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Topic: Things like this are why I have a lot of anger towards women
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aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 12343 From: Rent Free in Grahma male's head Registered: Jan 2012
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posted July 23, 2021 01:57 PM
Two of the main things that make me the most frustrated when I interact with women is how they lie to me and waste my time. I just had an extremely frustrating conversation with a woman that culminated in me blocking her. This situation is a good example of how women mistreat me.I talked to her for well over a week. I was completely honest about who I am and what my intentions are and I also told her where I live, which is about 45 minutes from her. Well today, she told me that she isn't interested in meeting because I live too far away from her. I literally told the airhead where I live the first evening we talked. Again, this was well over a week ago. Now, women have the right to decline dates. I just wish they wouldn't waste my time. In this case, she should have announced to me that the distance between us was an issue that first evening. Why is being a decent human being so difficult for so many people? If you aren't interested in actually meeting someone you shouldn't be talking to them for over a week and wasting their time.
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ballerina Moderator Posts: 2353 From: A Place on Earth Registered: Feb 2014
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posted July 23, 2021 08:16 PM
I'm seeing a wall, A big wall...You've been hurt, and each time you've been hurt, you've reacted..what action did you take? Without even knowing, over time you built a wall that is hard to get through, you're protecting yourself for good reason! Right? It's human conditioning, and we all project our dream-illusion on others.. because we've learned from our parents, who learned from their parents.. At this point it is human contamination... Their truth dream-illusion has been forced upon us... I want you to know, that there is that great girl out there for you, but with your wall you might miss her.. We have never been separated from the one that completes us, I have finally learned this, I experience its Magic... Through connection to God Source... I no longer shall suffer over and over and over again... Forgive yourself Forgive all free yourself from all the pain. It's not easy..know, we are our own worst enemy..judging ourselves, and then suffering.. Time to change what we're thinking, because this is The World of Illusion I love you God loves you Your other half loves you, make sure you meet her halfway, break down that wall of protection and open your Heart! In our Soul form we all Love all, we are Love and Light! ------------------ All my love, with all my Heart lotusheartone/Emeraldopal IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 12343 From: Rent Free in Grahma male's head Registered: Jan 2012
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posted July 23, 2021 09:22 PM
quote: Originally posted by ballerina: I'm seeing a wall, A big wall...You've been hurt, and each time you've been hurt, you've reacted..what action did you take? Without even knowing, over time you built a wall that is hard to get through, you're protecting yourself for good reason! Right? It's human conditioning, and we all project our dream-illusion on others.. because we've learned from our parents, who learned from their parents.. At this point it is human contamination... Their truth dream-illusion has been forced upon us... I want you to know, that there is that great girl out there for you, but with your wall you might miss her.. We have never been separated from the one that completes us, I have finally learned this, I experience its Magic... Through connection to God Source... I no longer shall suffer over and over and over again... Forgive yourself Forgive all free yourself from all the pain. It's not easy..know, we are our own worst enemy..judging ourselves, and then suffering.. Time to change what we're thinking, because this is The World of Illusion I love you God loves you Your other half loves you, make sure you meet her halfway, break down that wall of protection and open your Heart! In our Soul form we all Love all, we are Love and Light!
There is no one for me. The universe has made that very clear. I get treated like garbage every time I try to connect with a woman. Every. Single. Time. I'm not good looking and extroverted enough for this shallow and soulless age.
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 74125 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 24, 2021 06:57 AM
I am sorry you are going through this but I am gonna give my honest opinion. This is just part of the dating world for EVERYONE. You talk and you feel each other out and one or the other may not want to go further. The dating world is kind of brutal as is all of the world, really!------------------ Want to Read Simple, Fun,Sexy Articles on Astrology? Check Me Out, DUDE. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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ballerina Moderator Posts: 2353 From: A Place on Earth Registered: Feb 2014
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posted July 24, 2021 08:06 AM
I know I can't convince you! ..and truly, beauty is in the eye of the beholder... There are women out there that are not shallow, and it's a growing group. Looks aren't important, what is important is that person's heart and soul, Has nothing to do with looks... Beautiful people, most often, are not beautiful inside, they deal with thinking someone is with them just because of their looks! Until you change your mind, you shall continue the same/behavior that is causing you so much pain! Please think about what I've said, You are truly a beautiful Man, you just have to break down that wall, mental blocks from thoughts! ------------------ All my love, with all my Heart lotusheartone/Emeraldopal
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aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 12343 From: Rent Free in Grahma male's head Registered: Jan 2012
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posted July 24, 2021 11:57 AM
quote: Originally posted by Ami Anne: I am sorry you are going through this but I am gonna give my honest opinion. This is just part of the dating world for EVERYONE. You talk and you feel each other out and one or the other may not want to go further. The dating world is kind of brutal as is all of the world, really!
Yeah, that doesn't make me feel better.
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 74125 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 24, 2021 12:07 PM
I didn't think it would be I have to be honest. All of life is really like this except a dog!!------------------ Want to Read Simple, Fun,Sexy Articles on Astrology? Check Me Out, DUDE. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 12343 From: Rent Free in Grahma male's head Registered: Jan 2012
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posted July 24, 2021 10:45 PM
quote: Originally posted by Ami Anne: I didn't think it would be I have to be honest. All of life is really like this except a dog!!
Ami, Everyone struggles with something, but not everyone has the same struggles, nor do they struggle equally. Some people definitely have more problems than others. My niece is 10 years younger than me and she just got married to a really nice boy who comes from a rich family. He is ambitious and will definitely be successful because he comes from that environment. My niece struck gold with the second guy she dated. Compare that to my situation. I've had nothing but heartache and rejection. Ever since mom died nobody really reaches out to me. I'm just the invisible 12th house sun blending in with the walls.
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Ami Anne Moderator Posts: 74125 From: Pluto/house next to NickiG Registered: Sep 2010
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posted July 25, 2021 08:08 AM
I know this doesn't help but this small example is part of the pain of life. Even when people get married and all the rest, there is so much pain. I am not minimizing yours because you have a lot and some charts are harder than others but life seems to have pain as a theme. That is my opinion anyway.------------------ Want to Read Simple, Fun,Sexy Articles on Astrology? Check Me Out, DUDE. http://www.mychristianpsychic.com/
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Dumuzi Knowflake Posts: 3815 From: Registered: Oct 2018
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posted July 31, 2021 09:22 AM
i think i told you this before but looking for people through dating apps and the like doesn't work out for most people because the kind of people it draws are into shallow interactioni'm sorry you're having bad luck but don't put that sort of thing on all women and try to be more open about how you may meet someone worthwhile, don't necessarily look just let life unfold and even if you feel like meeting people online is your only option there's so many other ways to meet someone that aren't dating sites you don't need to be attractive (haven't seen you to judge your appearance but many people downgrade themselves) or extroverted (some people prefer introverts, i know i do, i have a huge soft spot for introverted nerdy guys 🤷♀️ and find most extroverts very unappealing and uninteresting really doubt that's just a me thing) it sounds counter intuitive to stop looking in order to find someone but things like that work
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aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 12343 From: Rent Free in Grahma male's head Registered: Jan 2012
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posted July 31, 2021 02:45 PM
quote: Originally posted by Dumuzi:
it sounds counter intuitive to stop looking in order to find someone but things like that work
That works if - and this is the key - you are a woman. In today's market, no woman is seeking a guy like me out. Any woman who is remotely attractive has a billion options. I'm just calling it like I see it. I have been on a a major university campus since the fall of 2017 and in all of the time since then I have only had one woman flirt with me and show interest in me. And she was an attention ho Scorpio who wanted to toy with my emotions. Trust me. I know how scarce the market is for me. I can't even lower my standards to meet a woman. It is what it is. IP: Logged |
teasel Knowflake Posts: 19785 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted July 31, 2021 03:09 PM
quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: That works if - and this is the key - you are a woman. In today's market, no woman is seeking a guy like me out. Any woman who is remotely attractive has a billion options. I'm just calling it like I see it.I have been on a a major university campus since the fall of 2017 and in all of the time since then I have only had one woman flirt with me and show interest in me. And she was an attention ho Scorpio who wanted to toy with my emotions. Trust me. I know how scarce the market is for me. I can't even lower my standards to meet a woman. It is what it is.
It doesn't work if you're a woman. We don't want just anyone who will have us. That isn't love. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 12343 From: Rent Free in Grahma male's head Registered: Jan 2012
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posted August 02, 2021 01:25 AM
quote: Originally posted by teasel: It doesn't work if you're a woman. We don't want just anyone who will have us. That isn't love.
I was responding to the notion that if I stop trying I might meet someone. That doesn't happen for men unless we are elite in terms of looks, money, or status. A woman can reasonably expect to be approached at some point because guys approach women. And you're just putting words in my mouth with all that other nonsense you said. IP: Logged |
teasel Knowflake Posts: 19785 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 02, 2021 01:30 AM
quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: I was responding to the notion that if I stop trying I might meet someone. That doesn't happen for men unless we are elite in terms of looks, money, or status. A woman can reasonably expect to be approached at some point because guys approach women. And you're just putting words in my mouth with all that other nonsense you said.
No, I'm not, and just because guys approach a woman, it doesn't mean they're good guys. You don't know what I've experienced. Stop assuming. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 12343 From: Rent Free in Grahma male's head Registered: Jan 2012
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posted August 02, 2021 09:29 PM
quote: Originally posted by teasel: No, I'm not, and just because guys approach a woman, it doesn't mean they're good guys. You don't know what I've experienced. Stop assuming.
I'm not assuming anything. I simply meant that women can reasonably expect to be approached. I didn't say anything about whether said guys were good or anything. It makes me angry how you try to twist my words. I'm not a woman. I actually say what I mean. This isn't complicated stuff. IP: Logged |
Dumuzi Knowflake Posts: 3815 From: Registered: Oct 2018
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posted August 03, 2021 09:15 PM
quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: That works if - and this is the key - you are a woman. In today's market, no woman is seeking a guy like me out. Any woman who is remotely attractive has a billion options. I'm just calling it like I see it.I have been on a a major university campus since the fall of 2017 and in all of the time since then I have only had one woman flirt with me and show interest in me. And she was an attention ho Scorpio who wanted to toy with my emotions. Trust me. I know how scarce the market is for me. I can't even lower my standards to meet a woman. It is what it is.
i meant it more like maybe you'll make friends and things can start from there instead 🤷♀️ not about getting approached just getting to know people and vice versa without the idea of a relationship as s possibility until later on IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 12343 From: Rent Free in Grahma male's head Registered: Jan 2012
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posted August 06, 2021 10:10 PM
quote: Originally posted by Dumuzi: i meant it more like maybe you'll make friends and things can start from there instead 🤷♀️ not about getting approached just getting to know people and vice versa without the idea of a relationship as s possibility until later on
I wish I had a female friend, but women don't show any interest in being my friend. I thought I might have made one last semester. I did a group project with a girl and we studied together and developed (at least I thought) a good rapport. She even mentioned us hanging out more this summer, but I have texted her twice with no reply. I always get ghosted or ignored. IP: Logged |
teasel Knowflake Posts: 19785 From: Registered: Apr 2009
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posted August 07, 2021 03:13 AM
quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: I'm not assuming anything. I simply meant that women can reasonably expect to be approached. I didn't say anything about whether said guys were good or anything. It makes me angry how you try to twist my words. I'm not a woman. I actually say what I mean. This isn't complicated stuff.
I don't twist your words. Try having some empathy for women, and you might eventually get a girlfriend. IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 12343 From: Rent Free in Grahma male's head Registered: Jan 2012
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posted August 07, 2021 04:18 PM
quote: Originally posted by teasel: I don't twist your words. Try having some empathy for women, and you might eventually get a girlfriend.
Sorry, but that's what it is when you reply to my post with a very emotional reaction to a position that I don't have, but you make it seem like I'm saying something different from what I meant to say. IP: Logged |
Dumuzi Knowflake Posts: 3815 From: Registered: Oct 2018
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posted August 14, 2021 09:50 PM
quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: I wish I had a female friend, but women don't show any interest in being my friend. I thought I might have made one last semester. I did a group project with a girl and we studied together and developed (at least I thought) a good rapport. She even mentioned us hanging out more this summer, but I have texted her twice with no reply. I always get ghosted or ignored.
i feel like i'm missing something here tbh, because it's odd to me that it's "all these other people with the problem" so consistently when the common denominator is you no offense because i have nothing against you but i'm wondering if you put off some vibe or whatever that's causing the issue do you have saturn in a ****** place or something? 🤔 IP: Logged |
PlutoWasHere Knowflake Posts: 150 From: The Nether World Registered: Mar 2021
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posted August 15, 2021 09:11 AM
Nobody is responsible for your happiness but you. Don’t like dating because of different expectations? Then don’t go dating. Really, what is the worst that can happen? You stay single forever? Because the Universe or at least every woman in the world is plotting against you? Well, just shake your fist angrily at the Universe and all of womanhood and get revenge by living a happy and fulfilling live without them. Their loss!Don’t be a victim. Go do stuff you actually like. Develop a new skill or go and meet with people who share the same interests. Become a volunteer and do grocery shopping for elderly neighbors or go guerrilla gardening. Whatever gets your freak on. Just try it, you might even like it... IP: Logged |
PlutoWasHere Knowflake Posts: 150 From: The Nether World Registered: Mar 2021
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posted August 15, 2021 10:46 AM
quote: Originally posted by Dumuzi: do you have saturn in a ****** place or something? 🤔
Dumuzi might have a point. I have my H7 Ruler conjunct Saturn. I didn't have any kind of romantic relationship until my first Saturn return. We married, had kids and now we're divorcing. Sh*t happens... IP: Logged |
aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 12343 From: Rent Free in Grahma male's head Registered: Jan 2012
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posted August 18, 2021 12:38 AM
quote: Originally posted by Dumuzi: i feel like i'm missing something here tbh, because it's odd to me that it's "all these other people with the problem" so consistently when the common denominator is youno offense because i have nothing against you but i'm wondering if you put off some vibe or whatever that's causing the issue do you have saturn in a ****** place or something? 🤔
You are putting words in my mouth when you say I said that women are the problem in this instance. It's nobody's fault that the social dynamics are the way they are. The reality is women have a lot of friends and dating prospects and most guys aren't even on the radar. IP: Logged |
charlie Knowflake Posts: 5167 From: Registered: Jun 2012
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posted August 18, 2021 08:49 AM
quote: Originally posted by aquaguy91: You are putting words in my mouth when you say I said that women are the problem in this instance. It's nobody's fault that the social dynamics are the way they are. The reality is women have a lot of friends and dating prospects and most guys aren't even on the radar.
Aquaguy, Dumuzi MIGHT have a point and to make it clearer what is meant is that *I* for instance have Mars conjunct Asc and parallel Pluto. I am a woman and this “vibe” attracts OR repels people. Men usually want to fkuc and kill me and women, sometimes, hate me. It’s not always easy being a woman either. I give out a warrior’s vibe and this doesn’t sit well with many. Maybe if you studied your chart and yourself a little bit deeper, you’ll find an answer? And maybe, don’t victimize yourself but instead tell yourself that these people are not worthy you anyhow so why the F think about it?!
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aquaguy91 Moderator Posts: 12343 From: Rent Free in Grahma male's head Registered: Jan 2012
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posted August 18, 2021 11:42 AM
quote: Originally posted by charlie: Aquaguy, Dumuzi MIGHT have a point and to make it clearer what is meant is that *I* for instance have Mars conjunct Asc and parallel Pluto. I am a woman and this “vibe” attracts OR repels people. Men usually want to fkuc and kill me and women, sometimes, hate me. It’s not always easy being a woman either. I give out a warrior’s vibe and this doesn’t sit well with many. Maybe if you studied your chart and yourself a little bit deeper, you’ll find an answer? And maybe, don’t victimize yourself but instead tell yourself that these people are not worthy you anyhow so why the F think about it?!
I have a very challenging chart. Like Plutowashere, I have Saturn conjunct my descendant ruler (sun) in the 12th. And if that wasn't enough, I also have an afflicted Venus (square Pluto, square Moon, and square Mars). IP: Logged |