posted June 11, 2003 09:18 AM              

So, I've decided to wait it out.

Also, I seem to run into guys with planets that aren't as aggressive as mine.

I'll get it right... one of these years I don't really worry about it... if I do I do and if I don't ... nobody's company is as good as my own

Good luck with the Aqua Proxi With reading some of your posts... this guy has had it!

Lion: You may be onto something with that sun and moon thing. I have this Gemini that is on again and off ..

HIS

Sun Gem
Moon Scorpio
Mercury Cancer
Venus Cancer
Mars Pisces

posted June 11, 2003 10:38 AM            

You are totally right. We need our squares and oppositions to teach us life lessons and to show us our own strengths and weaknesses. Where would we be if everything was easy. It was like Lioneye said, it would be tooooo easy if we only dealt with our trines.

I adore my Virgo squares, I just know that when that Virgo also has a healthy dose of plantary positions in Gemini, Virgo and Pisces, that I need to keep on my toes, because it won't be compatible.

The same is true with your trine. If I met a Leo that had the majority of his planets in Virgo, Pisces or Gemini, things aren't going to work out as well as if there were some softer aspects. BUT!!! We need those stresses to some degree. It wouldn't make for an interesting relationship if we totally trines and had the exact matched to our mate.

posted June 11, 2003 10:49 AM            

LOL, actually this has been one of my busier weeks with people coming in and out of my office and tons of studies that I am working on, but posting here and reading is a nice diversion.

I seem to feel and work better when I am slammed, too much time on my hands and I start to daydream. LOL

posted June 11, 2003 12:15 PM              

I HAVE to take breaks to email just about everyone AND their sister, that I know is at their comp...

posted June 11, 2003 02:54 PM              

Alright, something we haven't discussed (??). What is the basic qualities that we look for when meeting someone.

posted June 11, 2003 03:14 PM            

What I look for in a person:

1) He has to be able to stand up for what is right and his own rights as well.

2) He has to be able to challenge me intellectually, sexually and emotionally.

3) He has to LOVE his family, even though people have weird family members!

4)He has to LOVE animals!!!!

5) He has to be generous of heart and gives freely. I can't someone that gives to get something in return or is a tightwad.

6) He has to be quick to smile. I love smiles.

7) He has to want to grow and learn, because once you stop, then there no use in living. Dreaming is important.

8) I like a man that enjoys the outdoors and being outside: working with his hands, camping, hiking, working with animals.

9) Most of all, I like a man that will give me my independence and trust me. If I have that, then I will spoil him forever and a day and I will always let him know that he is the most special person in the world!!

Lioneye,

posted June 11, 2003 03:17 PM              

Also, I'm not too easily impressed to be honest. Friendship wise.. yeah. Close friendship... picky... romantically... Jeez! How do I ever get involved

posted June 11, 2003 03:27 PM            

I lived with my Ex before we were married for about a year. I was like "hey, this sucks, I have to play like I am committed but there's no ring on my finger" So I said to him "I have an idea, I'll move out and we can just date". See, that would be perfect, I am free but still committed.

posted June 11, 2003 03:35 PM              

You can have your cake and eat it too! Then you can decide if you can do this with this person for the rest of your life. It's like "30 day trial offer, if you're not completely satisfied, return him, no questions asked".

posted June 11, 2003 04:19 PM            

It sounds kind of selfish, but if I am going to give up my freedom, then there has got to be a real committment (maybe because that is more likely to make me stay and work at it). If not, then why should I have to worry about when I come home from work (I have been known to work long hours).

Then again, it all boils down to if you love that person and want to spend time with them by living together or getting married. See, that really is one of the fundamental differences between a Leo and a Sag. Leo's enjoy the whole "togetherness" aspect, the being in love with love. Sag's, well, we are always looking out that window while doing the dishes thinking, what would it be like to be free.

I laugh to my family about being on my own because I have always loved and cherished those times. I tell them "Hey, when I need companionship, I call someone or hang out with a friend". One of the things about Mr. Leo and I, is that we both love our space and freedom - alone time, as we call it.

posted June 11, 2003 05:02 PM              

Fire Signs: Only dated Lionesses... to my knowledge, I mean I only picked up on this astrology stuff in the last couple years, and there were many before that I have no clue what their data was...

As for qualities I look for...

It starts with physical, of course, that's how it starts for everyone: start with a nice round behind that's sticks out a bit(firm but still soft & smooth, can't be flat AT ALL!), distinct face (chiseled features are best, defined jaw bone and such), pretty eyes & nice hair are great too but not a necessity.
(Right now I want one with dark hair & light eyes, they have been doin it for me lately, mmmm mmm mm!)

Now if that works...

Then to personality: Has to challenge me, I can't ALWAYS be right and I better be proved wrong a couple times, I love a sh*it-talker, the more the better(as long as it's not in an grossly inappropriate setting) and a little violence doesn't hurt either, she must have GREAT social manners, charmer of crowds, has to be able to deal with people & new situations well.

Emotional: hopefully more stable than me to balance it out. Also her being able to express it is great, but not a necessity.

posted June 11, 2003 05:13 PM              

Once I feel they're getting a little too clingy... I feel like I have a noose wrapped around my neck.

Also, someone who can carry a decent conversation... yeah, looks are great... but let's face it... I'll get bored really quick!

Let me sit in silence at times! Someone that doesn't hassle me about my personal life... either take me as I am or Move On Cause I ain't changing

posted June 11, 2003 05:17 PM            

Besides, I have had time to think about what I would like in a guy and what I have to offer. It's simple really. If you don't know what you want, then you will always be making more and more mistakes.

I learned that technique a while back. There is a great book called "Love, Sex and Magick". It's all about the myth behind love and how we delude ourselves into wanting something when in actuality we don't even know what we like or don't like. There is an exercise that asks the person to list what they do in a day, what they like, dislike and what they are truely looking for.

Knowing yourself and loving yourself is the first step. Then you can find someone that meets your standards and you meet their standards. It sounds clinical but it's not. So many relationships end because people are not being truthful with themselves or their mates.

It takes time to get to know someone and patience is another thing that one must learn. It's hard when you want to jump into something.

For me, there are no compromises on certain things. If someone hates animals or doesn't want pets: "there's the door: Don't let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya".

posted June 11, 2003 05:23 PM              

"there's the door: Don't let the door hit ya where the good Lord split ya"

posted June 11, 2003 06:01 PM            

I think he saw it as a challenge. He wanted to see if he could get this little free spirit to want to settle down. I never wanted to hurt his feelings and he did handle it well. I never just "disappeared" and didn't call or anything.

BUT, what is kind of funny is that he has this great deep voice (Taurus rising) and one time I was on my way out and I hear "Where in the hell do you think you are going Sassy?" LOL..he calls me sassy, short for sasquatch, for always getting my big feet in my mouth. LOL