06, 2012 01:09 PM            

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In the other topic related to parents and how you get along with them, you mentioned that:

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Originally posted by babygirl12:
get alone with both now since i have a bby now

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- if that's true, maybe your parents can also help you with this, if he's a danger to you (some can be) - you might be force to get a restraining order on him... in case his harassing you and you don't want to be with him... Doesn't matter the reason - you're not obligated to stay with someone you don't love - this will only hurt you and your child on the long run...

Btw, what's your age?

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posted December 06, 2012 01:24 PM            

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I'll give you another perspective, marriage is a false sense of security. You don't need to be married to feel accomplished in life. Do it unless you really want to, thats the best advice anyone can give you.

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posted December 06, 2012 01:58 PM            

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thank you so much i am going to talk the priest and tell him whats going on

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Thank you. Please let us know what ensues. I will check in here to check up on developments. You have my prayers and support. I'm a man myself (and a father and husband and a Christian), and there are no plausible excuses for this man to behave in this manner.

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posted December 06, 2012 05:18 PM            

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i told him so many times that i am not going to marry him and finally he got it thru his head he went to church and canceled everything he told me that while hes alive tht i am not gonna be happy w noone else and i am stuck here cuz of skool and i need his mom to take care of my child

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posted December 06, 2012 05:22 PM            

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I am 21 and he is 21 as also

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posted December 06, 2012 05:45 PM            

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he got the rings already and payed for the deposit to get married idnt knw what to do HELP he said that im not going to get rid of him

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Two words: restraining order.

Also contact your local groups that deal with stalking. Since you're the one being stalked that's your responsibility and laws and options vary state by state (and country by country). Too bad that your family won't help you.

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