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Aries23Degrees
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posted January 09, 2020 04:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aries23Degrees     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
For those of you who have this temperament,what do you think is/are the aspects/placements responsible for it?

And if you still have this nature (despite the placements not being clear to you)what do you believe are key habits one can adopt to build it?

I have a lot of anger and a terrible temper that can last for days when it erupts. On the front door of a frustrating situation is annoyance, than the momentum speeds up to anger.

My mood changes and in an effort to feel better,I choose to rationalize the situation and detach(Mars in Libra).

Externally,this action comes across to others as "passive aggressive" because I am quiet.But in the same breath it is clear that I'm a volcano smouldering internally

When in this state, its like I am on a differing wavelength.I don't want to smile, chat or even look at anyone.My physical energy levels rise exponentially (much how you would see "The Hulk ") and I can go for hours on end in the gym doing treadmills or heavy-duty machine exercises.

The problem is not that this happens only in frustrating situations.But I sometimes find something to be upset about just about EVERYWHERE now i.e racism, homophobia, injustice on Tv, what's happening on the news, religious people who are overzealous to a point of oppressing others, irritating family members who stick their noses where they don't belong etc. Nobody is spared.

You may think this ridiculous but I go through a number of days being neutral-even pleasant.But then something I feel passionate about stirs my thoughts and then the momentum picks up.

What can I do to get a hold of these emotions? I am too passionate and too involved in things I can't control. And that seems to fuel the anger so much.I need to learn to chill out(without the weed)

Moon-Mars square
Mercury-Mars square
Mars opp Asc(Aries)
Mars trine N.node
Mars square Mc

Right now the transits are;

Pluto/Sat square Asc in Aries
Pluto/Sat square Mars
Pluto/Sat opp Moon
Pluto/Sat conj Mc
Pluto/Sat conj Merc


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posted January 09, 2020 05:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Nadja     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have the temper of a dormant volcano. I erupt once in a blue moon, but 99.9% of the time my mood is very stable.

I have Mars in Cancer (on the Midheaven), which isn't very heated to begin with:
- conjunct Mercury, possibly a good pressure valve, being able to talk it out instead of getting angry?
- sextile Virgo Moon, 12th house... A pretty stable Moon position I guess, kind of sensitive to the emotions of others, but overall not very emotional.
- opposite Neptune, making me rather passive and dreamy, and maybe also adding to my tendency to always consider the other point of view. In general I don't get angry at people... If a person behaves in a way that irritates me or hurts me then I'll usually find that there is an underlying reason for them to be having a bad day. Moon trine Neptune also adds to that trait I guess, as well as the Moon-Mercury and Mercury-Neptune aspects.

I can't really give you any advice as for how to rein in that anger. My anger erupts and then five minutes later it's just gone, it doesn't slowly build or hang around. I have a 'let it go' sort of attitude to anything that upsets me, but I suppose that isn't so easy to adopt unless it's already in your nature.

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posted January 09, 2020 05:47 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aries23Degrees     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Nadja:
I have the temper of a dormant volcano. I erupt once in a blue moon, but 99.9% of the time my mood is very stable.

I have Mars in Cancer (on the Midheaven), which isn't very heated to begin with:
- conjunct Mercury, possibly a good pressure valve, being able to talk it out instead of getting angry?
- sextile Virgo Moon, 12th house... A pretty stable Moon position I guess, kind of sensitive to the emotions of others, but overall not very emotional.
- opposite Neptune, making me rather passive and dreamy, and maybe also adding to my tendency to always consider the other point of view. In general I don't get angry at people... If a person behaves in a way that irritates me or hurts me then I'll usually find that there is an underlying reason for them to be having a bad day. Moon trine Neptune also adds to that trait I guess, as well as the Moon-Mercury and Mercury-Neptune aspects.

I can't really give you any advice as for how to rein in that anger. My anger erupts and then five minutes later it's just gone, it doesn't slowly build or hang around. I have a 'let it go' sort of attitude to anything that upsets me, but I suppose that isn't so easy to adopt unless it's already in your nature.


Even if the "let it go" mentality is not there, I will have to build it.

I think in past years i used to easily let things go. But that came to an end after varsity. I began to be more expressive of my discontent.

Now with the transits, i feel as if things at times come to a head. The anger seethes and stays in place for days(Pluto/Sat trans). Gym does help.

But i wonder if I am goading it on by responding through exhertional force on the body rather than chilling out? It does feel better to kick, scream or punch at something than thinking "zen" thoughts tbh.

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posted January 09, 2020 06:36 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Nadja     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Even if the "let it go" mentality is not there, I will have to build it.

I think in past years i used to easily let things go. But that came to an end after varsity. I began to be more expressive of my discontent.

Now with the transits, i feel as if things at times come to a head. The anger seethes and stays in place for days(Pluto/Sat trans). Gym does help.

But i wonder if I am goading it on by responding through exhertional force on the body rather than chilling out? It does feel better to kick, scream or punch at something than thinking "zen" thoughts tbh.


Since my first Saturn return I feel like I'm expressing my Mars more than in the past. I'm asserting myself and my opinions more easily, it hasn't impacted my temper though.

Idk, I dont think being physically active will egg your anger on further. In my teens, when I erupted a bit more often, I always needed some sort of exhertion of force before I could get over it. I had an old broken tv remote that made a very satisfying crashing sound when thrown to the floor, anger just went poof! But that's me...

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posted January 09, 2020 08:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Seline     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Aries, mood swings and reactions you described are textbook Moon Mars square. My Cancer Moon squares Aries Mars and I need serious physical exertion to calm myself down. I used to fist fight a lot in my younger days, because I didn't know how to properly articulate my anger. I've tried over the years several zen-like approaches, that failed big time. After some counseling, it turned out that aggression is my natural expression (Aries Mars, of course). So, I channel it through contact sport, like kick-box. Or any other sport that rises my adrenaline. And sex, being the easiest way.
Now, my Mars is trined by Saturn Uranus conjunction - outbursts were always out of blue, triggered by various and often times nonsensical things. It took a while to master my Saturn (after Saturn Return) and to reduce the frequency and intensity of my mood swings. Fortunately, my poor Moon is in Grand Water trine with Pluto and Mercury. I'm hyper receptive to my surroundings (read this as constantly irritated), but I have enough common sense and empathy not to beat people to the pulp. And the transits...

Now, your Libra Mars might not need to go to that extreme for you to feel better. But that's how I cope.

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posted January 09, 2020 08:14 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for charlie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It ain’t me!
Mars conj Asc, parallel Pluto, sextile Uranus.

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posted January 09, 2020 08:32 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aries23Degrees     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Nadja:
Since my first Saturn return I feel like I'm expressing my Mars more than in the past. I'm asserting myself and my opinions more easily, it hasn't impacted my temper though.

Idk, I dont think being physically active will egg your anger on further. In my teens, when I erupted a bit more often, I always needed some sort of exhertion of force before I could get over it. I had an old broken tv remote that made a very satisfying crashing sound when thrown to the floor, anger just went poof! But that's me...


Thanks you for that. I think I will stick with punching it out instead of hugging it out atthe gym. Lol

There is something satisfying about beating my punching bag with a baseball bat and swearing at it ie."f*** capitalism!" "f*** oppressors and bullies" etc.

On the upside; my body looks fantastic.

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posted January 09, 2020 08:33 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AriesLilith     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have Taurus Mars oppose Scorpio Pluto and square Aqua Jupiter. I’m like a train building up momentum when it comes to anger. If I pass a threshold I might get physical, but it rarely happens unless I’m physically cornered and overwhelmed unable to get away to cool down.
By physical I mean hitting on an object nearby or throwing whatever was on my hand to the floor, never aggression with people.

I don’t usually hold up anger for long, unless something emotional that matters to me and then I’d overthink about it.

I have an Aries stellium of Sun, Moon, Mercury and Venus, with the last three conjunct. I think the conjunction helps with the more docile temperament lol.

My tsquare also has trines and sextiles from AC and Neptune, so maybe it softens it.

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posted January 09, 2020 08:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for AriesLilith     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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On the upside; my body looks fantastic. [/B]

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posted January 09, 2020 08:40 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aries23Degrees     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Seline:
Aries, mood swings and reactions you described are textbook Moon Mars square. My Cancer Moon squares Aries Mars and I need serious physical exertion to calm myself down. I used to fist fight a lot in my younger days, because I didn't know how to properly articulate my anger. I've tried over the years several zen-like approaches, that failed big time. After some counseling, it turned out that aggression is my natural expression (Aries Mars, of course). So, I channel it through contact sport, like kick-box. Or any other sport that rises my adrenaline. And sex, being the easiest way.
Now, my Mars is trined by Saturn Uranus conjunction - outbursts were always out of blue, triggered by various and often times nonsensical things. It took a while to master my Saturn (after Saturn Return) and to reduce the frequency and intensity of my mood swings. Fortunately, my poor Moon is in Grand Water trine with Pluto and Mercury. I'm hyper receptive to my surroundings (read this as constantly irritated), but I have enough common sense and empathy not to beat people to the pulp. And the transits...

Now, your Libra Mars might not need to go to that extreme for you to feel better. But that's how I cope.


This aspect seems to have no bounds in my chart.Maybe because Mars rules my Asc and so aspects to Mars are heightened?

I am totally with you with everything you said. Physical exercise is the best.

Btw,my Libra Mars loves to argue. I want to win. With this transit, I wont let up.Its like I HAVE to. Even in everyday situations.

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posted January 09, 2020 09:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aries23Degrees     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by AriesLilith:
I have Taurus Mars oppose Scorpio Pluto and square Aqua Jupiter. I’m like a train building up momentum when it comes to anger. If I pass a threshold I might get physical, but it rarely happens unless I’m physically cornered and overwhelmed unable to get away to cool down.
By physical I mean hitting on an object nearby or throwing whatever was on my hand to the floor, never aggression with people.

I don’t usually hold up anger for long, unless something emotional that matters to me and then I’d overthink about it.

I have an Aries stellium of Sun, Moon, Mercury and Venus, with the last three conjunct. I think the conjunction helps with the more docile temperament lol.

My tsquare also has trines and sextiles from AC and Neptune, so maybe it softens it.


Moon/Mercury and Venus are conjunt in Aries? And you think that it softens it? How can it when all the energies involved are in Mars ruled sign?

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posted January 09, 2020 12:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I used to have a mild temperament. I still can, but I have to watch myself.

Sometimes, I find that there's something else underneath it all, like the need to cry. Last night, I was feeling a bit anxious, and I finally gave in and cried just a bit, because the anxiety was starting to get to me. I was able to fall asleep not long after.

Oh: Moon conjunct Venus, and they square a usually mild Mars (in Pisces). Uranus is all over my chart. Something else can distract me, or lighten me up, or it just helps to go easy. Moon/Venus trine Pluto = not as harsh as the square.

I think I'm done with Pluto squaring my Mercury. Pluto is still starting to square my Ceres/Chiron/Sun, though. After that, it will square my Uranus/ascendant. I'm not looking forward to that.

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posted January 09, 2020 02:01 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dumuzi     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
it takes a lot for me to lose my temper, but when i do i have a fairly bad one

it's usually years of build up and only certain people, i can come off as harsh and be argumentative without actually having any feelings one way or another though too

i just like to make noise and that's more just boredom and a need for stimulation though

but actual feelings and anger etc isn't really a thing i get unless im close to or around someone a lot and there's a lot of build up or i really care about them

i think my moon-mercury-uranus-venus kite is what does it, and even though i have a moon-mars-venus t-square my mars is cap so that's probably why it takes so long in spite of me having an aries moon

i'm pretty apathetic in general though because i don't see most things as worth having a lot of feelings over

when it comes to causes and whatnot i like to argue but every so often i like to argue from perspectives i dont even have just to watch someone i actually agree with defend the shared view

i dont tend to take most disagreements seriously even if i go through the motions (i tend to respond to people in a way that reflects their emotions rather than my own not sure if that's got to do with sun-neptune or my moon being on my descendant) which is why i pretty much never hold grudges

it takes a lot for me to cut someone out and i only do it if i know that the future will just be detrimental longterm

people irl in particular always tell me i'm the most laid back person they've ever met (been told it's to a fault sometimes) and in general i'm pretty accepting and most things don't get much of a reaction from me

i'll make jokes before i actually get angry and tend to let things slide because i'd rather not deal with them

i don't stay angry for very long at all, if i feel something it usually goes away quick and things that linger usually have to do with the issue itself being persistent but i wont feel things at the same level longterm

i'll go from 0-100 then back down to 0 and just keep the issue in mind at worst

i'm not passive aggressive though if im not going to act on something then i'm not going to allow it to color my interactions and i cant hold things in well anyway unless it's for someone else's sake

when i dont want to deal with anyone it's usually because im sad in which case i go off to spend some time alone doing whatever but otherwise eh

i can have fun with someone i got ****** off at same day no big deal

i think the best thing to getting a hold of feelings is mindfulness and being present at any given moment most of the **** you feel doesnt even matter and all feelings pass

so learn to be fully present and then maybe you'll chill out

edit: doesnt even matter at any given moment* my bad

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posted January 09, 2020 02:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Seline     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
This aspect seems to have no bounds in my chart.Maybe because Mars rules my Asc and so aspects to Mars are heightened?

Definite yes. Also, this - "I am too passionate and too involved in things I can't control. And that seems to fuel the anger so much.I need to learn to chill out(without the weed)"

You PERFECTLY described the core issue of challenged Mars in Libra. I can only guess how much it reflects on all aspects of your life, being of course your Asc ruler.

I don't know the rest of your chart, but maybe that conflicting energy is just what you need for everything else to function properly?
This is off topic, but it might be useful:
My IX house Pisces Mercury on MC needs my prickly Mars. Especially because of grand water trine, which is great for creativity but it often brings introverted, docile, lazy energy (making detriment stronger). Mars power ups my Mercury from XI via tight trine with VI house Sag, further energizing Jupiter - and Pisces Mercury is always boosted if Jupiter is present in the same sign (like mine). Also, XI to VI is analog to Uranus Mercury connection and that is another power up. My Pisces Mercury resembles itself in terms of heightened creativity (I'm an artist by profession), everything else is Aquarian/Sagettarian theme. So, I might rage for days, but my greatest professional accomplishments were achieved while being pissy.


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Btw,my Libra Mars loves to argue.

Of course it does Just let it all out. It's way better than spending the day peeling off wall paint. Current transits make me renovate. I'm becoming one with the scraper.

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posted January 09, 2020 02:21 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Dumuzi, I can have a good time with someone I was angry with the same day, too. I guess that's what's generally said about those with Aries placements: emotions blow over fast. Whenever I'm feeling bothered by things like politics, or something in the news, my dad says, "that's why I never listen to that **** ." I respond with, "We need to listen to that **** ! We need to pay attention." We tend to bicker, then have a laugh, then bicker again.

I've heard that you need five good things, to balance out something bad - people in general need this. So when things are crazy in the world, Aries23, it's understandable (at least to me) that it isn't balanced, when things seem to be getting worse, that you're going to have a reaction. Especially when there's really no excuse for something (like racism).

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posted January 09, 2020 02:27 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for anonymidarkness     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
If I'm having a bad day, every shjt makes me angry, even Trump's buttface, or if i havent done physical stuff too, I just need a bit of conflict lets say, and then i calm down, chillax totally...

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posted January 09, 2020 03:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aries23Degrees     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by teasel:
I used to have a mild temperament. I still can, but I have to watch myself.

Sometimes, I find that there's something else underneath it all, like the need to cry. Last night, I was feeling a bit anxious, and I finally gave in and cried just a bit, because the anxiety was starting to get to me. I was able to fall asleep not long after.

Oh: Moon conjunct Venus, and they square a usually mild Mars (in Pisces). Uranus is all over my chart. Something else can distract me, or lighten me up, or it just helps to go easy. Moon/Venus trine Pluto = not as harsh as the square.

I think I'm done with Pluto squaring my Mercury. Pluto is still starting to square my Ceres/Chiron/Sun, though. After that, it will square my Uranus/ascendant. I'm not looking forward to that.


Pluto on my Mercury/Moon/Mars has been the most profound transit to date. Total mental obsessions to the EXTREME.

But I am convinced that Pluto was only adding momentum to what was already there.In that Merc in 9th in the mix was instrumental to the mental fatigue and subsequent insomnia suffered during the peak of that transit.

Moon in 3rd house people should limit/TV or over-exposure to gratuitous things-whether violent, verbal or sexual.

The Moon is extremely sensitive to stimulus when in the 3rd-as everything (neg and pos)is soaked up mentally and regurgitated during the dream state and the inner dialogue (I experienced this vividly during this transit)

Now the effects of Pluto on Mars is even more irritabiliy. It just adds to what's there.

Uranus can break off obsessions and/or interrupt momentum-especially when it is going nowhere.

But then again(recalling my own unfortunate experience with Uranus transit on my natal T-square) Uranus can also cause sudden oubursts & exacerbate already tenous situations.

Good luck with Pluto's momentum on Asc. People will get the momentum of the "unedited" version of you.

If you are considered obnoxious & "spicy"(like i am),this transit will add to it.

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posted January 09, 2020 03:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aries23Degrees     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
I think the best thing to getting a hold of feelings is mindfulness and being present at any given moment most of the **** you feel doesnt even matter and all feelings pass

so learn to be fully present and then maybe you'll chill out

edit: doesnt even matter at any given moment* my bad


I appreciate that Dumuzi.I think its the mindfulness of knowing that all feelings pass.I dont have that

I think your Asc in Libra overshadows the impulsive Moon in Aries in your case. You detach.

I have Asc in Aries & as I stated initially, emotions(passion)are right at the door from the get go.

There are very few things that i get engaged in (true).But when engaged, I am "all in".And with the current transit,it seems detachment is unlikely when someone tramples on those things.

Whats strange now is that its not just a few things that are annoying. Everything just seems to irk me of late.

God help me.

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posted January 09, 2020 03:32 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aries23Degrees     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Seline:
Of course it does Just let it all out. It's way better than spending the day peeling off wall paint. Current transits make me renovate. I'm becoming one with the scraper.

Will let it all out for sure.

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posted January 09, 2020 04:45 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AriesLilith     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Aries23Degrees:
Moon/Mercury and Venus are conjunt in Aries? And you think that it softens it? How can it when all the energies involved are in Mars ruled sign?


Aries can be sweet too! In fact, I have Sweet conjunct the stellium. But then Eris as well, and BML too. And Eros and Psyche and Pallas, Zeus, Kaali. And so on, it’s a party there.

My Aries side is more of being initiating, proactive and impulsive, but it’s not really aggressive I think. Aspects are very relevant, maybe conflicting aspects can generate frustration and more intensity.

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posted January 09, 2020 04:52 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Aries23Degrees     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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I've heard that you need five good things, to balance out something bad - people in general need this. So when things are crazy in the world, Aries23, it's understandable (at least to me) that it isn't balanced, when things seem to be getting worse, that you're going to have a reaction. Especially when there's really no excuse for something (like racism).

My sister thinks it crazy that I don't read articles on Facebook that attribute to the said topic(racism).

The problem is that I get too involved i.e are the people who oppressed others sorry? What punishment was levelled against them? Have things gotten better?

I end up researching stories to see how they ended. And to see whether there was indeed peace.

I recall reading an article (I regret it so) about a girl who was raped by her Father and Uncle in a violent effort to "correct" her sexual orientation.

I recall being so emotional and crying for her as well as all other women facing abuse. I wrote a small passage in honor of her as well as all women who face the unfortunate oppression from males.

I followed up the article to see what consequences the father and Uncle faced.To be soothed by some act of justice to make this all right etc. But all the article said was that the situation was under investigation ???...no closure.Nothin!

It is like the media to encourage an emotive reaction from the public.Then leave them hanging and raw.

I think after that experience, I realised that I need to be mindful of what I give my attention to. I can't feel bad enough/angry enough for victims to have crimes against them reversed. I cry a lot about stuff that angers me.Then the world looks more hostile.

I have never experienced a feeling of helplessness quite like this during this transit. Its like an unending state of sadness for what people encounter out there.


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posted January 09, 2020 05:07 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dumuzi     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Dumuzi, I can have a good time with someone I was angry with the same day, too. I guess that's what's generally said about those with Aries placements: emotions blow over fast. Whenever I'm feeling bothered by things like politics, or something in the news, my dad says, "that's why I never listen to that **** ." I respond with, "We need to listen to that **** ! We need to pay attention." We tend to bicker, then have a laugh, then bicker again.

I've heard that you need five good things, to balance out something bad - people in general need this. So when things are crazy in the world, Aries23, it's understandable (at least to me) that it isn't balanced, when things seem to be getting worse, that you're going to have a reaction. Especially when there's really no excuse for something (like racism).


yeah i don't tend to take things to heart to a point where i let it affect everything, it's a double edged sword though sometimes because i'll tolerate **** i probably shouldn't because i can still have good points with certain people

so while it has its benefits it's also not always the best

but being fair most good things have their bad side and vice versa

if someone can get me to laugh while i'm really ****** or distract me that's usually all it takes to end something

@Aries23Degrees

for what it's worth that's something you can learn, when i used to deal with depression pretty heavy it was something i really needed to focus on and i don't have that issue anymore

takes a lot of work and energy to get to that place but i imagine if it works for depression it would for any other feeling cant see why not

i detach hard yeah, but i wws also trained to in a lot of ways as a kid (not always positive) so i'm sort of learning now when and where to place that and balance it out

opposite issue

this guy i've been getting to know has an aries ascendant and a libra mars and he's pretty ******* mellow and emotionally guarded but that could be the cap moon that's doing that

we can usually work things out and find a middle ground easy even when disagreements have been fairly big

i have a hard time relating because it's very rare for me to not be able to pull back and weigh whether or not my feelings are worth feeling, but maybe in your case with this transit youre just meant to feel those things and work on finding an outlet or direction that's constructive

detachment isnt always best anyway, maybe in your case you need to find that balance through proper outlets that serve purpose and get you somewhere

like actively tackling social injustices or whatever the ****

to me it sounds like you're restless and that's what's making things so annoying

at least once **** passes you might be good right?

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posted January 09, 2020 07:19 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
^^ I was going to suggest active involvement, too. I need to do that. It’s been getting to me that Ohio still has a loophole in the law, allowing spouses to rape their partner, if the other person is incapacitated. I posted about it on our Nextdoor app, last year, got two responses, saying we needed to vote them out. The republicans who voted in favour of keeping it (or stopped the new law from even making it to the floor to be voted on). I’m still so angry that it’s legal, and that republicans kept it, because they agree with it, don’t care, or think their voters agree with it. It’s just scary. I want to post about it again, but don’t know how to get some people to differentiate between keeping something “because it ****** the libs off” and getting rid of something, for the good of everyone. Ohio is messed up anyway - I live in the middle of the political crazy - but this is too much.

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posted January 09, 2020 09:20 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for AriesLilith     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
There are certain things that are very hard to tolerate. The world is far from perfection, even thought some of us are lucky to live in better places.
Sometimes I wonder if I can do more, but then i’m selfish that I wouldn’t be able to sacrifice my own happiness to dedicate to causes.
Although besides detachment, I’d like to think that each of us can contribute to the world in different ways. Working with technology, I believe what I do contributes to better lives, and maybe with the better quality and efficiency, people have more freetime to learn and find their own interests, like dedicating to causes.
Even if it’s a small drop of contribution in this ocean, the ocean is a sum of drops. Each of us can contribute with our talents in different fields, which directly or indirectly contributes for more.

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posted January 10, 2020 03:56 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for hearttreasure     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
The sensitivity comes from the Moon, and the Mars react on it. Moon/Mars square makes it worse.

My younger sister has Moon in Cap and Mars in Libra. She is V.E.R.Y passive aggressive. I don't have good relationship with her since I decide to marry my husband (funny, he also is a Cap moon and she hates him). I don't have problem with her tho but she makes a problem between us just because she is angry I make my parents disappointed marrying the one who doesn't even treat me right. She gets even when I don't fight him to get a divorce paper, she doesn't like me choosing a more peaceful way. She becomes stepping into my boundaries and from my point of view, she also becomes a provocateur between me and my parents which makes me put A LOT of distance at this moment to my parents. I have been through a lot and I don't want to make it worse between me and my parents.

What's wrong with those Libra Mars.

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Originally posted by Dumuzi:
it takes a lot for me to lose my temper, but when i do i have a fairly bad one

it's usually years of build up and only certain people, i can come off as harsh and be argumentative without actually having any feelings one way or another though too

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This is ME too. Do you have Sag Mars?

My Sag Mars is in 12th house, so it takes waaay longer until erupting. Most of the time I chill. But it's important for me to surround myself with positive emotions/people (I have Pisces Venus) or I can easily be drained and you won't have a chill time with me as I will have some preach at you or the easy way, I am gone like a ghost without guilty.

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