posted November 03, 2003 06:22 AM            

I'd be interested to hear from anyone out there with any opinions about how the Moons phase affects your moods, especially if you have Moon in Cancer. I've tried to keep a journal lately, noting the Moons phases to see if I can see a connection between my moods and the phase of the moon.

I have always been moody, but this has been a strange year for me, my emotions have been all over the place and I have been more highly emotional than ever before.

posted November 03, 2003 04:49 PM              

saturn conjunct Moon - This is a time for engaging in deep introspection, self-examination, and self-criticism. You may be feeling lonely and depressed right now, but you need to focus on the three items above in a positive and proactive manner. The way that you handle this aspect will determine your future physical and psychological well-being. Saturn represents strict order in your life, what you should expect from your self in all situations. The Moon on the other hand represents your need to be emotionally nurtured and be a member of the larger whole. These two energies do not mix very well. On one hand you have the strict taskmaster on the other the humanistic healer.

Under this influence, it is not uncommon to feel guilty of not fulfilling your potential and goals. You feel that you are a loser and after a while feel nothing at all. The way to handle this is give yourself some compassion and understanding, and a good dose of love. Your only human, don’t be so hard on yourself. Try to see yourself as growing and learning, and in fact when you realize that you are falling short, that’s the sign of starting to grow. Engage in self searching, but withhold judgement on your results. Try to understand who you are, without trying to compare it with who you think you should be. If all else fails, laugh at the whole sorry state of things. Humor is a wonderful tool for working through this type of period. We all get in trouble when we start to take ourselves too seriously. Don’t try to pull together a relationship that has broken apart lately, you need to get yourself together before you worry about getting together with another person going through their own growth problems.

My Cancer Moon is in my 7th House which should make for an interesting time of it.

posted November 04, 2003 09:02 AM            

Proxieme, I tried to mail you yesterday but it bounced back, will ask Randall to send it to me again.

posted November 05, 2003 03:37 AM              

I can sympathize with you Staflower, because I am being whacked around by it as well. All we can do is hang in there. By the way, terrific advice by everyone.

posted November 05, 2003 03:33 PM              

Your summer, my winter, plus another two years. (lol)

Let's try and look at it positively, imagine how much we will have learned about ourselves by the end of it.

The wonderful advice we have been given suggests we need to be gentle on ourselves, but also brave enough to face ourselves as well. I know I have plenty of deep rooted issues I have been procrastinating on dealing with, maybe I can use this transit to take a deep breath and tackle them. I am often too hard on myself, maybe the lesson for me is not to be.

posted November 06, 2003 11:30 AM              

Just my take, not necessarly true.

posted November 06, 2003 03:18 PM            

I am starting to really see a common theme regarding Cancer moons. It's the tendency to feel "worthless". My own mother (and many of my friends) have the cancer moon thing going on and I have sat back through many, many, many of my mothers "pity-parties". She is so much better now, because we sat down, talked about it and I got her into the astrological signifance of the moon and her emotions. She is still prone to these bouts, but not as bad as she used to be (she is also a cancer sun with a Scorp rising).

I have also had Virgo, Leo, Saggie, and Cappy family / friends with their moon in Cancer. I have noticed that Capricorn men tend to hide their feelings of worthlessness more, but maybe only to those of us that are not as close to them.

My question is, do Cancer moons understand the emotional stress they put on other people when they go into their bouts of depression. Not all Cancer moons do this, but many do. As a child it was so hard to watch my mom talk about what a loser she was and no one loved her, that she was worthless...it went on and on. My Sag bro and I could do almost nothing to make her happy.

My friends with Cancer moons tend to do the same. They launch into the "I'm a loser...I should just be shot and killed". (Again, not all are that extreme).

But do you notice that in yourselves ever? I guess for me, it would help me understand more when I see a Moon going into this sort of depression.

posted November 07, 2003 01:40 AM              

I find it an interesting placement to deal with because it is the only water sign in my chart. I sometimes find it difficult to reconcile the watery emotion of the cancer moon with the rest of my chart, it feels unreal that i can be so confident, airy and firey (for want of a better description) one minute and then plunge and feel uncertain of myself the next.
My personal challenge is to find the balance, and not let the negative side of this take over.

Starflower, have a go at yoga, I have found that it has really helped me with looking into myself and with my clarity.

posted November 07, 2003 10:15 AM              

The problem is that Caps often feel inferior anyway, and if you add that to the Cancer Moon and the critical self judgement of my Virgo sun, its a mericle that I'm not a basket case.

Understanding the planetary energy influences helps to deal with a lot of otherwise unconscious behaviors, I think.

posted November 07, 2003 11:10 AM            

That totally makes sense. My mom is mostly fire and water, which lends her the tendency to have these little "tirades". I also found that she has a Mars Singleton in an Air sign, which I am sure lends to her bouts of yelling.

My father, on the other hand, is a Cap with a Cap rising and has mostly Earth in his chart, so that would easily explain why he wasn't demonstrative in his feelings of worthlessness. I also think his total drive for success in work may have been his way to compensate for feelings of inadequacy.

posted November 07, 2003 12:29 PM            

I hate my moods, but for me, when I am low or feeling melancholy I seem unable to do anything about it, I just have to wait until it passes.

I feel things very deeply, so when I do feel bad, I feel totally awful. I am aware of the way this affects my family and my friends, and I generally hide my feelings. If they notice anything wrong I just say soemthing like "oh I just need to be quiet today" or suggest that they leave me some time alone.
The moods always pass eventually.

I find it difficult to admit to feeling worthless or depressed (could be my Leo Ascendant - pride etc), so I just cover it the best I can and struggle on!

I would very much like not to be so sensitive, so moody, so dare I say, crabby

posted November 07, 2003 12:29 PM            

I hate my moods, but for me, when I am low or feeling melancholy I seem unable to do anything about it, I just have to wait until it passes.

I feel things very deeply, so when I do feel bad, I feel totally awful. I am aware of the way this affects my family and my friends, and I generally hide my feelings. If they notice anything wrong I just say soemthing like "oh I just need to be quiet today" or suggest that they leave me some time alone.
The moods always pass eventually.

I find it difficult to admit to feeling worthless or depressed (could be my Leo Ascendant - pride etc), so I just cover it the best I can and struggle on!

I would very much like not to be so sensitive, so moody, so dare I say, crabby

posted November 07, 2003 01:05 PM            

I totally admire how in touch you are with your feelings and it does sound like you are able to get a better handle when the feelings are approaching. I think that astrology is such a helpful tool in helping us discover who we are.

posted November 07, 2003 01:20 PM              

The Moon is in its home sign, Cancer. All those feelings that come up in response to the environment are naturally following an ebb and flow.

Cancer Moons show emotions that are natural. That is beautiful just by itself. Cancer is cardinal, so these tides lead and are independent.

So it is not suprising that when one in this position is disappointed, it shows itself as blue and moody. Things are created to show us what is natural.

Sadness can be beautiful too. A poignant medium that shows how human we are, and attracts a loving affinity from others.

There is nothing wrong with these feelings. Can't be exchanged, returned, or fixed. Least of all, analyzed. These are the beauties of the Cancer Moon.

Chin up, and here's a tissue. We love you and there's nothing wrong you.

*warm squizzle hugs*

Love,

posted November 08, 2003 07:18 AM              

If you think Cancer Moons are moody, try Pisces Moons or Scorpio Moons! I had a Scorpio Sun, Scorpio Ascendant, Scorpio Moon, Venus Libra friend who told me he despised emotions because they were "weak" and caused others to live in an emotional swamp. (notice how he externalized his emotion there?) he couldn't handle it even to admit weakness in himself.
He was a very emotional man who worked with the poor but he didn't show his emotions.

Pisces Moons are all over the place in terms of feeling pity but it's over quicker.

Cancer Moons do say stuff like, just shoot me but I know it's because people around them externalize their emotions on to the Cancer moon and they have to absorb a lot of other people's pain and emotion. At that point the feeling is overwhelming. Also nobody ever tells you what they are thinking or feeling, just a general vague outline so you have to figure it out. I someone is having problems with alchohol (me) I wil automatically become paranoid that people around me do too, and will check on that. I often think external emotions affect me, as if I am absorbing them which isn't true, it may SEEM true but it's not so I need to be wary of that because then I would be overcome and not be able to express myself as easily without fear of hurting.

I think -just shoot me in an unconcious way of saying, get to the heart of it, hurry up and tell me how you feel already. A scorpio may say, everyone is so selfish these days, there are babies right now dying in the Congo!

Cue Cancer moon to nod sympathetically. Now Cancer moon has to figure out what the hell is really going on with Scorpio sun/aries/moon because she will never say until she has expressed every single emotion everyone else has in the universe because she doesn't want to be a big wuss even though there is no one around. Expressing your emotions is natural and makes you stronger, not weaker, because you are not hiding these inside to cause fear later.

Finally the anger takes over, because even Cancer moons can only take so much and we say something irritable and sensitive Scorpio says, oh never mind, I will just leave, I can tell you don't want me around ANYWAY! Then Cancer moon says okay, okay, I feel so guilty, just shoot me with it, because I STILL don't know what happened and now I feel guilty because you are leaving too, sort of....

This kind of emotional interaction went on between my Scorpio Grandma and Cancer Moon/Capricorn Sun Grandpa almost all the time. I see it alot with others in myself and try very hard to hold my tongue. I never say anything negative like that, because what you hope for does come true.

I have found negativity to have a direct correlation to ill health and I am not the healthiest person sometimes. I ask people to leave no matter who they are if they are making me feel guilty and say TAKE A WALK. I am busy, and if I'm not I take a walk. Sometimes the style of communication you get is so frustrating you wish someone would just write you a letter or paint a picture if they feel that uncomfortable on the inside. And of course they always put it down to health external forces, it's just a waiting game.

I do not externalize my emotions anymore, if I am angry I look to see if i'm angry at myself first. If so, I admit it to someone I love, not just anyone. Then I say why. Then I accept it and forgive myself so I can move on quickly and then I do something. I move on it. Pain is supposed to be a motivator, it says MOVE towards something else.

Then if I am still angry at someone, I write down what I want to say and then I say it sometimes I feel I am shooting right through the heart.

As Janis Joplin said...go on take another little piece of my heart...
sarcastically I may add, rather than the whole thing. If you are going to tell the truth about how you feel, shoot for the whole thing, not just around the edges, after I all I can take and so can you, it's the only way to get stronger.

Cancer moons are usually pretty sarcastic too. I used to ask my Grandfather what nationality we were, because as far as I can see we were white people, but what kind of people? He was very amused and he told me we weren't white at all. Actually we were black. It was all a lie, his parents were actually black and he came out kind of light. and told me if I didn't believe it prove it.

Then I had to some research, he refused to tell me anything. I think he just wanted me to use my brain instead of having me get a piece of information and not listen to him. then I was ready to go back and listen and of course the only thing he told me was how to make fudge because he was hungry. Then I did that and then I got wise. He just laughed. I said we must be good people then since we are so funny. He liked that a lot.

He was a great grandpa, too bad I peed on him after that because I was so ****** off that he wouldn't tell me what I wanted to know (I was tiny okay?) He was angry but then he thought that was funny too. Yes us Cancer Moons can be strange allright!

He had a sag rising too...
that's where I got my sweet tooth..