posted July 11, 2003 05:34 AM              

I am new to the board and am seeking some wisdom. I know little about astrology, but thought perhaps someone else might be able to offer some insight.

I had an on again off again relationship with a man for ten years. We were first loves and it was an extremely intense relationship. We are now apart. It has been a passionate and amazing and painful journey all at once. When we don't talk for months, I can think about him and he will call. THere's always been this unexplainable connection, but we just can't seem to make it work. I can't seem to forgive him for the past and trust him again, and he can't seem to deal with my emotional outbursts.

Me:
April 13, 1977
11:53 AM
Juneau, Alaska

Him:
February 9, 1977
Born in Mexico, I believe Mexico City but not positive. I know he was a morning birth but don't have an exact time.

Is there a way to tell if we are forever doomed, and I should just move on? If anyone has any insight from the stars it is immensely appreciated.
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posted July 12, 2003 11:18 PM              

See http://www.bobmarksastrologer.com/ and look in the Lessons. There is a ton of info on synastry, joint charts and Bob talks a lot about this aspect. It's great for a team, or co-workers or a marriage that;s public but from experience I can say it's very restricting. Especially for an Aries. His moon and pluto are opposite your sun, and pluto is the planet of passion. Pluto opposite the sun gives problems with seeing things as they are. Pluto opposite the sun in an individual's chart can mean obsession with body image or self criticism. Your natal saturn is on your ascendant which means you are very serious about who you love, my sister has this aspect and she has loved the same man since she was 17. She has Mars in Pisces too. He put her through hell first before they married. I admire her for their happiness now, but her hubby is a Scorp (also with moon in libra), not an Aqua. Aqua's like their freedom.

Are you sure you are ready? With his saturn sitting on your image, your persona, he defines you as a person, maybe he needs freedom because his boundaries are not defined enough. Are you willing to marry this man for life and be his life partner and define him as well as let him define your life? If not, then he would make a good friend and teacher. He would be a good friend. Your outbursts aren't going away, not with an Aries Sun and Leo ascendant, and since he has a lot of Air, and a Capricorn mars, he is going to need control of his immediate environment in order to feel happy.

Capricorn mars can have issues with sexuality and guilt, the harder they try the bigger the guilt. Read about singletons. He has Uranus as a singleton in Scorpio. Uranus rules sexuality and attraction, its square his Sun and Saturn so he's pretty magnetic in an unstable way. His Uranus conjunct or aspecting square, or opposite your ascendant notes an unstable attraction. Could his ascendant be Scorpio, Pisces or Cancer? or aspect your Uranus in Scorpio? Read up on Uranus and Saturn aspects.

You have Mars in Pisces, you need a stable partner for life who matches your passion and romantic drive. It's well known Mars in Pisces has a high sex drive, and mars in cap is just not that romantic. His Venus is near your midheaven, near your career, what does he do to your career?

He's honest anyway, but not much of a romantic.

Another challenge, his Moon is on your 4th house. This means both of you could think about setting up house together, the idea of home and family sounds good to both of you, maybe you come from similar backgrounds or feel close in a family sort of way, but usually there can be a feeling of too much closeness even smothering. One may get bored with the other, romantically. It sounds like a good idea but then it's not. That kind of thing. Then there is the trouble of letting go, that's a 4th house issue. You could have been brother and sister in another life or it could feel that way, like you've known eachother before.

I would consider this friend of yours as a non romantic interest for a while and see how that works for you. Meanwhile spend some time around children.

Try the free horoscopes at astro.com, the more you learn about yourself and what you want, the clearer this relationship will be to you. Try the future forecast especially.

Take Care, I have Venus in Aries with a fire ascendant too and I have been there, both with an Aqua and a Libra. I'd bet your friend has an ascendant in Air, but that's just my guess. How do you feel about Scorps and Taurus?