posted March 30, 2004 11:49 PM              

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about a year ago i became friends with this aries guy whom i had a crush on. we hung out after school and finally he asked me to be his girlfriend (in the cutest way). i had never had a real relationship before and was scared that he'd think i was a crappy girlfriend or something, i asked if we could be friends and we haven't talked much since. he had moved away but i keep running into him(never getting the courage to say anything). its almost as if it were a sign. all i can think about is him and when i do i get this burning, heavy feeling in my chest and i feel sick to my stomach. my friends get so mad coz i always talk about him. i don't know his number and am so afraid i will never see him again but i don't wanna come off as crazy or anything. i don't know if this has made sense but i get so sick and dizzy over him and i don't know what to do. i wish i had his birth data to find out what is making me feel this way but alas i don't. what should i do?

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posted March 30, 2004 11:56 PM            

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Next time you see him,(and you will) swallow, take a deep breath, and say;

"Hi!"

Easy as that. The butterflies will go away when the conversation starts, and if they don't, enjoy their tickles. You can remember the convo easier if it is filled with tangible reminders in the form of belly-coasters.

Remember... just say Hi!!! Blush all you want. Who wouldn't be flattered by an obvious display of affection? Everyone understands that.. It is Universal.
Talk yourself up too... tell yourself every day for a week, next time I see him, I will say something.,. what do I have to lose? Practice in your head for confidence.. all scenarios. *especially the ones that are inappropriate*
Build yourself up.. the worst that can happen, is no worse than berating yourself for NOT SAYING ANYTHING. Don't let the bnext one be a missed opportunity.. Get this ball rolling... Hee hee.

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posted March 31, 2004 12:04 AM            

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Was the only thing keeping you from saying yes to his question fear?

If so, I would say.. from the way you described your heavy feelings for him...the next time you see him you should step out on a limb and after you say "Hi!' you should say something even more..

I just know that I've always regretted when I made a decision based on fears of 'what if' rather then making it with my heart.

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posted March 31, 2004 11:13 AM              

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Hey I think I will say "hi." I guess all this time I was afraid he wouldn't respond but I guess the worst thing that could happen is me not saying anything and regretting it for a looooooooong time.

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posted March 31, 2004 11:55 AM              

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If you don't know what else to do when you are walking away, ask if you can give him a hug. He wont' say no, just make it a quick one armed hug around the neck and go. That says how much you admire him without being gushy.

He will notice and appreciate it.

Natasha

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posted March 31, 2004 05:21 PM              

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... if I may add my twisted view. Dorkus - I've seen what you look like and if I were to make a movie in my head of how you, and what I know of you, would speak to a guy she liked, you would always say it like it is with class & finisse (sp).

And don't I know how weird love is?

.gloria

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posted March 31, 2004 10:10 PM              

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You know I appreciate your twisted views astro Class and finesse, eh? I wish astro heheh. I will always be that dorky chick guys just wanna be friends with. See I've never had feelings like this before coz it takes a lot for me to fall for a guy. I will still be thinking of him years from now, still eating spaghettios out of the can and watching reruns of The Cosby Show in my underwear. You know I want things to change but the trick is finding out where he is coz I can never seem to find him when I want. just when I think I have forgotten him and pushed him into a corner of my mind I see him walking a block away from me and I freeze up; my heart grows heavy and I about drop to my knees. I mean I just feel so alone in the world but when I think of him I envision how perfect things could be for him and me. *sigh* Well, sorry to trouble you all with this boring nonsense but I just had to let it out, you know? Is love supposed to be this way? Has anyone felt the same way I do? I suspect it could be the opposition between his Aries sun and my Libra moon, no? Thanks for listening all

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posted March 31, 2004 11:47 PM              

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Well, due to my Venus and Pluto in Virgo, I can relate to that freeze up thing. But if there is chemistry, all that dissipates.

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posted April 01, 2004 02:48 PM              

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i don't know if this has made sense but i get so sick and dizzy over him

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That's called "falling/being in love"!
I hate it

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posted April 01, 2004 03:48 PM              

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true - that tight sickening, I'm not hungry anymore feeling in your stomach.

I'm feeling it right now ...

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posted April 01, 2004 08:07 PM              

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awwwwwwwww astro - hugs!

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posted April 01, 2004 10:54 PM              

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Yeah, you know... this Libra guy I'm seeing now... it has a POTENT life of it's own, and only going to get stronger, and we both know it...

I miss him insanely the second we are apart. For the most part glad to go about my life while we are apart, but ... well ... if he thinks he's blown away now, I can only imagine when he knows more about me ... and after he experiences more of me as a girl who is in love, rather than "just friends" as it was before.

I'm a bit hesitant to open the entire toolbox until I can understand what's going on first, if you know what I mean... he'll never be the same man again (that's for sure)... hee hee

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