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Ami Anne
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posted March 07, 2021 07:09 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This is a good topic. Any experience with it?

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Voix_de_la_Mer
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posted March 07, 2021 02:44 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Voix_de_la_Mer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yes I can relate. I am experiencing this right now, and have before.

I've reflected on this in the past, I guess rage and anger are active feelings, they impel us to action. Action can go outward or inward. Most of us don't want to hurt others, so we direct the rage inward through suppression and/or self-blame. Both of those can result in depression.

Hope you're OK Ami.

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posted March 07, 2021 03:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for teasel     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yes, I've experienced it. I don't think that all depression is down to rage, but it does happen.

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Graham
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posted March 09, 2021 12:51 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
http://lifesourcecenter.org/effectively-dealing-internalized-anger/#:~:text=When%20people%20think%20about%20anger%20it%20is%20not,touch%20with%20their%20anger%2C%20they%20would%20l ose%20control.


01. Begin by becoming aware of when in growing up you were given the messages that feelings of anger were not permitted to be felt or expressed.

02.Use your feeling as a wake up call that is providing you with the opportunity to examine what is really going on inside you.

03.Be aware that avoiding conflict at all costs results in your paying on the back end.

04. Know that whether you keep your anger in or explosively let it out, neither works in the long run. Only when you fully recognize this, can you examine any part you may play in your response. In recognizing how you contribute to the conflict, can Provide you an opportunity to react differently.

05.Know that angry feelings don’t necessarily have to end up in a fight/flight response but can be someplace in between.

06.Focus on being proactive instead of reactive when dealing with others.

07. Being proactive means first being aware of your own wants and needs. Next, you need to have the courage to express those needs, while being respectful of the needs and wants of the person you may be in conflict with. Finally, you need to be willing to negotiate and compromise with the other person resulting in hopefully, an equitable solution.

08. If an equitable solution doesn’t happen, you need to take responsibility for taking good care of yourself. This may mean accepting what is, emotionally letting go and getting on with your life.

09. Moving on emotionally is important even if you decide to stay in a situation or relationship that is frustrating you. In the final analysis, you are ultimately responsible for your happiness. Taking control of your life, rather than allowing other things or other people control you, results in you becoming the master of your own destiny.

10 Be aware that our anger may be a defense against other, deeper feelings that you may not be admitting to, not even to yourself. Recognizing and admitting to these other feelings may result in your dealing with your anger differently.

http://lifesourcecenter.org/effectively-dealing-internalized-anger/#:~:text=When%20people%20think%20about%20anger%20it%20is%20not,touch%20with%20their%20anger%2C%20they%20would%20l ose%20control.


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Graham
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posted March 09, 2021 01:00 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
http://www.transformationalwriting.co.uk/blog/angerwhy-dont-some-people-get-angry-when-they-need-to

"Internalised Anger
Just because one doesn’t express their anger in an assertive way or in a way that is aggressive or violent, it doesn’t mean that it will simply disappear. It will become internalised and so instead of someone feeling a sense of power through expressing it in some way; they can end up feeling disempowered.

It is often said that depression is a consequence of repressed anger. And this is partly because one will have to carry the emotional weight around with them and this is going to be a burden. One will not be speaking their truth; they will be denying what is true for them.

And when one doesn’t speak up for themselves and say what they need to say, it is inevitable that they will feel a loss of energy and power. It is also possible for one to become emotionally stuck and unable to change how they feel as a result of the internalised anger that has built up. This can then cause one to feel a sense of boredom and to be emotionally disconnected."
http://www.transformationalwriting.co.uk/blog/angerwhy-dont-some-people-get-angry-when-they-need-to

Often though, people fail to recognise their internalised anger ... and it then manifests as passive-aggression. Thus, a thread might be started which is really just a veiled attack on another member - or a member might change his/her "from" location to something which is intended to provoke a member that he/she does not like.

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Voix_de_la_Mer
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posted March 09, 2021 03:58 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Voix_de_la_Mer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Good contributions Graham, thanks. You're taking me back to my psych undergrad and my time working in psychology which I enjoyed immensely

I'm usually fairly good at solving things in my life, however my recent anger suppression has been due to there not being either an effective solution or outlet. It's due to 8 months of excessive noise from my neighbour while I try to work and study from home, with no services to intervene due to the pandemic.

I've increased my exercise and walking, which is helping a little. If I can get my stress levels down a bit more I will start to feel creative again and can go back to channelling my emotions into my projects such as songwriting and jewellery making.

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Randall
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posted July 29, 2021 06:17 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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