posted March 22, 2003 06:24 AM              

Am I being unjust and selfish? Is it anything to do with my birthdate which is 4th April, 1975?

posted March 22, 2003 08:32 AM              

Looks like you're an Aries/Aqua moon like me! I think Aries and Aquarius are very spontanious BUT when you have a new Baby to think of, it's totally different. This happened to me a lot with my daughter who's now 3. At last minute I'd have to rush to get a babysitter and let's face it...that's not exactly something you can just whip up. I'd never be able to enjoy getting ready because I'd have to get her ready for bed first and there's no time. If you have more notice you can arrange to have the baby taken care of and still enjoy yourself! Maybe it's a control thing or the fact we like to have fun and feel this situation is a violation of our much needed freedom! Amen!

posted March 22, 2003 11:50 AM              

You are just a person who gets a bit off when somebody changes your plan, thats normal happens a lot

You are a very sweet person and as I remember in one of your msgs you mentioned
"Life is what you make it"

belive in your own words and you will find the truth.

posted March 22, 2003 01:26 PM              

(love that name!) how about you take a pro-active stance and organize things ahead of time with your friends? that way you get your needed time to do your things, and your friends still get to be with you

posted March 23, 2003 03:47 AM              

Good idea, Aphrodite about organising a get-together next time!! I will do that!! Thankyou for your compliment about my name!!

Shieldrocks, I was born at around 11.45p.m., so I think I might be an Aquarian moon girl.
I do like spontaneous things to do, but I think the 4's in my birthchart might be where my need of organisation comes from!!!

posted March 26, 2003 03:13 AM              

For what it's worth, I find that all my cardinal sign girlfriends are _Generals_! when it comes to planning! We think well ahead of our other friends, partners, etc., unless they too are a cardinal sign.

Although let me say, my mom is Gemini, and I consider her a Sergeant-Major! She likes everything _organized_ well in advance, whereas my General pals and myself, we er, um, ah, well perhaps maybe we just like to have a little, um, _control_ of a situation! Of course, we refer to this as "having input" or "having our needs considered", or "just thinking ahead".

It is true, though, that non-parents are quite clueless about what it takes to manage all the details (and gear! O the accessories and bags and diapers!) with a baby... I had an argument with a single male pal who heard his best friends had had baby #2, about whether he should call them, or whether they should be the ones to call him!! As if those parents with a toddler and newborn wouldn't appreciate someone saving _them_ a call!! You may have to gently train the non-parents in your life to er...

...consider your needs...