posted March 01, 2003 10:14 PM              

Why do Scorpios receive so much hype over our bedroom performance? I'm just a go with it type of person. I honestly don't think I have much on anyone else really.

Also, the whole temper thing?? I don't lose it unless provoked to do so... but who doesn't right?

posted March 02, 2003 04:00 AM              

As for the temper thing...yeah, everyone looses their temper, but I think it has to do with how Scorps loose it. Besides the fabled intensity of their reactions, there's the perception by others around a Scorpio that it "came out of nowhere" since ya'll tend to keep a tight reign on the outward expression of emotion; since, after all, if someone knows where you stand, they can pull the rug out from under you. And - again, stereotypically - the last thing a Scorp wants is to unexpectedly find someone with an iota of power over them.

posted March 02, 2003 11:55 AM              

I was married to a gemini and could always tell if the mind wasn't on exactly what was going on. It really aggravated me at times!

The power issue...... "if" I do allow that in that particular situation then if it tries to leave outside of that (i.e. in the everyday relationship) I sort of rebel against it going on again. As I don't want them to think they have any control over me. It makes me feel dependant and weak. So yes, I see that.

The temper .... yeah, I really don't want to hurt anyone with my opinions to be honest. So I just lay back until it gets to where I feel like I'm a doormat and then I just confront them.

Shieldrocks: Know exactly what you mean about wanting things with intensity. I do go after everything that I sat my mind to.. and I won't allow anyone or anything to get in the way and I have patience for it all. I can honestly wait years!

The eyes... now that, blows me away.. as I feel that others can read me by looking in my eyes... and I have been commented on a few times as to the way I look at someone..

Sorry this reply took so long.... but thank you for your time.

posted March 03, 2003 08:31 PM              

Though Leo and Shield has, and thanks for your insight.

Leo: I do know a scorpio guy who is the same way !!... Hey, I just thought it was a guy thing?! Though I do admit... my mind travels at times.... again though, I thought that was a deal everyone as well??

Someone please tell me it is !! (I'm not really as distressed as that appears)

Again, thanks to all for posting...

posted March 03, 2003 09:38 PM              

It's just that some verbalize it more than others(traditionally only men were allowed to)

Decades of repression from society have made sexuality taboo, shameful, and made people uncomfortable with it.

From what I've learned in my Psychology of Sexual Behavior classes, I think it's very safe to say women are just as much horny as men. It's just they are taught from birth to repress that. Come on out ladies!

I notice a huge difference in women between generations... pre-generation X women have been socialized in an outdated and repressed role, and based on studies I've read in my Sexual Behavior class 80% feel their sex life isn't what they'd imagine it to be.

While Generation X, Y, and soon enough the hyper-sexual generation Z (transiting Pluto) are very comfortable with expressing their sexuality. Lots are straight spitting in the face of traditional gender barriers when it comes to sex.

Old people see it as being "loose" but in all honesty men & women are very similar creatures, it's only our socialization that forces us into different roles. And I've noticed a lot of girls freeing themselves & following instinctual drives rather than playing a part in some stupid Donna Reed fantasy life that was forced upon them.

In contemporary times, as our generations lose faith in the man-made institutions of religion: Catholicism, Christianity, Judaism, and other "old" religions, the popularity and exporation of one's own spirituality, without some minister telling you what it is, has soared.

In my experience young adults that attend regular services at a church or synagogue are in the extreme minority.

Self-discovery of one's own spirituality has attracted a HUGE following.

And I've noticed that within this following sexuality is considered and valued to be AS IMPORTANT as spirituality to explore, define, and experiment with...

posted March 03, 2003 10:18 PM              

Mucho Kuddos to you on this one!! I think women can be as sexually aggressive as well as men can be quiet and sensitive. To hear me speak sometimes, you'de assume I'm a guy, but I'm a chick with way too many masculine signs in my chart :smile:
In a bar I always scope out who I want to "have". I used to always hang out with guys growing up...even in the work force later on.

posted March 03, 2003 10:34 PM              

Though I understand that some are not comfortable with even a mild mannered discussion that relates to sex. Which you got to look at and respect on their part. However, we're NOT ALL like that !

posted March 04, 2003 12:14 PM              

These ideas are not all my own though, credit is attributed to my wonderful feminazi professor here at the University who's Sexual behavior class I had to take twice.

And to my last woman, who was a lovely Lady Eagle, because as I took the class, I bounced everything I heard off her and picked her brain to pieces to understand you ladies. If it wasn't for her great comfort level speaking of sex and profound understand of sexual relations I wouldn't have learned a bit.

Funny how Scorps have such darn problems expressing themselves when it comes to feelings/emotions, but when it comes to sex... they just put it all out there, lol

posted March 09, 2003 12:24 AM              

Only 20-30% of women have orgasm as a result of vaginal penetration alone (Masters & Johnson, 1976)
(So guys if every woman you've been with says she has with you... without any other stimulation than your pedro, you got another thing coming)

90% of women have faked on orgasm with at least one partner in their life (Tackett, 2000)

75% of women who had ever faked an orgasm had done so up to 50 times, & 10% had faked orgasm innumerable times (more than they can count) (Ellison, 2000)

Main reasons for faking orgasms are:

"avoid disapponting or hurting their partners"

"to get sex over with"

"poor communication or limited knowledge of sexual techniques"

"a need for partner approval"

"an attempt to hide a deteriorating relationship"
(Ellison, 2000; Lauerson & Graves, 1984)

Most important part I think:
80% of women aren't having orgasm thru intercourse

90% do not have one the 1st time they sleep with a man, which drops a little after more time being with (teaching) a man (so guys stop fooling yourselves)

80% of women can easily reach orgasm thru their own self-stimulation of the clitoris

Combine all three and I think the lesson is obvious...

Men, there is a reason for the "love button" and its stimulation should be a necessity for every act of intercourse.

The glands used to form the head of the penis are the same used to form the clitoris, so try to imagine having sex without any stimulation to the head of your penis... that's what women feel w/o clitoral stimulation.

Women, it's up to you to get yourself off sometimes, so if he isn't stimulating your "love button" you should be telling him too, or don't be shy, do it yourself... sh*t most guys would enjoy seeing a woman take charge like that.

BTW - if they're "too rough" with their hands then you're supposed to use a technique called "sensate focus" which essentially is you stimulating yourself with his fingers... that way he better knows the amount a pressure and technique you prefer.

And I'll close with the first & MOST IMPORTANT lesson we learned in class:

Men aren't sex gods, society says every man is supposed to be an all-knowing sex god the second they're born. That's a lot of for us to live up to & a lot of pressure.
(Hence, all the lying)

So women it is ultimately YOUR responsibility to get yourself off.
If you don't tell your man how to, or don't communicate ANYTHING & EVERYTHING you WANT/DO NOT WANT, then your limiting yourself to unsatisfying sex forever.

Come on its the new millenia, shed those Donna Reed gender role restrictions and let yourself be heard! You are woman, let's hear you roar!

And for dudes... my personal opinion is use your hands! Always, everywhere, all the time! They don't always have to be moving, sometimes just holding an area, or applying pressure to a spot, talk to your lady, make sex fun & comfortable enough where she should be comfortable requesting ANYTHING of you and you should oblige, after all we're only tools at their disposal!

I made my last woman swear to me to never lie about orgasms and being a Scorp she's like, "You got it! It may be brutal but if that's what you want, I never will"

The way I figure it, if she lies I'll never know what I'm doing right & won't be able to fine tune my skills into her needs.

And she doesn't have one EVERY time, sometimes it just isn't one of those nights, but that's totally cool with me, sometimes I don't either ya know. Like one of those all-nighters where the focus is just to bond in silent passion, or if you're trying to do it real quick in public , or if she's under the infulence of some drugs or a lot of alcohol, women's sexuality can be really fickle sometimes so I don't expect that every time.

posted March 09, 2003 09:30 AM              

It's Sunday morning!! I just got back from Church to read this???!!
I think a lot more people would be happier hearing your last sermon LL than the one we heard this morning.....

posted March 09, 2003 12:50 PM              

This class I took was quite graphic & I tried to cut all the language that was a bit too graphic.

Just to give you an example, part of the class requirement was to watch adults films in-class, demonstrating techniques that address everything from boredom, to g-spot/prostate stimulation, to premature ejaculation. Some drawbacks were, when our Professor said we have to view EVERYTHING she meant it. We were even forced to watch homosexual intercourse, which was quite disturbing for us dudes

The class was a night class and always lively. Try to imagine a class with 60+ people (50 of which were women & 10 guys) watching an hour long adult film... the charge in the air was so thick sometimes that I felt we could cut it. I remember one girl saying everytime she left class she felt like running over to her boyfriends to... well you know.

So I apologize if it came out raunchy, it was meant to take the blinders off dudes.

posted March 09, 2003 04:36 PM              

If that is what you meant about uninhibited? Than well. I guess than maybe I am someone that likes to show what works and what doesn't. Though I never go about it in a rude authoritive manner.

I think it helps when both partners are equally aware of what "does it" for the other. It's not just the simple "act" that gets it. There is quite a bit of other things that have to be incorporated into the whole experience.

You were right about guys thinking that just intercourse alone is enough! That sort of always puzzled me....... I'm like look... you're not that good ! I never tell them that of course. Though unless they prove me wrong I maybe thinking somewhere along those lines.