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Topic: natural childbirth
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Celeste
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posted June 28, 2005 09:04 PM
 
Howdy Guys,
Have any of you ladies experienced or thought about a natural childbirth? I'm not pregant at this time, but when I am I'd love to have a baby at home with a midwife. I had my first child in a traditonal hospital, and was horrifed by the lack of empathy displayed by the medical staff. The doc and the anesthiologist acutally started arguing in front of me. I was also injected with an epidural, which made got me all drugged and out of it. I do not see how the noisy cold hospital vibe could be welcoming to a newborn.
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sue g
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posted June 29, 2005 07:11 AM
Hi Celeste, I too gave birth to my one and only child in hospital - horrible environment, but thank God I was there!!!! I had to have an emergency section and if I had have been at home, I would have been in trouble, as the hospital was 50 miles away!! I suppose it is just weighing up the pros and cons - I was 40, an older mother, and although I would have loved a home birth, it wasnt to be. Just my experience - good luck with your home birth !!!! xxIP: Logged |
geminstone
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posted June 29, 2005 01:27 PM
Hi Celeste, I had a ' Lay Midwife ' and, planned on a home birth but, unfortunately I miscarried the pregnancy. However, when I became pregnant with my Son, I was given the name of a wonderful Midwife who, subsequently, delivered not just my Son but, also, my Daughter 2 years later  She was not a ' Lay ' Midwife so, deliveries took place in the hospital but, the experience of the birth event, in both cases, was wonderful and, I believe that my Midwife made the difference. I remember when I went for a pre-natal routine visit that she was unable to be at, I had to see one of the Doctor's in the office. I was in and out within a 5 minute time frame and, even as he was asking me if I had any questions, his hand was on the door. With my Midwife, I could ask as many questions as the day is long and, she would have stayed, only content to leave, when she knew I was comfortable to do so. We made birth plans before the big day and, though with both of my peeps, I had the intention of going it natural, it did'nt happen. I am greatful for the fact that both of the pregnancies were trouble free and that, I have 2 bright, beautiful, healthy SunSpots in my life, which was the ultimate goal... Achieved  ~ geminstone IP: Logged |
lalalinda
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posted June 29, 2005 04:44 PM
I've also had good experiences with midwives. I had my 2 oldest at home, no problems, very sore, healed quickly and the babies were both 100%. But since then I've learned that you don't have to go through the intense pain of labor, there are epidurals.
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geminstone
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posted June 29, 2005 07:00 PM
As far as I understood things, the epidural is the most popular antisthetic, because it does not affect the newborn in any way ..... ~ geminstone IP: Logged |
Moonshine9
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posted July 03, 2005 12:08 AM
Hey Celeste!
It sounds like everybody here has had their own unique experiences with childbirth. When I found out I was pregnant, I had every intention of having a natural childbirth, unfortunately sometimes things don't go the way we expect them, you know?
I didn't want any drugs. Nothing, nada, zippo! But when I was going into the hospital for a routine fetal monitoring where they check on the baby's heartbeat, it turned out that my little man was leaning on his umbilical cord, so they had to do an emergency C-section. In the meantime I was checked in and they had given me an epidural earlier in the day, so when I got into the operating room the remainder of the epidural did not take, so I could feel the knife cutting into me. They put me under immediately and the next moment I had awaken to the cries of my baby boy. I wouldn't see Gabriel until the next morning, but when I finally saw him it was an awesome moment!
As you can see, it didn't go according to plan, which is a lot like life!
I just hope the next time I have another child, that I'll aspire to having a natural childbirth.
Celeste, I hope you don't think I'm trying to discourage you, I just wanted to share my experience, just so your prepared for everything and anything.
I think that's just great that you are thinking of using a Mid-wife! Go for it if you feel strongly about this.
The whole experience of being pregnant and giving birth is just mind-bogling sometimes. I have ultrasound pics of my baby from when he was just a little pea and gradually growing into this flesh and bone person. I'm just so amazed when I see how much he has grown. I'm just like, wow I did this!
I created life with someone I love.
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Svetlana
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posted July 04, 2005 04:40 PM
I have a friend who gave birth at home in a bath tub. She was OK but her baby wasn't breathing. They had to take him to ER. He's a beautiful 1 year old now. The experience didn't discouraged her and she wants to be a natural birth practitioner. (She's a physician)------------------
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pixelpixie
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posted July 04, 2005 11:07 PM
I experienced both natural and epidural...
But I had a midwife each time.
Like Geminstone said, Midwives make you feel honoured and they listen, work through things, and make it a wholistic experience instead of a clinical one.
Medical science is great though.. I mean, if there are any problems, I want to know there is a competent doctor on hand. And a staff of knowledgeable caregivers.. but on the same scale, they are overrun and often lack the personal time that I feel is necessary for a positive labour experience.
I had a midwife, but at a hospital. *just in case*
They have birthing rooms/etc.. so they try to cater to the moms, families and babies instead of only doctors schedules..IP: Logged |
Jessica Christianson
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posted July 05, 2005 02:35 AM
Hello there...I have not ever experienced having a child, although I have decided I will go natural when the time comes. I will tell you why in my own opinion. Every since I was a young girl I wanted to have my child this way. One day I do believe we will have our children in water with lights, music, and incense. I just believe it is a personal experience and at it taking place in a hospital would take away from that. They say water is most natural. When a woman is heavily sedated and up in holsters how can she relax, her natural instincts are too far away from her in this position. Also it is told that a traumatic birth can be result of problems later in life. See they say birth is a worse experience than death, although you may not remember. Who would want to come into this already hectic world in such a disfunctional matter? Love Always, SkiddlezIP: Logged |
Moonshine9
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posted July 05, 2005 07:54 AM
Hello Jessica,
I think disfunctional isn't really a good word to use. Unfortunately some of us women who have had children and wanted very much to have it Au Natural but couldn't because of medical emergencies. Like I said before sometimes things don't go according to plan when a woman is in labor.
Fortunately what happened that helped me deal with the labor pains, a woman in the next room was giving birth, and I could hear her screams and I heard her exclaim, "Get this thing out of me!!!!!!!!!"
I think everyone on the hospital floor heard her. Although I was in pain, I couldn't help but laugh.
What I'm trying to say is that yes natural is the first way to go, but it isn't always the case.
I'm not disappointed in the least that I had a C-Section.IP: Logged |
leoelf
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posted July 05, 2005 09:14 AM
The Labor room in the hospital I was in was very nice, but my nurse was a b1tch.
Like, she was really helpful, but she kept yelling at me when I screamed,telling me it doesn't hurt that bad and blah blah blah.
When I was done giving birth (with an epidural when I was 7 centimeters wide already, so that I would up feeling everything anyway)I asked her how many children does she have and she says NONE!?
ROTFLMAO, I could have slapped her.IP: Logged |
Moonshine9
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posted July 05, 2005 11:23 PM
That's horrible Leoelf.
Yeah you definitely have some nurses who should not be in that profession.
I had the best nurses on the maternity floor. The staff and my doctor was just wonderful. Just one nurse who brought my baby in to me was a B**CH as well. I just had a C-Section right and they gave me every drug imaginable. I was in enormous pain and this nurse kept on nagging me that I should get up and walk around. If I wasn't so drugged up at the time I would have told her to go take a walk you know where!lol
It's like ok lady I just had a knife cut into my lower abdominal muscles and you want me to get up and walk around like it's nothing?
You can tell the nurses who love their job and the ones who are just there to collect their check.IP: Logged |
Celeste
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posted July 11, 2005 12:14 AM
I loved reading your responses, childbirth is such a miracle and so different for every woman who experiences it. Having a mid wife assist you in a hospital setting sounds like the perfect balance. I'd really love to have a baby at home, but I do realize that sometimes emergencies come up. The baby's safety should always be a priority, but having a good mid wife around will make me feel happy as well.I know some nurses can be bloody awful, I feel for you Leo Elf. When I had my baby, I actually had a nurse scold me because I had a low fever! She forced me to down some juice so the fever would go down, and I could go home on time instead of having to stay longer. Thats why I had the idea of having a home birth, but yeah it would be pretty scary if something bad came up. IP: Logged |
fayte.m
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posted August 24, 2005 03:19 PM
I had my son with a midwife.
All natural...very fast...
It was not at home....but in one of the efficiecy apartments run by midwives near the hospital. It was a freestanding place...but has since gone of business.
Too bad...it was a wonderful place! Nothing hospital like about it.IP: Logged |
Skiddlez
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posted November 13, 2019 06:21 AM
Oh goodness...
Looking back at this in 2005
Before my first child was due 10/10/10
Attempted water birth
Midwife & hospital doctor plus lack of supporting partner
8 centimeters, dehydrated, 2 days of labor (midwife had meeting, jumpstarted my labor prematurely to fit her own schedule/wants/needs)
Beefing hospital medical physician With water/natural birth center midwife lady, attending physician change of shift, given an epidural, pictocin, and somehow went from 8 centimeters back to six, stopped progressing, I guess since it was time to turn my bed and get another customer, since I had no support physically there with me or for me, under duress, exhausted, hungry, not allowed to eat, trust in the medical field and hospital expertise, bombarded with concerns for the safety and wellness of my first born child, I without a fight or inquiring further agreed to the unwarranted c-section, and this endured from that moment on from all the staff on the birthing suite the same demeanor and total disrespect for me as a human being especially on the operating table by the doctor and his nurse, conveniently related to one another, and me alone with no witnesses, a trauma that I will never forget. The birthing center closed 2 months later, I had my second child, got to 9 centimeters, she was pushed back in so another emergency c-section could be performed. I really wanted a dolphin water birth experience in Hawaii! I even contacted a man who said if you can get here, we can house and feed you. So there is still hope and the same man doing this... whose links to names and sites I figured out thanks to what I read in Star Signs about the dolphins and how magical they are. With THE third Child however, I stayed at home in the tub all night listening to middle C and eating Kale... by the time I got to the hospital they tried to prep me for this c-section I supposedly had to have since I had already had two... hahahaha I was miraculously already in active labor, had 12 students watching me at 9AM that morning and while I didn’t want the epidural, I do feel the timing of getting it, prevented the spinal you get when you go in for c-section. They really can’t do one and then the other too soon after... and I also finally had a doctor on my side and knew my wishes... he helped me procrastinate too... and he called it... said I was in active labor and no time for c-section, within about 30 minutes to an hour my baby boy flew out! Vaginally! I will still have my water birth with the dolphins eventually... I needed to see what it was like, and what women were going through... doctors get paid triple for c-section, they can make sure they get off “on-time” for dinner, make their other appointments, the hospital gets more money, longer hospital stay, etc. Since 10/2010 I have done mad research and watched enough documentaries to know what they did to me was wrong... I later learned that the midwife and the doctor were both putting themselves and ulterior motives before their patient, me. Unacceptable! What can I say?!!! You live and you learn!IP: Logged |
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posted November 17, 2019 11:10 AM
I felt anger rise up in me at what they did.
What they did, in-deed and in 'deed', was WRONG.There are youtubes made by relatives of people who were ABUSED in the operation room, and in hospitals. They do it on-purpose to dis-empower you. The whole set-up was created to do that, "on purpose." That was an ABUSE of their position and power.  I'm glad you did have an ally in that doc who helped to "procrastinate" for you to get what you wanted.   Congratulations on your 3rd birth,
where your son was successfully birthed vaginally, in spite of *their* efforts to hamper that for THEIR own benefits. Thank you for bringing this topic up.
I have MY stories too, and tales of others' experiences. You are DEFINITELY not alone.
Take super good care of your self,
and your family.  Be Good to you.  IP: Logged |
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