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Topic: Does Venus in Cancer make someone obsessive? Or am I overthinking?
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Leo-Cancer98
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From: Toronto,Ontario,Canada
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posted August 26, 2020 10:58 AM
  
I just realized how I think about my crush quite often, and I don’t like being this way. Could it be because I have Mercury in the 3rd House, because I have a Cancer Venus-Mars conjunction at 0’20 degrees, or because I have Pluto In The 5th House, 1.3 degree away from The 6th House?IP: Logged |
charlie
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posted August 26, 2020 12:01 PM
I have Cancer Venus 11H. Don’t think that Venus makes me obsessive!? On the other hand I have Uranus Scorpio trine Cancer Mercury and also Mercury sq Pluto and I DO like to dig deep into subjects which someone might mistake for obsession. I’m just not a “surface dweller”. *shrugs* IP: Logged |
Kannon McAfee
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posted August 26, 2020 02:00 PM
No, Venus in Cancer is not enough to indicate a person has obsessive tendencies. But you are talking about a crush, which is a different proposition from plain obsessiveness. And Venus-Mars people do go on a bit much with the romance and crushes. Main factor in obsessiveness is seen in your Mercury contra-parallel Pluto aspect. ------------------
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DualGemV2
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posted August 26, 2020 02:55 PM
I think Venus in Cancer tends to be more sensitive and dream/think about what there ideal relationship is.Also..I know your a Leo sun, Cancer Venus believe it or not that combo is actually vary common. Even my neighbor who lives in the next condo unit/suite next door has that combo. She lives alone with her loyal dog whom I play with time to time or he greets me as I enter/exit as we have a common exterior entrance-way, that's actually how I make chit-chat with her. I think she does dream of her ideal man but at the same time if her "knight" never arrives she has her loyal dog, similar to you. My Planets
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athenegoddess
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posted August 26, 2020 03:52 PM
I think it could. Venus conjunct Mars in Cancer may have an unhealthy love life, but a lively one. Also transit Pluto is opposing this, it may create obsessive tendencies and reminiscing.IP: Logged |
NxNW
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posted August 27, 2020 03:10 PM
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Originally posted by Kannon McAfee:
No, Venus in Cancer is not enough to indicate a person has obsessive tendencies. But you are talking about a crush, which is a different proposition from plain obsessiveness. And Venus-Mars people do go on a bit much with the romance and crushes. Main factor in obsessiveness is seen in your Mercury contra-parallel Pluto aspect.
I didn't know that Mercury factored into obsessiveness? I always read about natal Pluto-Moon aspects as an indicator. I have Pluto ☌ Saturn in the 3-H in Libra, along with a Gem moon in 11-H and I find myself to be very obsessive sometimes. And not necessarily out of infatuation either. Sometimes it can just be an intense curiosity, like I NEED to "understand" this person.
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Stawr
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posted August 27, 2020 04:53 PM
One of my friends just happens to have Venus in Cancer, and the level she wants to take our friendship to makes me uncomfortable sometimes.
Until I set boundaries, she expressed wanting attention from me multiple times daily after knowing her for a few years.I'm in a place in my life where I am not devoting that much time to friends. When I was finishing my last classes she knew to contact me less. About once a week on weekends. Though this was asking her to reach out way less than before... This is way more attention than I give my other friends that I like better.
She has a husband too. She knows I am done with school and I talked to her a few days in a row. I am not responding to all of her texts because it just signals her to contact me more, she has very little self control. While I am not in college anymore....I'm still busy, want time to myself, and have a life. I apologize to all of you. I know plenty of Venus Cancers who have not been obsessive. I think it's the combination of her Sun, Venus, Mercury Cancer portraying the clingy stereotype.
Her Aries Moon gives her the bad stereotypes on an emotional level of being impulsive, selfish, impatient.
And Leo Mars has the bad stereotype of needing attention. Plus there must be some transit happening in her chart because she use to be way less needy and normal. IP: Logged |
CardinalT-Square
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posted August 28, 2020 06:33 AM
Not as much as those of us with Venus/Pluto aspects, or those people who have Venus in Scorpio conjunct Pluto, ooohhhh wwweeee are those ViS's intense when it comes to romance.IP: Logged |
Odette
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posted August 28, 2020 07:11 AM
Not if he was the right guy for you....Cancer needs re-assurance... If you're feeling obsessive then this guy is probably not the best communicator.. and not able to make you feel safe. If you don't feel good and happy with someone... mainly in the beginning... don't force it. You shouldn't feel this way... There are other fish in the sea! quote:
Or am I overthinking?
This is the Pisces/Aries Venus right? I think you're overthinking things and asking a lot about him... because you feel unsafe. You can't directly ask him.. and communicate properly with him... so .. something is missing...and making you uncomfortable..
He's not being upfront and genuine... That's my impression... IP: Logged |
goatcat
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posted August 31, 2020 06:43 PM
I agree with Stawr and can relate to that experience.
Cancer is stereotypically clingy and terrible with boundaries. Cancer will with have boundaries too high or none at all. Cancer tends to go to extremes as well. So yeah I would say your Venus in Cancer can be obsessive. I think this is common for water signs in general anyway. And I’m not biased, my Mars is in Cancer and I’m clingy as hell. I blame my obsessiveness on my Scorpio Moon. Hehe IP: Logged |
Dhyana
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posted August 31, 2020 10:42 PM
I agree with Kannon. Obsessiveness is not characteristic of Venus in Cancer, in and of itself. It may be due to a natal Pluto in hard aspect to Venus, or a Pluto transit to Venus. Other than this, what you're experiencing may not be obsession. I believe having the person we love often in mind goes with being in love. IP: Logged |
Hikaru29
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posted August 31, 2020 11:57 PM
Isn't it normal to be thinking of your crush often? When I love someone I think of him day & night despite not having watery Moon/Venus or Pluto aspecting them and I can get really emotional with them as well which is probably my Moon in 7H opp Venus. IP: Logged |
Randall
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posted September 07, 2020 04:52 PM
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Leo-Cancer98
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posted September 28, 2020 12:39 PM
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Originally posted by Hikaru29:
Isn't it normal to be thinking of your crush often? When I love someone I think of him day & night despite not having watery Moon/Venus or Pluto aspecting them and I can get really emotional with them as well which is probably my Moon in 7H opp Venus.
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Randall
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posted October 08, 2020 03:34 PM
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solarbry
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posted October 09, 2020 01:32 PM
I haven’t seen the obsessive, dedicated stereotype in the Cancer venus people I know. All 3 that I’ve met have been unfaithful. 2 Leos and 1 Gemini. IP: Logged |
Leo-Cancer98
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posted October 12, 2020 12:58 PM
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Originally posted by Kannon McAfee:
No, Venus in Cancer is not enough to indicate a person has obsessive tendencies. But you are talking about a crush, which is a different proposition from plain obsessiveness. And Venus-Mars people do go on a bit much with the romance and crushes. Main factor in obsessiveness is seen in your Mercury contra-parallel Pluto aspect.
How does Mercury contra-parallel Pluto affect how my mind works? IP: Logged |
Leo-Cancer98
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posted October 12, 2020 01:03 PM
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Originally posted by Odette:
Not if he was the right guy for you....Cancer needs re-assurance... If you're feeling obsessive then this guy is probably not the best communicator.. and not able to make you feel safe. If you don't feel good and happy with someone... mainly in the beginning... don't force it. You shouldn't feel this way... There are other fish in the sea! This is the Pisces/Aries Venus right? I think you're overthinking things and asking a lot about him... because you feel unsafe. You can't directly ask him.. and communicate properly with him... so .. something is missing...and making you uncomfortable..
He's not being upfront and genuine... That's my impression...
Yes, it is the Pisces Sun guy with an unaspected Aries Venus guy! Our date last Saturday night was fantastic! IP: Logged |
Leo-Cancer98
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posted October 12, 2020 01:05 PM
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Originally posted by solarbry:
I haven’t seen the obsessive, dedicated stereotype in the Cancer venus people I know. All 3 that I’ve met have been unfaithful. 2 Leos and 1 Gemini.
Oh no, did they have any personal planets in Sagittarius or Aquarius? Anything in the 5th or 7th House? IP: Logged |
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