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listenstotrees
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posted May 31, 2011 05:02 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for listenstotrees     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted May 31, 2011 06:34 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for listenstotrees     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted May 31, 2011 07:56 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Dee     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
LTT


All i can say is there is nothing wrong with you, its the people around you.

You dont have a support system, believe me i know how that feels i dont have one either.

Your boyfriend sounds like he has control issues. not liking you on the internet.

It seems like the minute you give attention to anything but him he has an issue with it.

as for your mother i had issues with mine. i dont haven't spoke to her in 10 years she will be 84 this summer. i finally ran across a site thet describes her problem

one of her problems anyway
http://psychcentral.com/disorders/sx17.htm

i also understand the isolation. i have lived very isolated for the past 7 years. and believe if i can get to a more popalated area it could lift some of the depression.

i dont know what else too say. except keep reaching out to people online and in real life to.

there's nothing wrong with you. you'll see that as more people come into your life
you are just overwhelmed

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abcd efg
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posted June 01, 2011 12:03 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for abcd efg     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
There is nothing wrong with you. Hard life thats all. With no support from near and dear ones either emotional and/or financial we tend to think this way. Carry on. Your dark cloud appears to have a silver lining now. The sun i guess might be just round the corner.

Sometimes we have difficult karma. The key lies in going through it and learning the lessons. The idea is to grow wiser. Not critisising ourselves.

I faced similar circumstances and would have led to the same situation as yours but enter my mentor and some of my karma got adjusted. But nevertheless I have to learn my lessons. No running away from it.

My sincere wishes with you.

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posted June 01, 2011 06:21 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for listenstotrees     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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abcd efg
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posted June 01, 2011 12:25 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for abcd efg     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Have you told your mother that her behaviour with you is making things worse for you? So she should let you JUST BE. Try telling her this if you havn't and pray to GOD before you do. It helps. You don't have to follow any particular religion for that. I will pray for you. Love

P.S: Please inculcate this habit of connecting with HIM by praying or even just remembering HIM in our daily routine. It will bring a world of a difference to you. It will turn things around. May GOD help you!

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LEXX
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posted June 02, 2011 08:47 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LEXX     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
No you are not a bad person LTT.

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Randall
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posted June 05, 2011 03:10 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I read before you deleted. Just wanted to comment and say I agree with the others.

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dysfunctionalmystic
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posted June 14, 2011 11:30 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for dysfunctionalmystic     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well I completely missed before you deleted but I'd say we all have bad days. I don't always cope with mine...and sometimes when I look back over the last 20 years I wonder how I did it. I still have another 13 years to go before I'm kid free....

The worst thing about having no or little support is that it's so much harder to enjoy the good times because you're usually too busy catching up on the bills or recovering from the bad stuff.

My biggest resentment with parenting is that I have to sometimes be the bad guy {even though I'm a girl).

I know it's hard but don't put yourself through the ringer if you're feeling inadequate...it's not going to help. That's why I had to reply...the thought of you sat there beating yourself up. Don't.

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posted June 15, 2011 01:29 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

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posted July 05, 2011 09:19 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Do you feel better?

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posted August 05, 2011 01:00 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for Randall     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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posted August 05, 2011 01:33 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for LEXX     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
LTT{{{hugs}}}

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posted December 05, 2011 08:05 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for 4lifephrases     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Since you are asking this question...itself makes you a good person.

So my answer is NO.It doesn't make you bad person.

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anongrl10
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posted December 05, 2011 01:13 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for anongrl10     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I haven't seen the original posts but I agree with the previous: if you are asking yourself this, you are definitely NOT a bad person. Bad people have zero self-awareness and they always like to blame their behaviors on someone/something else.
Doing your best is all you can do.
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