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Lexxigramer
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posted May 07, 2018 12:20 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lexxigramer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My father died 😭on April 17th.

almost 21 days ago.

I was shocked to
unexpectedly come across his obituary
~today, May 6th.~

No one told 😭 me that my Dad had died.
BECAUSE
I am an Atheist
I am not homophobic
I am disabled
I am poor


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PixieJane
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posted May 07, 2018 12:41 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for PixieJane     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
How horrible!

And my condolences.

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anonymidarkness
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posted May 07, 2018 02:25 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for anonymidarkness     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My condolences love.

And a big hug for you

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mirage29
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posted May 07, 2018 08:35 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for mirage29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
So very very sorry, Lexxi. {{{ }}}

It was really heartless of THEM... not you.

Thoughts of Support and Love

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Love&Light
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posted May 07, 2018 10:12 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Love&Light     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
What happened? Old age? I pray to GOD that your dad rests in peace and you get the strength to go through the sorrow. (((Lexi)))

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Lexxigramer
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posted May 07, 2018 03:22 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lexxigramer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by PixieJane:
How horrible!

And my condolences.


Thank you PixieJane.
His dying was not a surprise;
as he had many serious health issues for the past 2 decades and was nearly 88 yeas old.
It was the fact that my family never told me he had become so ill that he had to live his days out in hospice.
THEN;
they never told me he had died,
I was looking up some information concerning myself;
when my maiden name popped up;
mentioned in an obituary!
>>>My father's obituary!<<<
I am still in shock.

It is bad enough that my evil stepmother and siblings hate me;
because they are Christian;
and homophobic;
and find me disgusting and below them because I am physically disabled and impoverished; and they are wealthy and not disabled.

But to not even let me know my dad had fallen gravely ill;
and then had died..........
is beyond cruel and evil;
and illustrates even more;
why;
I AM AN ATHEIST
AND SO WAS MY FATHER!

Rabid Christians, homophobes;
and people who are wealthy;
and not disabled;
who would do this to anyone;
are pure evil in my point of view and it is too bad that there is not a hell to send them all to immediately!

I am so damn sad and angry.
He had another stroke and my evil stepmother saw it as the perfect chance to take total control of his last days of life and not let he and I see each other ever again.
I wonder how many times he may have asked to see me in his last days?
But they all deprived me and him of the one last time to say I love you and goodbye.
I am not handling this well.


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Lexxigramer
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posted May 07, 2018 03:26 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lexxigramer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by anonymidarkness:
My condolences love.

And a big hug for you



Thank you muchly anonymidarkness.

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Lexxigramer
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posted May 07, 2018 03:30 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lexxigramer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
quote:
Originally posted by mirage29:
So very very sorry, Lexxi. {{{ }}}

It was really heartless of THEM... not you.

Thoughts of Support and Love


Thank you mirage29
It is just so shocking that they could be so evil heartless and cruel.
To accidentally come across unexpectedly;
one's father's obituary
from 21 days before;
when I did not know he was dying and was never told that he had died.........
well;
horrible and crushing and utterly devastating is an understatement for how I feel.

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Lexxigramer
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posted May 07, 2018 05:12 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lexxigramer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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Originally posted by Love&Light:
What happened? Old age? I pray to GOD that your dad rests in peace and you get the strength to go through the sorrow. (((Lexi)))

I understand that you meant no offense;
however
I AM AN ATHEIST!
MY FATHER WAS AN ATHEIST!
Praying and praying to god(s)
for any Atheist;
is EXTREMELY INSULTING;
and DISRESPECTFUL!
Are you possibly unfamiliar with the definition of an Atheist?

It means a person having a total lack of belief in god or gods.
It means that we do not believe in prayer either.

And;
because it was god believing bigoted hateful Christians who carried out this horrible unkindness towards me and my father.
Mention of god; prayer; or religion is very rude and creepy.
Also even tough I am an Atheist;
However I feel that reincarnation is theoretically possible.
Reincarnation if real;
is a yet unknown process,
and does not require any belief in any kind of deity or prayer to be theoretically a possibility;
no more than when anyone is being born.

I am stressed at the moment and hyper sensitive;
with just cause because of what my religious family did.

I apologize for my blunt reply;
I know you meant to be kind.
But can you see how the mention of god and prayer in this situation is totally improper?

As to how did he die?
He was almost 88 years old and had terrible hear troubles and had suffered strokes.

I thank you for caring;
but from hereon;
please do not assume everyone believes in god or prayer;
that is not kind or respectful to assume others believe as you may believe

Also to help you understand what had happened;
and why I am so very upset;
please kindly take the time to read what I said in my reply to
PixieJane.

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posted May 07, 2018 05:51 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ayelet     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Lexxi, I am grieved to hear what happened. It sadly shows your relatives in the worst light, if light it shall be. I am very sorry for you and your father. If you consider reincarnation a possibility, you may consider the principle of continuity. Of course you need not believe in anything. I just try to think whether there could be a way for you to feel that even the greatest evil cannot keep you away from your beloved father for good. I know it is not really a consolation for you, and I'm sorry in advance, but do you feel, or have you ever felt that someone with whom you lost contact, has kept living and existing so profoundly in your heart? That even with the worst things people can do, there are precious, innermost treasures no hand can touch, let alone take away from you?

Your stepmother may have caused you and your father a great deal of pain and sorrow, but she can never destroy the bond of love you share, and I guess she never has experienced such love herself, otherwise she wouldn't have been able to do what she has done.

My deepest condolences to you

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Lexxigramer
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posted May 08, 2018 12:32 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lexxigramer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ayelet
Thank you.
I shall reply to you more after I rest.
I am very exhausted and rather emotionally raw at the moment.

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Randall
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posted May 08, 2018 11:10 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I'm very sorry you had to go through this.

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Lei_Kuei
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posted May 08, 2018 08:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lei_Kuei     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Sorry for your loss... I recall a similar situation with my Dad's Sister who died over seas, and he didn't find out for over a year... though this wasn't out of Pure Malice on behalf of his own family... it's just that they are almost all extremely distant with each other and simply forgot to relay the information.

Though I'm also wondering if they may have chosen not to contact you due to a situation with your Father's Will... Considering he was wealthy... he may have left you (his blood relative/daughter) a portion of his estate... Though legally any of the lawyers involved should be to forced to contact you anyhow... unless your Step Mother has somehow fully manipulated the situation and blocked all of this.

Not sure what you could do about that, but there must be some (non-expensive) way you could find out..

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posted May 08, 2018 10:35 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Desiring Shadows     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am very sorry for your loss. Like another person said.. you might not have been able to say goodbye, but I know you both wanted to, so that says something. That shows you both loved each other even when you were not together. IN other words, even though you no longer physically have your father and cannot create new memories with him .... you have the old memories and you have how much he shaped you as a person and all of the experiences or times you shared where he touched your heart. That will never go away. Love transcends beyond time and space it is based upon feelings evoked from the heart. So I hope you are able to heal well from this loss and know that your father loves you.
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Randall
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posted May 09, 2018 02:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Life seems so unfair.

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posted May 17, 2018 09:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Ami Anne     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I am very sorry for your loss.

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posted May 20, 2018 03:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Lexxigramer     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
It has been 34 days since my father
died and no one has contacted me.
At this point I would rather they never speak to me again.
Dad is gone so there is no rational reason to ever deal with those evil hateful homophobic Christians ever again.
Thank you all for your kind words.
I will try and get in and reply in full to you folks.
I have been having a rougher than usual time since Halloween, sick with one thing after another; and now need tested for Myasthenia gravis.
Hopefully that test will turn out negative. Well enough on my woes.
Thank you all again for the kind words.
PS.LK; the wife of the deceased usually gets everything.
I highly doubt there is any inheritance coming my way.
Dad was a high functioning Autistic person.
super genius but not in touch with things in life like wills and such. He would have just let his wife do as they wished. Hence the big reason he pretty much did not realize that she and the others were doing all they could to keep him from seeing me or even talking to him. After a few strokes and multiple open heart surgeries;
he barely knew who I was anyhow. Last time I saw him it was like trying to talk with "Rain Man". I also suspect all the money was spent years ago.

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posted May 21, 2018 03:08 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Very unfortunate.

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