posted January 19, 2003 08:59 PM              

Just when I thought it was getting normal....I went out to dinner on friday with a "friend" (or so I thought), during dinner, he professed his affection to me and told me that he was afraid to date me becasuse he leads what he called a "double life" of which I won't divulge but let's just say it's illegal. Then he told me he wrote a poem about me.

So now I feel compeltely weird. Don't get me wrong, I'm flattered that he feels this way about me but kinds of wigged out about the "doulbe life" thing. Kinda seems like a soap opera or far fetched but it's real.

I told my best freind and all she could do was laugh....though I didn't quite see the humor.

This is why I sit here sometimes feeling like a visitor or feeling somewhat removed from myself because the crap just does not seem real and it leaves me thinking WTF?

posted January 21, 2003 10:34 PM              

So now a friend is attracted to you, as I am sure many men are, and this is karma and weirdness?

posted January 22, 2003 10:54 AM              

Try to look at it not too serious . Isn't the matter a bit funny? I think your friend saw humor in the situation which is always healing, don't you think? Hey I have a friend who always jokes about stuff I say. I love it!
Try to think positive and laugh about it. And remember... that you will meet 'that someone' at just the right time! Focus on the one you want to meet meaning.... be that person yourself and you will meet the one you are!

posted January 24, 2003 09:30 PM              

also...I'm only attracted to him as a friend only...so now I feel awkward...he tried to kiss me at the end of the night but I turned my head in time...whew....

posted January 24, 2003 10:47 PM              

And if he does soon like you- will you see the glass as half empty or half full? Why can't you see it as half full now?

posted January 25, 2003 06:17 AM              

I don't think it's weird at all that a friend ends up liking (er..having romantic feelings for) another friend. Isn't that usually a good way to start a romance?

I should also mention that romance and relationships just aren't and never will be clear-cut and easy. The situations never feel common to the people involved, as it always involves emotion, sometimes deep emotions, and that often leads us to think our problems are the only ones of their kind, that no one else could possibly understand what we're feeling. So I think we all have some weirdness in our lives, particularly in the romance/relationships departments.

I can see where not everyone would have recognized his illegal job as being the "weird" part, since you only briefly mentioned it. You said that he was the one who said he would not date you due to his "double-life." What if he hadn't said that-would you still feel the same way? If he did not partake in such activities, would it still be weird for you? Could it be that you do sincerely like the attention (hey, I have Leo Moon so I at least have a taste of liking the attention) and that your Leonine pride didn't like the fact that he said he wouldn't date you b/c of his lifestyle?

What I mean to say is, friends fall for friends all the time. Usually, one of the reasons why such people remain friends is because one party is not attracted to the other (i.e. you to him). So I don't think it's strange or weird, as it happens all the time. Feelings can (and often do!) grow from getting to know someone and spending time with them (hey-it obviously happens in work settings too).

posted January 26, 2003 01:10 AM              

If you see it as half full that is great! I do too and I love it