posted August 30, 2002 02:43 AM              

I just got custody of Kenny and have been very busy getting him entered in school and dealing with a lot of different issues. It has been extremely stressful and I apologise for not being around to answer questions I promised to answer.

This morning we learned his grandmother died. My ex-mother in law. She was the only mom Kenny really knew until he was 4 years old. So, he just entered a new school, his father said he didn't want him and now his grandmother has died. It is tough on him. He is such a good kid.

Just a quick background. My ex left me for Kenny's mother a long time ago. When she left and didn't take Kenny, he was 3 months old. He was taken to his grandmother to live until he was 4. Then, he went home to his father and his father's new girlfriend. She mistreated him and by the time he was 7, my ex called me and asked me to get back together and help him raise his two sons. I went back. I fell in love with those two boys and I stayed for a year and a half. I finally left my ex due to his drinking and womanizing. I kept in contact with Kenny and his brother and had them on my weekend off. When Kenny turned 12, his father's new girlfriend gave me such a riot act about how bad Kenny was when I returned him, that I decided for his sake to stay out of their lives. Big mistake. It is now 4 years later, and Kenny is 16, has been very badly abused mentally and emotionally. He has been feeling unrespected, unloved and unwanted. His father said he wished he would have died in the Twin Towers. That did me in, it was too much for me to handle, hearing that. I left Kenny stay for the summer and he didn't want to go back home. So, I met with his father this past Sunday to get papers signed for me to be the custodial parent. It was an experience, to meet with the man I once loved and thought was my Twin Soul and see a total stranger. He could say nothing positive about his son, only how he was such a perverted monster. Well, none of that is true. Kenny is simply a normal teenage boy who needs love and respect. It has been a bit trying, as Kenny has developed a chip on his shoulder and has some attitude problems. But, each day it is getting better, and with the love and support of my family, we are giving Kenny a chance at a better life.

I got a call from the school counselor I registered him in and he told me the counselor from Kenny's previous school is very happy Kenny is out of the situation he was in. The Vice Principal of his former school also called and was estatic that Kenny is out of the home situation. They said he was a victim and were thankful I was there for him. Heck, I love the kid, he is my child in every way except biological.

Kenny is an Aries Sun and can be headstrong, impatient and impulsive, but I understand that, and it is easy to deal with when one knows this about Aries. Also, his Moon is Sagittarius, with a nice Libra Ascendant thrown in. He is well liked by everyone that meets him, he is just a sweet kid.

So, today, he came home from his new school, said he was liking it much better and then I had to give him the news of his grandmother. He took it well for the time being, but the funeral is Wednesday and I know it will be difficult for him. So, please keep him in your good thoughts and send him some White Light.

Thanks from the bottom of my heart!!

posted August 30, 2002 06:53 AM              

You're around plenty!

posted August 30, 2002 08:39 AM              

love,

posted August 30, 2002 09:03 AM              

Because of your love for him, he will be able to face the loss of his grandmother knowing that he is cared for, he is special, and he is loved.

posted August 30, 2002 10:44 AM              

Your story truly touched my heart. I was in tears just reading your story. People like you make the world a better place. I will send you triple doses of white light.

You are truly an

Love,
Blue M

posted August 31, 2002 01:54 PM              

par·ent·hood [páirnt hd ] noun
state of being a parent: the role or experience of being a parent, or the way of life that being a parent imposes.

Parenthood has nothing to do with biology....and people like you prove that.

posted September 07, 2002 12:19 AM              

The great thing, Kenny was accepted to be on the JV Football team, and he is very happy about that. At the funeral, he asked his father to come to a game and the answer he got was in the negative, which wasn't a surprise.

Auriel, thanks, that was sweet. I am finally realizing that I AM a parent!! It is great, too.

posted September 10, 2002 11:32 PM              

Lyndel

posted September 12, 2002 01:43 PM              

Based on all of your past posts, here & on Gregory's forums, I am not surprised to hear of your big heart.

Hey, I have a daughter with an Aries sun, sagi moon and asc, with Libra mars & saturn. She can be unbelievably headstrong, but she is an amazing kid. Get ready for a ride. It might be bumpy, but you are going to love it.

Took in a niece for a year; got my father-in-law living with me now. They have all driven me nuts at times, but the extra love going around is nice.

Also took in an abused dog no one wanted. This dog is basically the best dog to ever have been born in the entire world. Took a while, though.