posted December 16, 2003 12:44 PM            

My Leo guy spent over a week trying to get me the right birthday present. He wanted to get me a horsehair belt, but he didn't like the ones they had (he said they were too cheap). So instead he chose a really nice large Vanilla Spice glass candle. You know those pricey designer kinds. Well, I LOVE candles and he knows just the kind I like BUT somehow I feel like it wasn't personal enough.

The card was very beautiful and had an American Indian lady on the front with a wildlife scene and in her hands she held "sparkles" like the glittery part of life. He knows I am also kind of a glitter freak, so it was perfect.

posted December 16, 2003 12:58 PM              

It's fun and sweet to receive things with meaning. Of course, meanings are different to all of us. Some people either have it in them to be creative gift-givers or they don't.

Personally, I hate receiving those store-bought cards from guys.

My ex Leo and I never exchanged gifts, but he did surprise me with teddy bears strapped into the front seat of his car when he'd pick me up from the airport. What a softie. (plus a CD he made, which was defintiely personalized) An Aquarius years ago was great with personal gifts-he put a lot of thought into each one. And a Libra-he used to create cards/letters for me. Ok, i'm sorry for the tangent.

posted December 16, 2003 01:03 PM            

Pid, your gift sounds lovely and well thought out At least he hears you when you speak. He cares enough to NOT gift you with a cheap item when he`s giving it to a genuine sparkling Elf.

juniperb

posted December 16, 2003 01:04 PM              

my ex gave me a black rolling backpack as a birthday present once. imagine my cancer rising eyes balling afterward when i put my hand inside the bag expecting a treat and fanning my fingers in thin air

i don't think you are being a dork . . . just had expectations like all us princesses do

posted December 16, 2003 01:07 PM            

I know he wanted to give me something that I really love. He said "I know how much you love Candles,especially Vanilla, and God knows how many candles we have gone through together...LOL.." It was very sweet.

He also wanted to get me one of those huge Orangutans like we saw at the Rainforest Cafe, but they don't have place like that near him in Idaho. LOL..Internet shopping isn't his thing.

We are both a little sad because we can be together for my birthday, but these things happen.

I guess the other thing that is kind of sad is that I also received a beautiful bouquet from a good friend of mine in Texas. LOL..at first I thought it was from Mr. Leo, but thankfully I read the card before I called him to gush about it!!! :O

posted December 16, 2003 01:12 PM            

Thank you for making me feel so much better. Yes, you are right, he did think of me and he KNOWS what I love because he likes to "study" me as he says.

And Amy...YES...you are sooooo right, I am such a princess LOL..it could be my Virgo rising being so darn analytical like..Hmmm, what does this mean, what his he trying to say...LOL....

Thanks Juni and AriesRocks and Gloomy Sag. You gals made me feel so much better I needed that

posted December 16, 2003 03:08 PM            

Rings--birthstone
He's weaseling out of getting married or it would be a diamond engagement ring

Earrings
He's wants to mutilate my ears with holes

Belt
He thinks I need a belt to hold my stomach in

Gloves
He thinks my hands are ugly

Car
He wants me to go away

Intimate wear
Wonder who modeled that little number for him?

Dinner out
He hates my cooking

Pots, pans, vacuum cleaner and other housewares
He's looking for a slave

Cruise for 2
He needs a romantic setting to feel romantic about me
He wants to ogle all those other women

Perfume
He thinks I smell bad

Health club membership
He thinks I'm fat

Watch
A round about way of saying I'm always late

Manicure/Pedicure
He thinks my hands and feet are ugly and unkempt

Dress
He hates my clothes and the way I dress

Gift certificate
He doesn't care enough to spend time shopping for something nice for me

We give up!

posted December 16, 2003 03:14 PM            

That was totally cute!!! I loved that!!!

Hi Lioneye,

Oh, that totally bites the big one that your man didn't get you anything. I really do love the candle. I was just feeling a bit sensitive because I couldn't be with him. I also loved the thought behind it. He wanted to get me jewelery but he is right in that I am kind of picky (LOL...I told him he couldn't go wrong with a nice watch..that way I could think of him all the TIME....hint..hint...) He laughed at that one too.

My Virgo Ex is taking me out to dinner tonight. Mr. Leo doesn't mind because he's not worried that the ex will make a move...see other threads LOL...

posted December 16, 2003 03:22 PM              

Pid, I ask myself that question as well. I guess just because I'm too stubborn to admit I may have made a mistake. And also re: the new Virgo....I just don't give up very easily on ANYTHING. I can't. I don't know how. It's the curse of a fixed sign.

posted December 16, 2003 11:59 PM              

Pidua, I know a candle isn't very personal but maybe he thought it would be better to hurry and get you something for the day rather than be late. Some people worry about that kind of thing. My ex was obsessive about the day, I couldn't be late one day with his gift and we had to celebrate on that day all day no matter what else was going on. So his gifts weren't always perfect but they were always on time. Your guy is new, be easy on him.

I once received flowers from my Aries/Venus in Pisces and he was a very generous man, but I was mean because they were pink roses and I don't like pink. So I told him next time, white or red, which is not very gracious. I suppose as women we have to practice the art of being gracious because we are usually the giftee, and we have the responsibility for hurt feelings.

At least that's what I tell myself, I try to be objective and detached from the gift and reward the gifter for the thought so i can accept it and be impressed. The gifter just wants to make an impression, that's my take.

A candle is fine but now you know, you need more so he most likely needs hints. Flowers are very nice but time consuming to buy. Men need lots of hints, and direction in gifting, at first.

I have seen friends throw gifts away, in tears, especially Cancers because they weren't what they expected, especially if they weren't handmade or personal. It makes me sad, so that is one of the reasons I paint so my Cancers always have a handmade gift at some point.

posted December 17, 2003 08:56 AM            

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Pots, pans, vacuum cleaner and other housewares
He's looking for a slave

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Unless your Aqua is a chef, I`d sure pass on these gifts

juniperb

posted December 17, 2003 12:03 PM            

Yes, you are right, we princesses need to be more gracious. LOL...he bought me a huge bouquet of white roses (my favorite) for my last birthday. They were arranged in a Christmas theme and when the flowers died, I filled the vase with seashells (from my collection) and with silk flowers in the same way as they had arrived. Sometimes I am sooooo sentimental.

He didn't want to do the same thing two years in a row, so he went for something that he tought was more personal. He knows I love candles and typical of a Leo said 'So you can burn it in evening and always think of me" LOL...cute, and I did light it last night and it has the most beautiful spicy vanilla aroma.

I am picky when it comes to gifts and he has observed that about me. We will most likely go shopping the next time we are in Phoenix.

posted December 17, 2003 12:07 PM            

How do I become a princess ?

juniperb

posted December 17, 2003 02:07 PM            

OK, how about this? A broad band space radio with headphones so you can be the first to hear the message from space. "People of Earth, welcome to the New Galactic Order".

Aphrodite, I don't know what you consider "professional grade" cookware? They all say they are

I have a more or less complete set of stainless, waterless Luster Craft. Still, good as it is, there's a problem. Every time I cook noodles or any pasta using the waterless method, it's turns out "al dente" to put it mildly, or more like "no dente"

posted December 17, 2003 02:18 PM              

Professional grade pots and pans are usually hard anondized all the way through, designed for even temperature distribution, and longevity. These types can withstand temperatures of up to 500F and come with warranties.

Le Creuset cast iron comes with a lifetime warranty. I'd sure like a dutch oven.

Anolon Professional is a personal favorite. There's also Caephalon and All-Clad. Each of these brands comes with a series varying in design and construction.

As for knives, Wuesthof, Henkels, and Global are the top of the line, full tang blades. Wuesthof is still manufactured in Germany and definitely a choice for chefs. Henkels has gone down in quality craftmanship, but still used widely. Global is a special alloy and doesn't require as much sharpening as the two others, and is all the way through alloy from tip to the end of the handle.

posted December 17, 2003 08:17 PM              

But yes it's a great idea only I would contain the animals in one room especially anything that can fly and poop at the same time. It takes strong maternal instincts.

posted December 18, 2003 02:05 PM            

I would go in a visit with them because I love monkeys so much. I would bring them cookies and treats and become friends with them. Hee hee

It was hysterical. One time I found myself between two cages covered in poo. I looked at my friend, who was in charge of primate enrichment, and said "Hey man, what's this about". She laughed and said "Oh, those gals hate each other so they fling poo back and forth"