posted October 23, 2017 01:55 PM            

I go from being angry to crying in that spin moment. Cancer Moon feelings are very dynamic and on the surface. One tends to feel stuff quickly. And once acknowledged, they dissipate(this is what they have in common with Aries Moon although with Aries the first reaction is anger/irritation)

Whether or not you "hurt" him, he will not reveal. The Mars in Virgo will analyze itself on how its "supposed" to feel to be more in control. And disguise how they really feel.

posted October 23, 2017 03:20 PM            

I think you should trust your sensitivity and act on it just as you did. You're just being a decent, sensitive person.

posted October 23, 2017 03:35 PM            

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Originally posted by saadsarah8:
So to keep this short, I've read a lot about cancer moon's defense mechanisms when they're hurt, and how they put on a show to hide how hurt they are/how sensitive & deeply emotional you are. I'm currently dealing with one of my students (I teach adults don't worry) and from the very first day he attended a class for me, I noticed him staring blankly at me (blankly, or should I say dazingly/lovingly/etc.)

I looked up his natal chart & found that his moon in cancer almost exactly conjuncts my ascendant. He has a capricorn sun & mercury, and a venus in sag [that opposes my mars] as well as a mars in virgo. I could tell (feel: cancer conjunction) that he felt comfortable emotionally with me and that *perhaps* he was even starting to develop some kind of emotional connection or bond with me.

Anyway, one class he and his friends came in late and I was a bit pushy/rude with them. After that lesson, he skipped 3 consecutive classes- although his friends, who he's always with, did come to my classes. I was thinking maybe that's a reaction from my slight aggression with him that one time he came in late? (cancer's oversensitivity & easily hurt nature).

Today he came to class (probably because we had an exam) and he was acting.. how should I put this?? like he's trying to be rude or disrespectful.. he was making silly/sarcastic jokes the entire time (unlike him) and I could sense that he was *angry* like he was agitated/angry/possibly wanting to erupt with agitation that kinda thing??

Is that his moon in cancer reacting to what happened between us? Is he actually hurt and trying to pretend that it all doesn't even matter to him. Am I overthinking this (probably yeah lol)

PS, I was considerate enough to talk to him privately after class & apologize. I made sure he knew that I never want anyone to feel upset or uncomfortable in my class. He said he didn't attend the previous classes cuz he was sick & he couldn't move. He said: it had nothing to do with you several times but idk what to make of it.

Was I stupid for apologizing to one of my students?

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On the objective....Hard to say what upset him. Sometimes, it's not about the other person. His behaving that way, maybe be about something else and the reality of things are different..... would be my guess....a personal vs objective perception. Sometimes, people get into a mood and are oblivious about their behaviours.

The general idea.....A cancer moon would most likely withdraw in silence and minimize contact. This would match what you are saying. The pain of conflict would be too much, if the Cancer moon is still young. Over time they develop the skills to deal with others, once the confidence is achieved.

Although the Sun and mars sign could indicate different reactions and behaviours. Mercury mental process comes into play.....

What sign is his mars in? Is he reflecting that aspect? I see it now... Mars in Virgo.... With Sun in Capricorn.... Virgo can be cutting and sometimes unpleasant.... Capricorn can be aloof......

I have a moon in Cancer, but my Sun in Aries is tough.... and hides vulnerability. My mars in Capricorn is reserved enough to sit back and observe others (it's in the 8th too). Taurus mercury weighs things out and will only speak if it's important...... The moon comes out when it's about family and children.....

At times, I don't think there is much clout with moon/Venus with men....I see their Sun/mars more......