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Topic: Please Lend Your Astrological Insight . . .
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LambWithAStinger
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posted February 20, 2003 01:48 PM
 
Birth Details:Me: 03/29/1962, 9:21 p.m., Little Rock, AR
Him: 11/15/1954, 03:03 p.m., Los Angeles CA Question: I'm Aries w/Scorp Rising; he's Scorp w/Aries Rising. There are 44 synastric aspects between his planets and mine, and 48 synastric aspects between my planets and his. We immediately became close friends, and there is a great deal of spiritual affinity, as well as mutual attraction and compatibility. The thing is, despite all of these commonalities, we can't seem to get started from a romantic perspective. He told me that he was afraid to risk getting his heart broken because he "loves hard." I treasure his friendship, and I believe I have also fallen in love with him. I don't know what to do because despite his telling me that he's not willing to risk heartbreak, I sense that he is strongly attracted to me -- spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically. I believe that he may be the love of my life, but I'm feeling very restricted right now. Any advice? IP: Logged |
Shieldrocks
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posted February 20, 2003 07:41 PM
I'll take a stab at this....I think what he means by "Loves hard" is in relations to his Scorp Sun/Leo moon/scorp Venus. He's got a huge heart no doubt, which can be easily hurt. You both do have some great "Astrological Chemistry" but my gut instinct tells me that there is nothing you can do here, it's all in his court. Don't let your Capricorn moon get you down...have Aries hope. Scorps can deceive others and even themselves which may be what he is doing now. Hope that helps... IP: Logged |
LambWithAStinger
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posted February 20, 2003 09:49 PM
Thanks for the encouragement, Shieldrocks. I am rather bummed right now. He seems to say he's not willing to take any risks, but his actions are very confusing to me.*****sigh****** And I think I'm really sad because I intuitively understand just how deep his capacity to love is, and just how much he's been hurt, and just how afraid he is to trust. It only makes me want to love him all the more.
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lllog
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posted February 20, 2003 11:06 PM
LambWithAStinger, i did a relationship reading for you not long ago, but at the time you didn't know his birthtime. Sounds like you haven't been able to achive any more in the relationship than you could then. Why don't you just be straight with him. sounds like the potential is there, but until you communicate your feelings, it will just remain a potential. You don't need more readings, you just need to act on your feelings. Lanny IP: Logged |
LambWithAStinger
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posted February 20, 2003 11:18 PM
Oh, Lanny, I did last night! And his response was, "I choose to be where I am because I don't want to be hurt again. I am one of those people who 'LOVES HARD'. I gave my all more that I care to remember." I was hurt by his statements, because I am willing to take a risk. And I was also hurt because I felt as if he had banished all intimate relationships from his life, based on his past experiences.I'm just curious as to whether it will ever get off the ground. From the charts and readings and, more importantly, from what I feel inside, I know that the potential is there. I just wonder if he's more inclined to overanalyze the "what-if's" to the point the life just passes on by. (In Aries talk, that statement would read, "Is he EVER gonna make a move? And, if so, WHEN?????!!!) IP: Logged |
lllog
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posted February 21, 2003 08:15 AM
If that was his answer, maybe you need to accept it. If he has been hurt that bad, he may never come out of it. All you can do is just be his friend. Lanny IP: Logged |
Mercy
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posted February 21, 2003 09:36 AM
Dear Lamb,Sounds to me like another lesson in unconditional love. Loving someone without any expectations just because there is no other option than to love him. I feel for you as I have been in it many times myself. It served my purpose very well so I am thankful it all happened. Your situation sounds like one guy I was in love with so much a few years ago. He also has Venus in Scorpio and a few other Scorp placements. He said exactly the same.
Feel blessed by such a wonderful relationship it doesn't have to hurt. Like Illog said, being his friend is all you can do! And what a wonderful opportunity you got presented, to be a friend of someone so amazing! Enjoy the good things and LOVE him and have FAITH! Still, I feel for you!  IP: Logged |
LambWithAStinger
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posted February 23, 2003 02:26 PM
Thanks to everyone for your kind words. I am still rather confused. I am trying to be "just a friend," but I feel like I am getting mixed signals from him. For example, this past Friday he invited me to dinner at his house to meet his son. When I arrived he and his son were in the living room. We had dinner and watched a basketball game together. When the game was over, his son went to his room and we watched a couple of movies by candlelight. (What's up with that?) I could feel him watching me whenever I wasn't looking, and as soon as I looked at him, he'd turn away. Maybe I'm reading more into this than there is to it, but I feel as if he's "sizing me up." I truly wish to be his friend; however, I am sensing vibes from him that appear to be more than "friendly," despite him having said that he wasn't willing to risk having his heart broken again. It's almost as if he is willing himself not to allow himself to care, but that he wants to. Am I making any sense? On the one hand, I want to spend time with him, but on the other hand, it's difficult to feel as I do about him, pick up the vibrations that I'm receiving from him and not act on them. I wanted so much to reach out and hug him and tell him that we would be okay, but I didn't want that to be perceived as my violating his wish "not to become involved." I need a some disinterested input here. IP: Logged | |
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