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Topic: Who's Been Your Best Lover? Part III
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Lost Leo
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posted June 25, 2003 06:12 PM
 
Unless it's on a woman  IP: Logged |
lioneye68
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posted June 25, 2003 06:26 PM
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Lost Leo
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posted June 25, 2003 06:40 PM
You know my X-Scorp I dated NEVER wore pink once, in all the years I knew her...?Odd, huh?  IP: Logged |
pidaua
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posted June 25, 2003 06:44 PM
That was funny Lost Leo (about pink being nice on a woman)
I usually wear darker colors, but I do wear pink. It compliments my complexion. LOL....
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lioneye68
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posted June 25, 2003 06:53 PM
Hi, Pidaua!
How was the day with Mr. Leo? Lot's of good naughty action?  Hope so!Somehow, I don't see you as a "pink" person. I like pale pink, but avoid fushia at all costs. I think it looks good on darker ladies though. Leo, I know quite a few girls who abhor pink. Too girly for them. (what's wrong with girly, anyway?) IP: Logged |
pidaua
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posted June 25, 2003 07:23 PM
Hi Lioneye, LOL...I don't wear alot of pink. When I do wear it, it is usually combined with black and worn during the summer. Like the other night here in Phoenix I had a black flowered skirt and a dark pink polo. Sometimes I wear pastels, but again, it has to be a summer thing. My normal colors are Earth tones plus dark reds, blues and of course....black.  IP: Logged |
ally
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posted June 25, 2003 08:11 PM
Pink's my favourite colour! Just indulge me and leave the background as it is.  IP: Logged |
1scorp
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posted June 25, 2003 08:13 PM
I hate pink!! Sorry.. but I do.
Think it's just a thing with me though. My Taurus mom loves it! I mean, every shade you could possibly think of that involves pink... she owns it all! She use to dress me in it... (lion, remember the baby picture?!) I mean, I think it looks nice on some women and all... I just don't do it. Any color but that one... Nothing major... I mean, it's just a color... that I don't incorporate into my dress or my furnishings.
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1scorp
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posted June 25, 2003 08:29 PM
Oh yeah... forgot something The guy thing... to be honest... if I caught my Gem discussing this type of thing with a bunch of women without me there!! Now, if I'm sitting there... sure, go ahead... talk all you want. My not so nice side would step out! FAST! That's alright though... he's got a scorpio moon and he would do the same to me! We're so stinking jealous of each other it's not even funny *Yet, it's in different ways. HA! I have to tell this story... was at a party about a year ago... I was talking to this woman and she was asking me if I was there with anyone (yes, I do allow him to roam around unsupervised I told her yes and pointed out who with (my Gem) Well... she poofs her hair real quick and rubs her lips together (you know that thing women do with their lipstick) pulls her shoulders back, sticks her butt out and trots right over there to him! (wanting to crack up … but I’ve used all my laughs up) Me taunting her... shake it girl! He just looked at me like "OMG! What the hell did you do that for"! Then he comes up to me with her "still" talking to him... and well... we get a little fresh (I’m laughing here too ha-ha) I'm looking out of the corner of my eye the whole time and she's standing there with this "well, what about me" expression all over her face. You know how EVERY party has the "one" that wants to get to know every guy there... well, she was it! (just a chuckling) FUNNY! FUNNY! Am I mean or what?!
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ElevenFourteen
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posted June 25, 2003 11:10 PM
...and after you were done getting fresh, did you go over and ask her where HER man was? I woulda.Crazy parties, 1scorp, I should visit your town. I haven't worn pink since I was fourteen. Black fits my mood.
It just... fits. IP: Logged |
moondust
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posted June 26, 2003 02:27 AM
I'm with you 1Scorp, I never wear pink either. But, my libra mother wears it almost every day and also tried to get me to. And we all know what happens when you try to get a scorpio to do something they don't want to do! IP: Logged |
Lost Leo
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posted June 30, 2003 06:42 PM
Alright, have a question...MEANINGLESS SEX - why is it so difficult? The flames of summer passion were blowing for me hard this June... I was on a mission to get me a mate Yet finally on the night where one made herself readily available for some "baby-makin," I found myself pushed even further away from doing something like that than I have ever been 
And the after-effect has made me "over" women for now...totally over them... What I mean is most dudes are just totally down with getting whatever they can, whenever they can... Is that social-conditioning? Are they just conforming to what they "think" society wants of the typical dude, or trying to fulfill the typical male role? I find women attractive physically, but once I get inside their head and realize there's an echo, I become disattracted... The only one I actually want is the one I can't pursue; plus she's not even a eye-popping heart-stopper physically... she's just simply in the same major of study, with the same academic & life ambitions, teaches me new things, she's so smart, she's passionate about snowboarding, doesn't party all that much... (can ya tell we spent some time together recently? hours working on a joint project last Friday and didn't stop talking for even one moment, what a turn on ) IP: Logged |
pidaua
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posted June 30, 2003 06:48 PM
It's simple Lost Leo... you are growing up and realizing that "quality" is worth more than "quantity". At some point we say to ourselves: "Is it more important to just get off, or what about the value of actually merging".
See, when two people become deep friends, the passion will be more intense. I think that you are finding that out with the person that you really enjoy talking to at work. Maybe she will even become "heart-stopping" physically.
I may be guessing, but what I think you experienced before was just the brief lust phase. You judged by how much a lady could make your heart beat...stop...beat again. Then you got to know them and realized that they were nothing that you could want in a person, maybe you knew that anyway, but you really are just not looking for a committment. Now, you are looking into yourself and finding out what you like and are attracted to in a mate...not just physically, but intellectually as well. Looks are great, but once the newness wears off, then what is there? IP: Logged |
1scorp
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posted June 30, 2003 07:26 PM
Ms. Pidaua: The looks are great statement.I'll be the first to admit that looks is what first attracts me. I won't lie about it Yet, as I said before... after the initial lust stage wears off than they really need to have more going on. IP: Logged |
sthenri
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posted June 30, 2003 09:32 PM
You are pretty direct Lost Leo, I have wondered about this myself. It feels like the the greater the challenge the better the reward sometimes, if you use your intelligence the sex is better. The most important sex organ is the brain, you can't ignore it.I like a man (notice not men?) that makes me work for him (not it), who is hard to get, and makes me grit my teeth. If you let this girl you are attracted to know that you are willing to work for her attention for as long as it takes, she would be mighty attracted. Attraction is not the same thing as sex but it's half the battle and the rest is up to your imaginations. If we were happy as intelligent beings with hot sex alone, there wouldn't be cruises, weddings, island getaways, fantastic resorts, bubble baths, all of these are rituals that signify advanced emotional involvement in sex, which makes it more intense. That is why it's better, the secret is finding someone who shares your passion, and then finding out hers. Be a little selfish. There are some things that make up for sex too, beautiful romantic cards and letters, framed photos, romantic getaways, and these are necessary because there are times when even soulmates can't have sex but need that emotional connection. The hard thing is that once you've had it you can't live without it again. The sexiest thing that I experienced was this, imagine your new lover kisses you in a new place every day and then a year later gives you a card to celebrate each kiss, a card for each kiss. Actually we had a six month celebration too. Best wishes with the new prospect, give her a little hope but let her know she doesn't have to work too hard for you. If she's not eye popping to you, maybe you could imagine her as a primitive goddess? If she doesn't have that kind of passion, hang in there, you will find someone who does.
You only need one. Flirting can get you everywhere. Natasha IP: Logged |
Lost Leo
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posted July 01, 2003 04:46 PM
Pid, you should be paid for being a psychologist in LindaLand too...lol it actually made me feel a bit bad, considering you are always listening to the problems of your coworkers  Anyways, yeah it is a maturity thing for sure... when you realize you don't care what your friends think anymore, and even more so do not want to follow their advice, I guess you're growing up, or at least coming into your own... It's not like I have to be in love with some woman to sleep with her, it just has to kinda be leading somewhere, ya know? If I know there is no way in h*ll that I would let this woman by my girlfriend... than it's not really leading anywhere and I can't treat her the way she'd want to be treated...that's why I just send her packing before I start being disrespectful... cause I know I'll feel the guilt (or Karma) for that one later Hey Natasha, you're so right on the brain being the biggest sexual organ... To be utterly turned off & disgusted by a nearly perfect, naked body in bed next to me is a new feeling for me... I just need the mental stimulation or else it's not gonna happen... I guess it could happen, but I would regret it later, or feel dirty... ugh! that's the worst feeling...dirtiness... But the one at work just isn't gonna happen, at least not anytime soon... she's way cute, not a bombshell, but that's cool, it's how smart she is that takes her above the "cute" level, to "hot"... we're friends and I don't want to mess anything up or make work awkward... but I will admit she's being much more friendly with every day. It would have to be a secret affair , no one could know at work...lol, sounds kinda exciting to me IP: Logged |
moondust
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posted July 02, 2003 01:43 AM
I'm going through the same thing LL. When do you know it's safe to cross the line with someone you work with? We all know it's not appropiate, but when you look at the statistics of where people meet, the majority of them met at work! I'm a scorp and the guy that's slowly becoming a better friend is a scorp, so it's getting pretty intense when we work together. We're both trying to deny it, but you can only do that for so long. A secret affair would be fun! How do you tell someone you work with that you're interested and not make it uncomfortable?  IP: Logged |
lioneye68
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posted July 02, 2003 01:51 AM
It depends how dependant your job is on them. If either one has rank over the other BEWARE! If both are equal, or in separate areas, NO PROBLEM!
Where else are we going to meet each other when we're no longer in school? The bar? Hmmm.
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moondust
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posted July 02, 2003 02:05 AM
We're both equal and we're both in school. We're both psyc/english majors who started school late (after 25). Our charts are almost exactly the same, which is a little scary because it's like talking to myself! Our asc. and moons are different, which helps. He's so quiet and shy, I started talking to him as a challenge to see if I could get him to open up because I found him to be so mysterious. Well, the more he talks the more intrigued I become! He wasn't supposed to be that interesting, but he has managed to capture my thoughts. Hopefully I did the same. He's staring at me, so I guess that's a good thing, coming from a scorpio. I can actually make him laugh, too! Wish me luck!  IP: Logged |
sthenri
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posted July 02, 2003 07:58 AM
As for co-workers being lovers, it depends on how discreet you are, your lover may be but can you keep it a secret. It's very difficult to hide your feelings once they become strong. Plus I agree that if one has rank over the other it's a bad deal. Eventually, jealousy could strike because you don't know how many other secret affairs this person has besides you. I find it very hard to be discreet after a while, and the last time that happened, work came to a standstill because we were talking all the time. There was a lot of resentment, eventually another girl starting getting nasty and breaking my things, so I said forget this, I don't need to know everything going on here. I think it's better to wait until you are both at other jobs, plus I do not like to talk about work with a lover. I like to meet people through other people, or even on my own, when I am working on a project. I met my libra at an art gallery, although his way was to meet up with women at work too. After my experience I wouldn't try again, once burned twice shy. I find if I am daydreaming, or thinking on automatic, driving, drawing, I tend to flirt more. I can't do that in an office setting, too many rude comments, since I am an open flirt. Natasha IP: Logged |
sthenri
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posted July 02, 2003 08:01 AM
moondust, my advice is to go out for dinner only and then when it gets romantic, get some space at work for a while, I mean don't go to lunch everyday. This way it's not uncomfortable, let him know that you both still have your space somehow, so there isn't an expectation of smothering. A relationship like that can be too intense too quickly.Natasha IP: Logged |
pidaua
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posted July 02, 2003 11:50 AM
Lost Leo, I thank you for your sentiment, but I really do love to post on this forum and help anyone I can. I think that the people here are great and I don't feel drained like I do when my co-workers unload on me. I consider people here to be my friends. Also, I have to be honest, I feel a bit of a kinship towards you because you are my link to my home (Laguna / South Orange County) and you remind me of a time from long ago (wow, doesn't that sound profound). Not to mention I love being able to help people, so please feel free to ask anything.
I understand what you are going through because I went through that phase too (but not in the sexual sense, for me sex has always been something deep, but I did play the game alot and broke more that my fair share of hearts doing it).
Then you start to get that "feeling" that Karma will come back. The old "what goes around comes around". I used to date guys for their looks and joke with my friends "Well, hell, it's not like I am going to marry them, but it's sure fun to pass the time with them and they are sooooo easy on the eyes".
Then I hurt someone and saw that look in their eyes. Then the total compassion started to kick in and I began to really feel the hurt that I inflicted on others or how my actions could hurt their feelings. So, now I am a bit different...older and wise...LOL..not that old though.
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Lost Leo
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posted July 02, 2003 07:28 PM
Moondust, well it's nice to know someone going thru the same thing... did you say its Scorp & Scorp, whew! You know that's gonna be exciting, I wish you the best of luck!
For right now I'm just gonna stay friends, no need to risk anything right now, but plz check back in and let me know if you figured out the way to work it, I would appreciate any tips!Lioneye: EXACTLY, once you're out of school, WHERE ARE you supposed to meet people... NOT A BAR, I'll tell you that... I can barely handle talking to drunk chix at the bars as it is now... once I'm out of school I'm sure that type of conversation will become even more unappealing... cont... (too many smilies ) IP: Logged |
Lost Leo
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posted July 02, 2003 07:28 PM
Natasha... you are so funny & cool, did I tell you that already, everytime I read a post of yours it cracks me up or gets me thinking.
As R Kelly would say, I'll "keep it on the down low" fo sure! And being that the female I dig is Scorp I'm guessing she'd have no problem with that, lol, my guess is she'll love it! We are equals by title, but I have three people working for me in two different departments, none of which are her... I offer to lend them out to her for a mutual project of ours, but she jokes "I don't have that power"... Scorp chix and power... at least she noticed
We chilled today and I used everything I learned from my lost love 'lil Scorp, on her, and we're flowing great!!! So excited for next snowboarding season, THAT'S... when I'll let loose my Full-Charming-Force Hoping she'll bite and come get me "you remind me of a time from long ago"
Pid, the Karma thing has happened to you too? Man I learned my lesson... how's it go... "Never be reckless with another's heart, and never put up with anyone who's reckless with yours...?" Well I was reckless and the relationship immediately following that one I was getting double-timed, one man in SoCal, one man in NorCal...and of course she was a Gemini It's nice to know that other peeps feel the deepness too about sex, especially intelligent people I respect like yourself... the level of brain waves, or sophistication, I must say is similar to mine, if not a tad above me... it's great to hear intelligent thoughts & reflection...
Reminds me of my talks with my Sag bestfriend... but he's in London for the rest of the summer so you're gonna have to substitute till he get's back, k? IP: Logged |
moondust
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posted July 03, 2003 02:08 AM
Lost Leo-"figured out a way to work it?" You know how scorpios work it! Slow and subtle, until we have you!Actually, I can't play mind games with him because he will see straight through me, so i've got to come up with a better plan! It's scary to be interested in someone who can beat me at the staring game. He told me today that he enjoys spending time with me because i'm one of the few people he knows that's not full of bull****. That has to be one of the best compliments i've ever received. So, i've got his stare and respect. Two difficult things to obtain from a scorpio man, without even trying...how weird is that? Now, all I need is 
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