posted August 16, 2003 07:51 AM              

always nice to see new faces, especially ones with interesting antics to tell us about now you have peaked my curiosity, so i expect some entertaining stories

we have another aqua with a cancer moon here, he has gemini rising though, but hey, its still air. his name is N_wEvil. i call him wevil.

i like your username. god in the machine. cool. thats a very aquarian concept, lol.

~anafaery

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posted August 16, 2003 08:28 AM              

im sorry to hear you are having problems.

why did you marry his brother if you think hes your soulmate? does your husband know how you feel?

:/

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posted August 16, 2003 03:39 PM              

Already *kinda married*? zounds interesting

Ja - being in our predicament (cancer moon/aqua sun) is a tough cookie? It'd be cool to know some of your other placements though as those two are only the core of the matter!

posted August 17, 2003 05:17 AM              

Of course marriage isnt in the equation for me.. either way - if you want help you'll have to outline the situation in more detail to someone..

posted August 17, 2003 06:00 AM              

you know, im a libra. we know marriage, we know love.

it just strikes me as really unfair to your husband. do you think about how *he* feels? i mean, i dont mean to be stuffy but like, this is marriage we are talking about, not two teenagers 'going out'. i just really feel that if a person speaks vows to another that they should be honored. if they cant be, then thats the time to divorce and move on. keeping someone in a marriage where you are constantly chasing another seems rather unfair to me.

i dont know the details of your marriage though, but i really have to wonder how your husband feels. maybe its a marriage of convenience, i dont know. forgive me for being honest, and i dont judge you as i dont know your whole situation, but it sounds like your husband is getting played a little bit. but again, maybe you married for immigration purposes or something, i really dont know the facts.

i just really feel strongly that we have responsibilities to the people we interact with in life, to treat them with respect. i wouldnt do that to my husband. things havent always been peachy, but if i really thought there was *no* hope for either of us to be happy, id set him free. if i couldnt give him what he wanted, id be honest and tell him, and set him free so he could find a loving mate elsewhere. i just... couldnt keep someone holding on and hoping for something i could never give.

i wish you the best, and if you want to fill us in on the specifics so we can understand better, thats great. as i said i dont judge you without knowing all the facts. i just do hope you respect your husbands feelings. its the right thing to do. hes a human being too, and im sure hes got feelings, and they should be considered. if you ever wanna talk about it, as i said i dont judge you and i will be truthful. some people just want to hear what they want to hear, but some do value friends who will tell them straight up. its like i how do... if i ask for advice, i want the truth. my parents never gave me much guidance so i value someone who will tell me exactly which way the wind blows, if that makes sense.

phew! i wish you well, and i am sorry for your situation. just remember to be kind to your husband. its the right thing to do.

~anafaery

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posted August 17, 2003 10:39 AM              

first of all thank you for appreciating my honesty. some people dont, and think i am just being mean, and im really not. i do speak my mind though, and i am honest. doesnt mean i judge people. i can understand a lot of issues, and i understand yours now. thank you for clearing it up! lets see if we can help you.

first of all, i dont doubt that you dont want to hurt anyone. i understand that cancer moon, even with an aqua sun. ive had a crash course one might say. cancer moons feel things very deeply. they also usually desperately *hate* to hurt people, and it wounds them badly though they would never admit it, because of that shell. they keep it up for protection. this is all generally speaking of course, but the astrology is very valid.

anyway, i see whats going on. your emotions find it hard to let go. thats an attribute of cancer. cancer has a claw you see, and it really really doesnt like to let go. id imagine that it would be very difficult for you to let go of your husband, and to let go of your feelings for the scorp. i know it would.

but, and i dont know any other way to tell you this, but honey, youre gonna have to choose. i would suggest getting the help of a marriage counsellor, a *good* one, who is objective and who doesnt have any sort of ulterior motives. by 'ulterior motives' i mean one who believes the only option is keeping a marriage intact because of their personal/religious beliefs. you need someone openminded and objective, who will help you make a decision based on what is right for *you*. i would suggest going with your husband, and also alone, because you need to work out what is going on and give the marriage the best chance for survival. if you will never be happy with your husband, than you should probably let him go. do it out of love.

be aware though of the wise adage 'the grass is always greener on the other side'. if you give up your husband (who sounds like a dream if i might say, you dont often get husbands that are that understanding, but i lucked out cause i have a virgo husband too and hes been marvellous in that respect) you had better be absolutely sure that its whats best for all.

you have to really search within yourself for the answers. if you are going to stay with your husband, you need to put the scorp to rest, forever. if you are going to go off with the scorp, youd better let your husband go, so that he might find happiness. does he not deserve it?

you deserve happiness too, so its in your best interest to sort this out with a lot of thought. but yea, you really have to decide what you are going to do soon, cause the situation you are in is not healthy for anyone involved. least of all you.

its important to get through this life with as little hurt to others as possible. as little hurt for you too, but no one can wave a magic wand and make it go away. its going to hurt, which is also why i suggest help as in a counsellor. you have to do as best you can.

im sorry because i know how these things happen. i was in a similar situation at one time. i did make the decision and i have no regrets. at some point you *will* have inner peace, but only you have control over that, so you have to let go and not look back. to do otherwise is to torture yourself. dont fall into that trap. lifes too short.

*hugs*

i hope i helped at all :/ so sorry if i didnt

~ana

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posted August 17, 2003 01:08 PM              

from what it sounds like to *me*, i have the following to say.

i would really consider staying with the virgo. honestly? he sounds like a really great guy, and could you stand to lose him? i mean, hes been so understanding, and forgiving... he obviously loves you a lot, and i can tell you that virgo men are very genuine. the are totally loyal, and often will stick by you no matter what. he sounds so innocent and earnest and genuine.

the scorp, well if hes annoyed with you, thats a bad sign. surely he could understand your very difficult position??? dont forget, even though scorpios are deep, wonderfully intense, electric, emotional, many other good things, they also have some not so good attributes. i have a scorpio father, and he is very much a... not so good scorp. i do know a scorpio eagle that i love dearly, but we cant forget that some scorpios can be very selfish, domineering, manipulative... id be really rethinking the scorpio. i cant imagine why he would put his brother through this. its very sad. *sigh*

phew. such a tender issue.

i hope you come out with the right decision. i wish you the best of luck and wisdom... i know if you search your soul you will do whats right. everything is a lesson, in any event, and so long as we learn, we are ok.

whew... i havent slept either, so its time for me to relax now.

hope you slept well!

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where i end and you begin there's a gap in between there's a gap where we meet where i end and you begin
and i'm sorry for us the dinosaurs roam the earth the sky turns green where i end and you begin