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Topic: Dilemma about THAT leo girl!
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Kippendorf
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posted October 02, 2003 07:19 AM
 
Right...So she finally comes upto me on sunday and asks me where i felt our relationship was going..and i said "well we re friends arent we?"...and she said that "off late i ve been getting vibes of more than friendship from u" and i ask" what gave you that impression" and then she says " oh just the way u act around me" (which is impossible cause i ve been the perfect gentleman ever,elusive as!,i ve never asked her out,never called her,never emailed or txted her without reason,never touched her inappropriately but anyway..)
and then she says.."u have to be honest to me now.."so i said" well i DID like u ..but not now..." and she said that music is hte only thing that she felt was the common ground in our friendship... so i suppose she was trying tos ay that she wasnt interested in me. she kinda ignored me for the next two days...struggled even to say a hi to me..
and then today she sends me a txt saying " hey..heard you were sick - get better soon and take care of yourself ..see u tonight" she told me very clearly that situations like this usually makes her back off. this txt did not suggest her backing off!!!
what does she want?!!!!! can anyone help?! K
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pixelpixie
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posted October 02, 2003 08:05 PM
Now, I could be very wrong here.... as I don't know your interactions with her before, and frankly, who knows with women. It sounds like she is baiting you. She doesn't want to be vulnerable, wants to keep the power. Maybe she likes you, or maybe she is undecided. No Leo woman wants anyone to stop 'liking' her. She wants to be admired forever. So if she is sending you signals like that, she may not want your love, exactly, maybe she just wants your admiration. She wants to make sure she is 'on your mind'. And as far as you never indicating you did like her, we know. It is subtle, but we are usually right when it comes to that. Thats why it is intriguing when we meet a man that we really aren't sure of ... few can pull this off, but it is intriguing. Does he, doesn't he? How can I make him???? Her comment about not having anything but music in common could have been a hidden rebuke. You said you didn't like her anymore, so of course she isn't going to say...."oh really? Cuz' I like you!" No way, her pride is involved. Feel ie, mean it. Just tell her, whats the big deal....if you are afraid of her reaction, don't say it outright, say it with a dramatic display of flowers, or a homemade cd of her fave music.....something she knows took you time and thought. Be dramatic, Leo's love extravagence done for them. Show her that her presence makes you glow, and she will want to keep you around. IP: Logged |
Kippendorf
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posted October 03, 2003 12:03 AM
well i did buy her a 1500 dollar Fender guitar as she is a musician and had a crap guitar before.And for her bday a mth ago i got her a book that she once mentioned she wanted. :-/ ohhhhhhhhhhh idunno what she is upto. to me it looks like she s reconsidering ! If i were her, i would have backed off cause that txt is like giving suggestions!
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pidaua
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posted October 03, 2003 01:10 PM
Kip, You need to be honest with her and ask her what she wants. If she said Music is what holds you together as friends, she may have been waiting for you to say "Hey, I think we have a lot more in common that music, I really enjoy your company". Ask her if she what is it about your actions that made her think you have "feelings for her" Now us females KNOW when a guy interested. It doesn't have to be overt actions like, touching us, e-mailing or other. It can be simple things: getting us a cup of coffee when we don't ask, a lingering look into our eyes, too many compliments, getting nervous. Women are perceptive of these kinds of things. At any rate, don't be ashamed to be interested in someone. I think your answer was pretty harsh about "well, I did like you but now I don't" What does someone say to that? You pretty much put her down without an explanation. Her comment back was more of a justification, you know.. kind of like, we'll I guess I can see your point since we just like music. Buying someone a $1500 ANYTHING is more than just friends unless you are independently wealthy and always buy your friends expensive things.
I also don't see how her text was in any way giving off suggestions. You already told her that you didn't like her. Then you establish that you are both "just friends" so as a friend she is saying "Hey, I hope you feel better" The ref. to "see you tonight", is that because you are working together or you like to just hang out together?
It is very hard to understand the context of your inquiry based on what little information that you are providing. Maybe you could elaborate more on the history. I think honesty is the best policy. If like her, tell her, ask her out on a date. IP: Logged |
sthenri
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posted October 03, 2003 01:48 PM
I know Pidua I am confused too! What is her birthdata and what is yours Sir?If she is a Leo she wants more all the time, so start slow with the gifts. She will want more emotionally than financially anyway have you been giving her complete emotional attention? Are you her White Knight? Leos are total romantics at heart, don't ever put her down or say anything that is negative about her because she is sensitive that way. Good Luck as a Venus in the 5th if you said that to me I would think you were playing games. So don't play games with her and she won't with you, don't fight fire with fire, just show some kindness and lay off the expensive gifts, subconciously it says you don't value her. I have found Leos like the small touches because the shock value of the expensive gifts wears off quickly. More Leo women I know complain about not getting the love and getting gifts instead.. Natasha IP: Logged |
Kippendorf
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posted October 03, 2003 04:55 PM
she was born Aug 21 1976. Time unknownwell i m a poor pisces really lol. 25 feb 1977, 4 am , india IP: Logged |
pidaua
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From: Back in AZ with Bear the Leo
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posted October 03, 2003 05:56 PM
Pisces is a GREAT sign. Beside, I see lots of Leo women with Pisces and Virgo men.  IP: Logged |
Kippendorf
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posted October 04, 2003 12:49 AM
yeah i know! i ve done the astrology . we d be the best match...and leos are for some reason attracted to pisces. they always find pisceans mysterious...and i can see why looking at my self from an outside perspective!Well, today she sent me a txt to come watch a common friend play cricket. ofcourse she did send the same txt to heaps of others as well....but you would think again :-/ IP: Logged |
FiReY leo 1
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posted October 04, 2003 12:29 PM
this whole situation sounds like something i would do if i were the leo woman (i'm a leo sun sag moon)... we like to confront men and pretend like we know everything, its just something we do.
and pidaua- i find it so amazing that you've noticed how much leo women like pisces and virgo men! for exactly the same reasons as you said, except virgos are so picky and we feel that if we win them over then we have achieved the hardest thing. and pisces are just so funny and cool and awesome!   IP: Logged |
lioneye68
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posted October 04, 2003 10:41 PM
Yeah, FireyLeo, I suppose that could by why I have a thing for Virgos. Could be on to something there...hmm.IP: Logged |
purplezen
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posted October 04, 2003 11:21 PM
kippendorf, my mom is a leo, and she likes to be romanced/spoiled by my libra dad, yet she wants to be in charge as well. I hope things work out for the best for you. I don't know this leo girl (or you, lol) but it sounds like she is either confused or using you from what you have written so far. sending some healing light...IP: Logged |
Kippendorf
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posted October 05, 2003 04:29 AM
Well i just dont understand why she txted me ...she should be backing off !!!and another thing what id ont understand is why leos are attracted to pisces. i know they are attracted to aries as well...but i can bet a million to one that , thats sure to burn soon! if someone can explain to me that would fantastic
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FiReY leo 1
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posted October 05, 2003 09:00 PM
kippendorf- its hard to explain, but for me the main reason i like pisces so much is that the guys are so funny and unique. also, they don't try to boss us around all the time like some other signs. and they understand why we are the way we are.
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Kippendorf
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posted October 05, 2003 10:15 PM
This is fantastic. I did not expect a lot of leos on here to respond like this. I did have a feeling that leos were particularly attracted to pisces (being pisces myself)...I suppose I still do have a chance with this woman then. Ah someone give me advise. What should i do! IP: Logged |
lioneye68
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posted October 06, 2003 03:47 PM
First of all, BE CAREFUL. Be sure she's actually into YOU and not just trying to regain some lost ground for her ego. Pixelpixie knows what she's talkin about. They generally want all the admirers they can get (actually, not just Leo woman are like that, but anyway). And they don't like losing the loyalty and admiration of their royal subjects either, so she may just be in "You have to still like me, dammit." mode.
She wants you to want her, but that doesn't necessarily mean she wants you too. Don't be a chump. Young (read: immature) Leos tend to go around collecting hearts like boy scout badges. IP: Logged |
FiReY leo 1
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posted October 06, 2003 06:23 PM
well kippendorf, the question is-do you like her or not???
if she's like me, she's probably sitting at home waiting for you to call or email her or something. so answer this question and take action!IP: Logged |
Kippendorf
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posted October 06, 2003 09:36 PM
I suppose i still do like her. But from her chat that morning, it appeared to me that she wasnt interested and thats why i quickly said " i did like you but not now"I think i was trying to protect myself! I m not sure if she really likes me or not although some things she does are suggestive. I m really confused! IP: Logged |
Svelte
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posted October 06, 2003 09:49 PM
If you like her then just ask her, you don't have anything to loose.
But be careful what you wish for because if she is keen then you want to be sure you are as well.IP: Logged | |
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