posted February 04, 2004 02:53 PM            

Well, this is the deal. I am committed to someone as you all know Mr. Leo... but on this conference circuit I have met up (not romantically) with the same Aqua sun / Leo moon guy 3 years in a row.

I make him totally nervous and he just stares into my eyes, but then he says something totally off the wall and almost offensive. The first time he started to flirt with me Mr. Leo was there and I still wore my wedding ring on my ring finger (even though I was separated). He exclaimed "Oh My God (in a great Texas drawl) I am flirting with a married woman.

The next day he saw me as I checking out and gave me his card. Mr. Leo saw this and was upset, but I threw the card away. Mr Aqua is currently working on his PhD or Masters at Texas A&M.

Then we saw each other again at the next conference a year later. He strode up, gave me a hug and grabbed my left hand. "Why is that ring on a different finger young lady" I said, because I am no longer married, I have filed for divorce. (Or course Mr. Leo was there again and was trying to ignore the conversation. He is used to this happening by now, but knows he is my only honey). I should tell you about Mr. Aqua, he is very intelligent and has those classic cowboy good looks. 6 foot 5, long legs, muscular, these sparkling gray eyes and a full head of thick hair. I watch the women swoon for him. But he seems too dry for me.

Does that makes sense. Like standing near him sort of sucks my energy right out - leaves me parched LOL..

Okay, well I made him nervous on that occasion. He called me several times wanting to meet for drinks or dinner, but I turned him down. I didn't say I was with Mr. Leo - don't need that relationship to get back to HQ.

So this last week I saw Mr. Aqua again. Once again (now this is 3 conferences in a row) their booth was about 3 away from ours, but wasn't supposed to be. Mr. Leo and I were setting up and I hear him growl "Oh well, what do you know? Aggie Boy has put his booth near us again. Maybe this year he thinks he finally get a chance - too bad for him". Then he turned to me and said "You have some magic, how can you knock a guys heart into the dirt so many times, yet they still think the world of you". LOL.. I laughed and said "I doubt you will ever know how that feels from me" Hee hee

So Mr. Aqua talks to me at that nights reception. He grabs my hand again and says "If you are divorced, why do you wear this ring" I smiled and said "Don't you remember what that old cattleman said to you when you asked me that last year? He told you so that the next one knows what he has to compete with". NOW, the real reason is because it sparkles and me being a Sag.....I LOVE SPARKLES.

He called me a GOLD DIGGER.

I am NOT one of those. I just about tore his head off. He said "Look at the way you dress and your hair. You want a man who has a lot of money". I shot back with "No, there are other things a man has to offer". Well, then he said my mind was in the gutter. Mr Leo was right behind me when Mr. Aqua then said "I don't think your colleague likes me, he gives me dirty looks". I just told him that Mr.Leo didn't care one way or another. LOL

So, then Mr. Aqua, just stood there and I finally said 'Do I make you nervous'. He said 'Hell YES!! Everytime I talk to you, my mouth runs dry as hell and I get to feeling sick". Well, that did it. So I walked away.

After that, he just stared over at me from time to time, but wouldn't say anymore other than small talk.

I told Mr. Leo about the exchange and he laughed because he knows how frugal I really am. Hell, yeah my hair would normally cost alot to highlight, but my mom is a hairdresser. As far as clothes, I take great care of my blazers and slacks because I hate shopping.

So, what do you all think? Are Aqua's just normally that kind of odd?

Yeah and here is his info. He found out that I am into astrology and gave it to me last year:

posted February 04, 2004 03:04 PM            

juniperb

posted February 04, 2004 03:14 PM            

Aquas dont tend to look at a persons gender as very important, until they have the hots for them. To us people are people irrespective of what their "bits and pieces" look like.

When we suddenly get hit by lust, and realize that somebody is the opposite sex and oh my gosh gorgeous too. Well then we get nervous and I think Uranus starts firing crazy sparks all over.

posted February 04, 2004 03:21 PM            

I mean weird in a nice way LOL....Weirdness is cool How are you by the way?

Starflower,

posted February 04, 2004 03:45 PM            

It doesn`t seem the norm for an Aqua to make such a blanket statement ie 'golddigging'. That puzzles me.

Yep, I agree he`s surely interested and what appears as someone quite unattainable becomes 'oh so interesting' and a must have ....

Sigh, a six ft + cowboy, yum yum.

juniperb

posted February 04, 2004 04:08 PM            

Is he a Texan too? LOL

Oxy,

Yeah, I think he may have shown a bit of his insecurity about being a student. I did have the chance to tell him that if I was a gold digger I would have stayed with my ex, but money doesn't mean that much to me. It's just necessary to live, but I do like to collect nice things. I don't try to get men to buy things for me and won't allow it unless we are intimate and it is a personal gift.

I feel kind of bad, because if Mr. Leo didn't exist, I would have considered going out with Mr. Aqua. I am sure he will find himself a nice woman.

posted February 04, 2004 07:24 PM              

I see what you mean about him maybe feeling insecure about his student status. One of my oldest friends is an Aqua Sun/Leo Moon/Libra Rising. She can sometimes be shy/nervous. He sounds pretty extroverted and therefore may have spoken before thinking, and probably meant to be playful. Years ago, I started seeing an Aquarius and a Leo at the same time. I ended up with the Aquarius. Since that was a very prominent relationship in my life, I've often wondered how things may have been different had I chosen the Leo. And there's nothing wrong with you finding him attractive. You're allowed.

posted February 05, 2004 10:25 AM            

Gloria,

LOL...you are too weird.

Aries Rocks,

I love tall men. I am 5 foot 9 and with heels / boots I am around 6 foot. My current dude is 5 foot 11, which makes things interesting since we seem to fit perfectly LOL

posted February 07, 2004 05:48 PM              

your aquarian's conversational ability is affected because he likes you, so it comes off his tongue awkward. he may come off as cold or blunt, but he really doesn't see it coming off that way. he lives on a different plane, remember?

aquarians are very romantic and love a long flirt. just sometimes the words they imagine just don't pop out right

Mr. Leo and Aquarians don't much respect each other, basically due to their opposite nature. Aquarians don't like the filtered front of Mr. Leo, and Mr. Leo doesn't like the Aquarians "out there" opinion. my dad is a leo, and although i respect him, i don't really get along on more than a surface level.

basically, aquarians are nuts because we think its a cool way to live. we love original ideas and philosophy. and we absolutely love a good argument, especially when playing devil's advocate.

take for example myself, i love wearing my denim jeans in the "highwater" style -- and all my friends and family make fun of it. but seriously, i don't care, 'cause I LIKE the way it looks and feels. i'm weird, so what? that allows me to find everyone fascinating. my Scorpio moon allows me to probe into one's psyche, while my Aquarian sun allows me not to judge such a psyche.

posted February 07, 2004 08:26 PM              

I'm glad it didn't scare you off.

PS I'm a Leo who's best friend is and Aquarian. (I have an Aqua moon, and she has a Leo moon)

posted February 08, 2004 03:08 AM              

L.O.L.

posted February 08, 2004 10:57 AM              

Aquas can be players and I know this from dating Aquas and I have Aqua male friends and relatives. They love to banter too, but it doesn't mean anything. if he thinks there is another man in the picture and you are cool to him, that will turn him on big time, but once you are emotional about him he will run anyway. I am never sorry about the Aquas I have turned down.

Honestly, I have felt bad about Leos, Aries, and Libras I have turned down because they are so much more emotional.

Libras too can be players,
So I would say Pidua you made a good choice and the Aqua cowboy is just a little jealous of all the good times he's missing with you, he'd like to hear about them over a drink sometime, and maybe **** off your boyfriend if he can be that sly, maybe see you in your underwear a few times, banter some more, maybe even get in a few kisses, but after that he'll say he just wanted to play. That is my opinion is a player.

Not that it's a bad thing, depending on your point of view, but from my own as a women who has been on the receiving end of many Aqua flirting sessions, I can say it gets old. Put out or shut up for Pete's Sake, I am a natural woman I don't need to be teased out. Plus Aqua men can be very, very cheap, so that's where the gold digger comment came in, they like to think they are very frugal, but every Aqua male I know likes to spend on himself, he's just frugal on others.

Having been very sensitive to that I can say honestly if a man can't deal with a woman who wants a man to pay his own way, then he needs to get therapy.

But then I have lots of Aqua friends and I am committed to them as friends, but as lovers no, I wouldn't go there because Aquas are equally sensitive about being used in that way, and are secretly very emotional once intimate. That is why the long flirting session. When someone feels that invaded, it's wise to step back and give space.

I have great respect for Aquas, but I do not flirt with one, I just lay bare my feelings, and do not hide anything because it becomes fuel for the fire. Aquas are very sensitive to lying too and are almost paranoid about hidden feelings and thoughts, it's better to come right out and SAY you have a boyfriend already, you don't have to name names, but otherwise you come off to him as dishonest and Aquas hate dishonesty.

I wouldn't make a big deal out of it, just say don't be nervous but I have a boyfriend already, so maybe you guessed that already? Well BYE.

And make sure Mr. Leo is not standing by giving you looks because Leos can't control their expressions at all....

Gloria-I think you are kind of a player yourself,
Aries Rocks-you are man crazy!

posted February 08, 2004 11:14 AM              

Most likely settles for an emotionally supportive mate who also financially contributes to the household without having an overpowering presence. Usually gives up Don Juanism around 48 or 50-by that time has a large circle of women friends who are supportive.

Just for those young ones who don't know yet...
Women can be Don Juans too. Don Juan was a major player a couple hundred years ago and wrote a book about this. Psychologist still call it the Don Juan complex.

So don't say nobody told you...

posted February 08, 2004 12:20 PM              

I am currently dating an Aquarius...he's a Dr.. (he kind of resembles EMINEM without the tatoos) I really like him a lot, his sensitive side appeals to me quite a bit but he runs "hot and cold" with me. He never introduces me as his "girlfriend" so I confronted him about whether he was dating other women, he said he wasn't but also said that he wasn't ready to "sign on the dotted line with me" and that I can't expect him to "not look at other women" (I never not expected him to do that)..

YET...

he is quite jealous of even the smallest, tiniest remote possiblity of another man being interested in me.

For example:

There was a huge singles party in my hometown and a few of my other friends were encouraging me to go with them moreso for the fun activites than to meet men to date. I told Dr. Aquarius about this as a suggestion that we should go as we are both single and it could be fun. He said he didn't want to go. End of discussion. The party was on a friday night. At 1am early Saturday AM, he called me at home...woke me out of a dead sleep...GRILLING me about whether I had gone to the singles party. I assured him that I didn't go...he was quite upset...and then he said.."I feel like I'm stalking you"..and I said..."you need to think about what is motivating you to feel this way...it certainly isn't me, I only suggested that WE go to that party TOGETHER, you didn't want to go so I stayed home, I was in a dead sleep when you called"

I don't get his behavior because he has already gone 2 weeks withough even CALLING me...blaming it on his tough residency schedule at the hospital.

posted February 08, 2004 01:55 PM            

Thank you very much for your advice and information. It is always vaulable to read about the perspective from the sign in question.

Astrojunkie - You are a riot - but Lioneye is 100% right. I am in love with my Idaho Cowboy - he actually runs cows and has horses - whereas I sense Mr. Aqua is playing the part. Also, I wouldn't trade Mr. Leo in for the world - his saddle suits me perfect.

Natasha,

You are right. I think that he was a player and he knows that I am involved with Mr. Leo. I like to keep business and personal things separate which is why I didn't say I was with Mr. Leo. Most people know it anyway by some kind of spark we give off. LOL.. (Speaking of which, we went to bar for a glass of wine and the host said hi to us and then asked us how long we'd been married. We both laughed, showed our left hands and said we were just co-workers. The guy, a taurus I found out, almost fell on the floor laughing. He said "Yeah, right, but you two have been together for a while, you're in love and I believe will be married within a year or two. Look at your body language and how you sit just far enough from each other to still stare, but not draw attention". I turned red and Mr. Leo said "Well, now, let's not get too ahead of ourselves.." all blustery then said...well, okay..

Anyway, the point is I do think Mr. Aqua sensed it and I am VERY in tune with Mr. Leo's feelings. I could feel him pacing like a caged Lion while this young buck tried to get my attention. I didn't even have to turn around to see the scowl on his face. See, this is the same Aqua from the last conference that tried to pick me up, which led Mr. Leo and I into a serious argument and almost break up. In the end I let him know he didn't need to worry. I may talk to people, but I am only in love with one person. It has taken Mr. Leo a good year to accept that and now things are working out extremely well.

I agree, Leo's are very emotional - even when they have an Aqua moon. I love the coolness, but I never forget there still exists that very tender Leo heart.

As soon as I figured out that Mr. Aqua was trying to lead me into a debate, all the while I knew he was baiting Mr. Leo, I just let it drop and concentrated on other things. I would also agree that he sees me as unattainable which makes it sweeter for him, but would run if I returned any of the emotions.

FinanceChick,