posted October 04, 2002 09:30 AM              

I do and it is not that hard.

Not just a promise... If "you" tell me you will come over to visit me, don't stand me up with out so much as calling to let me know..
No offense, but I have a few Libra friends that will tell me they are going to do somthing, and then NEVER show up..And don't even call to say they are sorry.
Now I have this new friend (cancer) she lives about a block away from me,yet she will tell me she is coming over in a few minutes,then doesn't call or show up.

I can't STAND it anymore. My husband is a Libra and he can't do it to me anymore...
I guess we have been together for so long that he doesn't even try to get away with it.If he does try I make him keep his word.

posted October 04, 2002 12:44 PM              

I don't think that is what it is though??

posted October 04, 2002 12:52 PM              

I agree with Kamuche.
What you have strong feelings about, usually is a lesson waiting to assist with the necessary processes of growth and understanding.
Also, your subconscious is like an antennae that draws experiences to you based on the belief and experiences that lie there, whether it be positive or negative. Also, your frustration is felt by those people and somehow they choose NOT to come through for you. Perhaps they feel too much pressure in the form of energy that you emit. People sometimes are unaware of the subtleties that drives them to do or not to do certain things.
Again, I wouldn't base their behavior solely on Astrology. I feel it is more of an energy thing. However, I DO know that Libra's in general are one's who basically operate on their OWN time, including myself.
I, on the other hand are NOT like your friends. I ALWAYS come through, even if the weather is challenging. My friends will tell you, that I will give you the shirt off my back, and it is said of me quite often.
So, there you have it. Also, your friends may be just irresponsible people to begin with.
If so, then you still need to understand WHY you are drawing this personality type to you.
Food for Thought....

Hope things get better for you Mary.

posted October 04, 2002 04:20 PM              

As for Astrological Personality Types, do you think that there is the possibility that since you are an Aquarian, that perhaps your cool, breezy way of asking or inviting could be taken as "If you can make it FINE, If you can't, that's FINE too?"
Perhaps they don't take the invitation seriously. Perhaps a DIRECT approach with your friends may work more in your favor. Tell them politely, that you would love to have them over. Make them feel that their presence is welcomed and appreciated, and make them commit. Once they commit, they will usually SHOW UP!
If your not direct with Libra, and they haven't committed to something, other endless possibilities overrule and is like being on a Playground! There is always something to do, even if it's well needed Rest!
The key to Libra is also in HOW you ask them! A little sweetness goes a long way.
If you sound demanding, a Libra will step back, smile and slowly disappear to avoid the demands at all cost. They are faithful, and will reappear, but only when things cool down. Libra likes to flow naturally with the vibe of things instead of feeling the pull of a tug of war. Again, it's the WAY you ask them to do something. You have to be sweet, yet DIRECT to get their attention!
A Libra always has things to do and likes to keep the options open. Sometimes, they overextend themselves to the point they cannot show up due to the many other promises they've made with other's or their need to flow freely with what feels right to do, as things unfold. The weakness of being Polite, by not simply saying NO up front doesn't feel natural to Libra. After all, they are ALWAYS HOPEFUL that they can "MAKE IT" regardless and that things will work out.
Understand that Libran's also get sidetracked. They are often held up by someTHING or someONE. They are on their OWN time schedules floating around.
Typically, the "To Do" list is not scribbled on paper or in a planner, it is MENTALLY PROGRAMED! (Probably because it changes all the time)

posted October 04, 2002 10:50 PM              

I don't knwo why, but I've made some simple rules, if theres a couple days between whenthe plan is made and when it is supposed to happen, I call and confirm, date time ect ect. This works pretty well for me because most of my friends expect me to be the planning person anyway. LOTS Of cardinal so I can be a bit control freakish heheh.

Then on the date I set a time limit and let people knwo the deal, ie. If you aren't there within fifteen miutes I'm leaving without you. And then I do. If We're just meeting for coffee at my house or whatever, I go for a walk. I buy a magazine. I free my time for myself. If its not valuable to them why should I waste it on the unappreciative? And it works amazingly well, people call when they are going to be late, or they just plain show up on time.

posted October 06, 2002 09:27 PM              

I think when people REALLY get the point of understanding that there are many ways of "Being" and not just THEIR way of Being, they will be less stressed out. The need to control another's PACE by getting upset is not worth the headache or heart palpitations if that other person is sincerely vibbing with what feels NATURAL to them. We EACH have our PERSONAL lessons, in the ways we choose to "BE." Arguing is pointless. Think about Organized Religion.
It is also a CHOICE which Company we decide to keep. However, if, for some reason you are finding several of the same personality types in your life, TRUST that there is a lesson to be learned. Perhaps with Libra, it's in the way of learning Patience, Understanding and Fairness along with what is considered, moving with the Flow. A Very Natural Flow to Libra.
What people don't realize is that Natural Flow is the Ultimate way of Being.
By no means am I saying to be Irresponsible. I am merely saying that when you go with the flow, you are closest to GOD energy. When you do this, you gain insight into the masses of questions that seem to penetrate your cerebral cortex that go unanswered when your moving too fast to FEEL and SENSE when you do not move with Flow. I can't tell you of the many times, I've had MAGIC happen simply because I chose to move with flow.
It's when Synchronicity happens. It's when Soulmates appear. It's also kept me safe from danger when my HEAD wanted to rationalize, analyze and stick with the PLAN.
Something definitely can be learned and gained by moving with flow as Libra's are known for. I never could understand why masses of people claim to want to be more Spiritual, yet down other people for their "Right Way" and then want answers when the answer's are already embedded within, if they'd only STOP to LISTEN!
I'd say, if your truly seeking spirituality, move with Chi a little more, then your world will be experienced much more clearly and peacefully because you will have surrendered all Expectation of ego sensations. Sure, have a plan and stick with it, but if suddenly something doesn't feel right, move in your Truth.
The simple ONE key element in Meditation is "Silence and Stillness."
It's when Inspiration, Insight, Enlightenment, Visions and Inner Peace takes place.
It utilizes the same principal as moving with the Flow.

posted October 07, 2002 06:53 PM              

I feel it is my DUTY to shed some light here...

It's always about "The BIG Picture."
What you need to understand is that many elements come into play when you deal with individuals.
Mercy, you said that you are sometimes late and sometimes not. That is okay. Sometimes we underestimate the amount of time needed to get someplace. You are probably like me, in the sense that you HATE waiting around unnecessarily, so you leave when you THINK the time will be close to getting there on time. The tricky thing is sometimes we don't KNOW that there will be a sudden accident on the freeway that leaves you driving like Miss Daisy! lol Then VIOLA! Your suddenly LATE! The Big Problem! No excuses here, just the facts.
Mercy, your airy side likes to move freely and naturally in your own time and space. Your Virgo is very coherent of the responsibilities and precision in doing it's own thing, but when you have a lot of air, I would assume that logic and reason gets dissolved over freedom of flow. Hey, if your body isn't moving because it's tired or doesn't want to go, there is NOTHING you can do to make it GO! lol
We Libra's DO know our bodies VERY well. I won't get into the personal aspects of WHY Most find us simply irresistible.
Mercy, also, I'd like to point out that you should take a serious look at WHY you are late for work and not with friends. My assessment is that you are late for work because you are not Motivated. I would guess that either you find your job, just a job and nothing more, or that the workload is too stressful and/or uninspiring for you.
The reason you are NOT late when it comes to your friends is because that is where you SHINE! The air in you loves to socialize and be free. There is nothing wrong with that, but showing up late for work is a sort of Passive/Aggressive action of not having your heart set on going. I wonder if you would have a more SOCIAL position in the workplace, would it make a difference? Something to think about!

posted October 08, 2002 05:09 AM              

Nice reply and insight. Though you are wrong about my job. I shine at work. I love my work place a lot. I work in a school with 16 year old's and older. There is a lot of social activity in there (5 to 6000 students). It is only that it is no big deal that I arrive late. Once I have come late and no one says anything about it I think it is no big deal to do it the next time too. Hey I hardly ever have lunch breaks. So...I think I even shine more than with my friends just because there are so many beautiful cute souls at work with whom I can socialize in whatever way ! It is the greatest job in the world! But when someone tells me what to do I look at them and stick my tongue out! Yes, I feel free and I am trying to show/teach anyone to feel the same as it is one of the most important things in life.
I thank you for your sweet reply, you are a real Venus Princess. I? I am just a princess

posted October 08, 2002 11:23 AM              

What a sweetheart you are to say those kind words to me. Bless your sweet, adorable, irresistable Libra soul!

Glad you enjoy your work. That is awesome!
Yep, totally understand about the relaxed, get there when you can theme.
I played it out like a worn record. lol That's why I work for myself! That way I can get there or not at all if I don't want to.