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Yanmorg
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posted November 06, 2013 03:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yanmorg     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Do people with these placements retreat in their shells when they feel strongly about someone? Will they act like Cancers when it comes to approaching a love interest? For example, My Taurus Sun/Moon with Venus/ Mars in Cancer tends to go off and disappear after we've spent some time together and all of our time together is intense, passionate, and loving. Is this normal? How should I handle these moments? Me being a Scorpio with Venus/Mercury in Scorpio find it difficult to deal with this distance.

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posted November 06, 2013 04:31 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for hannaramaa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Retreat into their shells when they feel strongly about someone... hahahahahaha NO. Cancers will immediately want to claim you as theirs and start nesting. Cancer is a cardinal sign, so they have similar behavior to Aries, Libra, and Capricorn. Cancers are feminine water signs sure, but they are PUSHY when they want something.

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posted November 06, 2013 04:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for starmoon     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
i know someone with these placements (mars and venus in cancer) and it is shocking how forward and pushy he has been. i thought he would be a meek cancer, but not at all. i have found that the more time we spend together the more time he wants to spend together (gets attached fast). you know, i think it really makes a difference what the synastry aspects are and how 'into' you the person is. it hasn't been my experience that they want space - quite the opposite.

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posted November 06, 2013 04:53 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for starrystratosphere     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Retreat into their shells when they feel strongly about someone... hahahahahaha NO. Cancers will immediately want to claim you as theirs and start nesting. Cancer is a cardinal sign, so they have similar behavior to Aries, Libra, and Capricorn. Cancers are feminine water signs sure, but they are PUSHY when they want something.

Plus effing 1000.

And if you don't want to let us claim you, get lost.

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posted November 06, 2013 05:03 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Kerosene     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Retreat into their shells when they feel strongly about someone... hahahahahaha NO. Cancers will immediately want to claim you as theirs and start nesting. Cancer is a cardinal sign, so they have similar behavior to Aries, Libra, and Capricorn. Cancers are feminine water signs sure, but they are PUSHY when they want something.

Very true!

Mars in cancer can be efficient but for all the wrong reasons.
their drive and energy is exerted in security.
Nesting is a priority for them.
They aren't cowards but won't take the necessary risks.. They won't give people chances and will flee when they feel unsure.
I think of Mars in Cancer as an impenetrable fortress.

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posted November 06, 2013 05:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for starrystratosphere     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Kerosene:
Very true!

Mars in cancer can be efficient but for all the wrong reasons.
their drive and energy is exerted in security.
Nesting is a priority for them.
They aren't cowards but won't take the necessary risks.. They won't give people chances and will flee when they feel unsure.
I think of Mars in Cancer as an impenetrable fortress.


Wanting security out of a potential partner means you are ready to put all you have at stake. It means you are sincere and genuine with your motives and feelings. I don't understand floozy people and nor do I care to waist my time with them. That's truth 101 with Cancer Mars.

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posted November 06, 2013 06:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Bearee     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm a Taurus sun with moon/venus/mars in cancer and i definitely do not agree with hannaramaa.

I take things verrryyyy slow and retreating in my shell when i feel strongly about someone does sound familiar to me. Although this retreating would not take very long for me. Usually 2 days? Not longer than that. I don't know exactly what it is, but I get overwhelmed with al these intense feelings I have, so I have to take time off. (maybe because of my venus opposite uranus aspect? not sure)
It has nothing to do with my interest in that person, they're definitely strong, yes that's the reason actually. And because of that, I feel like I can't handle it at a certain moment, especially after a long intense, joyful day that with that person. So if that person is anything like me, you should not be afraid (or whatever negative feeling you get) of this behaviour!

I only speak for myself obviously but I'm not very direct with my love interest. It's always the little things I do which make it obvious I like that person a lot, other than that, you won't see me saying things out loud. Too scared to do that ;p

How you can handle these moments? If you think this person likes you, just reassure him/her. Make it obvious for that person that you like him too and I'm pretty sure that person will make their feelings obvious too =)

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posted November 06, 2013 06:59 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Plutonic Capricorn     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
^^ hoi lieverd.. jij hebt aparte chart want je zon maan en asc blijft hetzelfde bij vedic en tropical?

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posted November 06, 2013 09:28 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yanmorg     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
He has his Venus opposite uranus!

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posted November 06, 2013 09:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yanmorg     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I know it couldn't be he wasn't THAT interested because he does little things that shows he cares plus his Mercury in Aries and his Taurus Sun/Moon makes him extremely direct and straightforward a. He has venus opposite uranus and Venus/mars in cancer and the description above was dead on. I understand completely now.

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posted November 06, 2013 10:05 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for SoujiroSeta     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm Cancer sun/mercury/mars.

My family says the same thing to me all the time. The thing is, my mood governs everything. I'm generalizing when I say this, but I would assume people with cancer placements know what I mean.

If I'm not in the mood, then I'm not in the mood. It has nothing to do with "avoiding", or "trying to distance myself" or any of that. I'm simply just no in the mood to be in contact or see anyone while the "mood swing" still exist, and I'd rather just be left alone. It doesn't matter who is trying to contact me (mother, sister, etc). I simply need alone time and my family always says stuff like "how can you not want to talk to us?". Ofcourse each mood swing is different. For instance I might not be in the mood to go out and see people, but I don't mind if people want to come over. Or vice versa, i might want to go out, but by myself only.

Ofcourse I'm only speaking for myself, but I think you're just experiencing his mood swings. After seeing you, he might not be in the mood to do anything for a while as long as the mood swing last (days/weeks/whenever), and he needs time to recharge.

I would say don't try to force him out of his recharge period but you can bring it to his attention in a non "why are you acting like this YES I'm confronting you about this" manner.

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posted November 06, 2013 10:11 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yanmorg     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That's exactly what I do and you would think I would try a different approach since I usually get nowhere with that one, but I think my mars in Sagittarius is the one to blame. My impulses take over my whole entire being at that moment and I just have to react to his behavior instead of continuing to do my own thing and wait it out. I've actually had quite a few moments where I would wait it out and he always came around and better than ever. Things are smooth sailing when I just let him be but sometimes my intense emotions take over and I react off of that instead of analyzing the situation. Plus, it doesn't help that his Sun AND moon is in Taurus. This just makes him more intervertebral and slow to react depending on his mood swings. It's so frustrating but I love these same qualities about him because it's what I lack and desire for myself.

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posted November 06, 2013 10:16 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Yanmorg     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
And the only reason why I'm pretty sure his behavior is not motivated by a lack of interest is because he's done too many things to show he cares. He bought me the same necklace he bought his mom last Christmas, he always pumps my gas at the gas station even if I'm the one going in to pay, he holds doors open for me, he gives me his coat when were outside and it's cold, he makes my bed, he spends time with me even though I know he had something more productive or money-oriented to do (this is only sometimes), and I've met his closest friends and he has told his parents about me. He has also told me he loves me, but until I hear it from him sober, I won't allow myself to believe it even though he's told he has never been in love before our relationship. I still don't want to get my hopes up just yet. And although these are things that still could possibly not mean he's interested, I mean it's been over a year already. I doubt he would waste his valuable time.

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posted November 06, 2013 11:15 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for charlie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Cancers chase when they know they want something and become wishy washy when they don't know what they want.

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posted November 06, 2013 11:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for StarlightSmileSupreme     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Yanmorg:
Do people with these placements retreat in their shells when they feel strongly about someone? Will they act like Cancers when it comes to approaching a love interest? For example, My Taurus Sun/Moon with Venus/ Mars in Cancer tends to go off and disappear after we've spent some time together and all of our time together is intense, passionate, and loving. Is this normal? How should I handle these moments? Me being a Scorpio with Venus/Mercury in Scorpio find it difficult to deal with this distance.

I know a guy with this only he has a Leo moon, like I mentioned before, and he had his own little space in a shed in the backyard with his brewery and he told me about it in emails. He went there to get away from people and he liked being there.

He grew up as an only child, too, so he was used to being alone, sometimes.

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posted November 06, 2013 11:50 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for StarlightSmileSupreme     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by hannaramaa:
Retreat into their shells when they feel strongly about someone... hahahahahaha NO. Cancers will immediately want to claim you as theirs and start nesting. Cancer is a cardinal sign, so they have similar behavior to Aries, Libra, and Capricorn. Cancers are feminine water signs sure, but they are PUSHY when they want something.

Sorta but not so much with my friend. It's mostly when they aren't happy they retreat into their "shells" if you want to call it that. They go off on their own and if they can, they will complain to someone they feel is on their side and will comfort them. Cancer placements LOVE to be consoled first and foremost.

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posted November 07, 2013 12:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for astrolog     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have Venus in Cancer and will express this tendency when I am in love. Yes can very pushy and when insecure can be possessive.
When hurt there will be a wall put between the person. But overall Venus in Cancer is very caring and will smother the person with love and care. Not good for people who loves freedom LOL

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posted November 08, 2013 08:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for libran_girl_1891     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Interesting question... And I have experienced this sometimes with a Gemini Sun, Venus & Mars Cancer guy. There's the time when they suddenly overwhelm you with closeness for some time and then just as suddenly retreat for God knows what reason.

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