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Topic: Networking sites
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Lara
Knowflake Posts: 1253
From: aspideronmars
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 13, 2009 07:06 AM
 
Are all you guys on FaceBook? If so, are you friends with your other halves? I'm asking cos l am really beginning to believe that FB ruins relationships!! There is way too much temptation and one can so easily read people's comments the wrong way!  What do you all think? IP: Logged |
wheels of cheese
Knowflake Posts: 461
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Registered: May 2009
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posted May 13, 2009 07:40 AM
There's no way on god's earth I'd be friends with blokey on there. I'd leave. Not because there's anything dodgy going on but I think it is easy to misinterpret people's remarks. I wouldn't want to read comments on his page and I wouldn't want him to read mine. I'm fairly closed-mouthed about him on there but there are old photos of me with old boyfriends and it might be awkward. I am so careful about what I write on my ex-boyfriend's page as he's in a relationship and I would never want to cause friction there, not that there is friction but you have to be respectful. IP: Logged |
Writesomething
Knowflake Posts: 1038
From: meet me in montauk
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 13, 2009 07:46 AM
I am not on FB, or any of those network sites. I do know what you mean about reading comments and taking them the wrong way. I think it does destroy relationships and causes a lot of drama into people's lives. I think nobody should be on those sites too much, but esp if youre in a relationship.IP: Logged |
Coffee
Knowflake Posts: 688
From: Leeds
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 13, 2009 08:34 AM
If I had a partner, I would be having her on facebook for sure.Comments can be taken the wrong way, yes. All it needs is clarification. That and knowing the person, to get an idea of when they might be joking (I do this quite a lot) or being serious. IP: Logged |
blue moon
Knowflake Posts: 608
From: U.K
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 13, 2009 09:42 AM
Got to say, Lara, I have heard of a couple of incidents where people misbehave and feelings get hurt. Schoolyard behaviour, nasty comments, that kind of thing. I can't be doing. IP: Logged |
Yin
Knowflake Posts: 480
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 13, 2009 09:45 AM
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MysticMelody
Moderator Posts: 136
From:
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 13, 2009 11:47 AM
I think it is great for shining a great blinding spotlight on how little your loved ones actually "Know" you. Facing reality is bound to cause some discomfort. I, for example, have been "taken wrong" by my family and I'm feeling judged and unknown at this very moment. But the other option is for us all to die without ever really knowing each other so whatever. This too shall pass.
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cpn_edgar_winner
Knowflake Posts: 961
From: Toledo, OH
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 13, 2009 11:58 AM
there's real life and there's the internet. which isn't real life. I rarely use my facebook , just family on there, but I regularly use myspace with friends, buddies and the whole nine yards. it's all people i know and not just random people or random guys thatarem yfriends, so i guess it could be different.. strangers can't look at my stuff becasue there are privacy settings. i think if my fiance had a question about internet friends all he would have to do is ask me and i would clarify whatever. it boils down to trust. the onlytime i was upset about someones internet stuff was when i didn't trust taht person anyway. so it really is just a trust issue. i mean if it is some guy saying your hot, your man should be glad to have a hottie, i think you can set your comments to approval anyway, so nothing gets posted without you saying ok.not sure about facebook, seems less private, which is why i don't do it so much. the wall thing is wierd.if it really caused a problem for my relationsghip, i would consider ditching the thing, it isn't worth losing someone you love over or having huge disputes over. i also would look carefully at the relationship, as controlling behaivior or manipulating behavior doesn't really fly with me, i don't have enough time to do what i want and deal with that too. it's just the internet. IP: Logged |
katatonic
Knowflake Posts: 1205
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Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 13, 2009 12:12 PM
yes i really feel like facebook is a fishbowl. i'm always getting chat on there when i really don't feel like gabbing! myspace affords a lot more options for control of accessibility. though maybe that is just my ignorance in action?that said it would be silly to put anything up that you didn't want the world to see. apparently the cops have caught many crims through checking out their myspaces. fancy bragging about your exploits in public! which is what it is basically... IP: Logged |
taurusvirgoleolady1974
Knowflake Posts: 100
From: a previous life
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 13, 2009 09:24 PM
my SO and i are both on there. it is really a maturity thing. you are right, all you need is a little clarity. never let facebook break you up. look at whats real life. i hope it is the relationship, not comments that really matter. pick and choose. IP: Logged |
SpooL
Knowflake Posts: 48
From: Toronto/Ottawa,Canada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 15, 2009 05:58 AM
I find facebook is more geared towards college students, its more for networking for them.I have a facebook account and I use it to stay in touch with some of my classmates. Other, then that I whould never have one. katatonic, I agree it drives me nuts when people put personal things on facebook or on any networking site, once you put something online its not private anymore. No one owns the web, just don't put anything online thats personal if you don't want people to see it. IP: Logged |
mercuranian
Knowflake Posts: 126
From: the 12th house
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 15, 2009 09:41 PM
katatonic,You can go under chat options and click offline. This will prevent unwanted chat seekers. I Always use it on facebook. I too was getting sick of being "coerced" into chatting!  : IP: Logged |
Deux*Antares
Knowflake Posts: 391
From: No Permanent Address
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 17, 2009 11:51 AM
I'm not on FB. But I'm thinking about joining this:
http://enemybook.info/ IP: Logged |
Lara
Knowflake Posts: 1253
From: aspideronmars
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 17, 2009 02:01 PM
HA HA HA LOVE IT!!!! IP: Logged |
MoonWitch
Knowflake Posts: 87
From:
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 17, 2009 10:46 PM
Yes, I have a Facebook and a MySpace. Yes, I'm friends with my SO on both - of course. I would think it really ODD to not be friends with him if he was also a member.For the most part, it's good. If a comment is left that I wonder about then I ask him - simple enough. I do get aggravated that he doesn't have any pictures of me on his page, though. He only has one picture of himself. He doesn't 'get' why that would bug me. IP: Logged |
Deux*Antares
Knowflake Posts: 391
From: No Permanent Address
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 18, 2009 02:52 AM
Moonwitch, what's your SO's sign?IP: Logged |
Writesomething
Knowflake Posts: 1038
From: meet me in montauk
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 18, 2009 08:04 AM
Hes a scorpio, from what I remember right moon?
Scorpios dont like to share that sort of info with others. I noticed the more important you are to them, the more they shield you from others(pictures, etc). He doesnt want to share you with others.  IP: Logged |
future_uncertain
Knowflake Posts: 100
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Registered: May 2009
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posted May 18, 2009 08:09 AM
My hubby and I are both on FB. Both of us have exes on there, but it's really no big deal. Like MoonWitch said, if anything raises a question, I just ask.IP: Logged |
MoonWitch
Knowflake Posts: 87
From:
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted May 20, 2009 09:25 AM
Yes, he's a Scorpio  I guess that puts it in a slightly different light. IP: Logged |
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