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Hikaru29
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posted November 23, 2021 06:08 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Hikaru29     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I’ve been implicated in a situation involving my close friend (let’s call her J) and her partner and it has caused me much stress and anger over the last few years. Hope someone can shed light on what’s going on based on these charts… 🙏🏼

Long story short… J is in a toxic relationship with her partner. According to her, he’s unreasonable, extremely petty and verbally abusive. She said she is still with him because he’s financially helping her.

The thing is he has been blaming me for their quarrels, going around calling me a sh*t-stirrer, asking friends to be careful of me, not to hang out with me etc. Once he even accused me of trying to con J of her money. 😕 I’ve tried to stay away from them (also meeting J less) but I still see my name being dragged through the mud. It’s giving me a lot of stress as friends came to ask me about it, showed me his hostile messages, etc.

When another friend confronted him about this, he came up with some ridiculous reason and said he trusts what J has told him, which made me wonder if she has betrayed me. This has caused stress with my other friendships as well. Some friends told me J must’ve caused this, else it doesn’t explain why he hates me so much as he and I hardly met. J claimed innocence of course but she has changed so much since she knew him I feel that I can’t trust her anymore.

I don’t give a f care about this guy tbh but I think it’s difficult to even stay friends with J now, and it makes me sad as we’ve known each other for over 20yrs.

Sorry if my story sounds confusing as I’ve left out the details or this will become a very long post. I’m curious what you see in our charts.

Composite of me and my friend

Composite of my friend and her partner

Our multi-composite

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PlutoWasHere
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posted December 07, 2021 07:49 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for PlutoWasHere     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi Hikaru, I’m not a very experienced in astrology but maybe I can help with my observations. The first thing I noticed in your composite was the Moon opposite Saturn. It is squared by transit Neptune. Moon opposite Saturn may have to do with a feelings of commitment to each other. Maybe with transit Neptune there could be feelings of lies or not being honest and the other being either too strict/cold or too emotional.

Their relationship seems difficult with power play involved and/or obsessive behavior, looking at that yod with Pluto apex in their composite. Transit Neptune is almost conjunct the activation point of the yod, Venus opposite Pluto.

Transit Neptune also is almost conjunct the Sun opposite Pluto in your multi composite. Maybe the truth will come out once transit Neptune is out of range.

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mee_chryssa
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posted December 07, 2021 07:57 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for mee_chryssa     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
That opposition from Pluto to Venus in the composite of your friend and her partner is very sticky and pretty manipulative. I recently seen it in a lot of composites and I can tell you that both people involved exploit each other and there's always some distance to their relationship. They both meet each others needs and it could turn ugly if one decides to leave. Very controlling aspect and money are involved all the time. Someone is taking money from the other person to survive. Adding the Mars square to Moon that shows emotional violence. Mars is also in Aries.

I would stay away because she could find reasons for him to be the way he is and none of them is aware of the dynamic of this relationship. They don't know that they are together and stick together because of some material need that the other person is giving them.

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posted December 08, 2021 01:21 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Stoika7     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hi darling Hikaru!

It seems to me that there is a strong karmic bond between you and your friend, and a lot of sincere affection. Sun/Mars opposite Uranus shows that your friendship may get stormy cause of inteference. The nodes are square Pluto and so your bond may change over time... Venus opposite Neptune shows that there may be an issue about loyalty and trust... Since Moon is trine Chiron/Mars, I don't think she betrayed you on purpose, but she may have acted shallow though, according to the Venus/Neptune opposition.
Saturn/South Node midpoint is square to composite Sun, and so this would suggest that you may become more detached from each other one day. Transiting Neptune is square to Saturn and this is very difficult as it would show actual obstacles in your friendship that may get you detached from each other, and this is a long run transit, since Netpune has just gone direct but is is very slow and will go retrograde again square to Saturn again next year, so I believe you won't get close to her as it used to be... moreover, transiting South Node went through composite Neptune suggesting forthcoming separation...

Her Composite with her boyfriend shows a strong bond but mainly based on material issues, as Saturn is square the Nodes but Saturn is in the second house and Pluto is square to MC, with PLuto opposite Venus on the axis, there's a lot of manipulative and opportunistic attitude in this relationship. Even so they have a Juno/Jupiter/Neptune stellium in the 9th house, so they feel a strong bond and devotion to each other as if they're spiritually "married"... even though the stellium is square mercury and there's a lot of arguments and frustration and deceptive communication, they are not honest to each other. Pluto is quincunx Mars and this may show his abusive and rude behaviour.

Your three-composite clearly shows conflicts, Venus/Chiron midpoint opposite Uranus and square to MC/Jupiter/Moon is clearly a clash of wills and interference between their intimacy likely coming from your friendhsip. Saturn opposite Neptune shows that this dynamic between the three will cause separation and detachment.

Vertex/Pluto shows that this whole situation is very karmic and otherworldly, and so it looks very fated as your relationship with your friend is destined to be changed from their relationship.

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