posted April 19, 2004 09:38 PM              

It should be taken with a grain of salt as nothing is written in stone. But it's fun to see what each sign might be capable of...

For women only.

posted April 20, 2004 12:36 AM              

Usually monogamous when in honeymoon phase of marriage, when transiting a masochistic or asexual phase, or when she is suffering from guilt & tries to make up for it by suppressing her libido. Few stay sexually faithful to husbands all their lives. She can rarely resist verifying whether far-out techniques in seduction equal prowness in bed.

Reasons for her to become non-monogamous:

1. Searches new sexual experiences, variations, better lovers.

2. Sexual or emotional starvation.

3. Use of sex as power ploy. (duh)

4. Need for reassurance about her own powers.

5. Misplaced anger at mate.

6. Fear of death.

7. Drug addiction.

8. Submission to powerful fantasy man who can dominate her for a time.

OPEN MARRIAGES::
Not a sharer. Likes the adventure, but won't last.

MENAGE A TROIS::
Fine if third person is a man or female into submission. Temporary adventure.

GROUP MARRIAGE::
Too jealous. Unless she is a detached Scorpio, it won't work.

COMMUNES::
As we enter Aquarius age such groups becoming popular, but for now, too ego-bound & possessive.

posted April 20, 2004 02:19 AM              

Especially choosy when selecting a provider & father to her children. She's capable of great passions, but also knows they need to be grounded. Thus she may choose a husband who fulfills her needs for stability & respect in the eyes of the community, one who is an upholder of form & continuity (not an Aries forte).

She's loyal, ardent, sentimental & practical. She often carries on several platonic friendships with men.

Reasons she might become nonmonogamous::

1. Need for adventure. She is on a trip & suddenly attracted to someone. Likely to act on impulse & jump into the experience. Suffers no guilt. In her mind this is no reflection on her marriage.

2. Boredom w/husband.

3. Low self-esteem, repressed anger. She may go off on sex hunts to prove herself. May disclose her infidelity to her husband at later date, in the name of honest communication, but usually to spite him.

4. Lack of respect for partner

5. Extreme jealousy by the partner. She cannot stand to have her independent movement controlled or her freedom questioned.

COMMUNES::
Not a prime choice, competition from other women in close quarters & too many routine household chores. Finds it difficult to have relationships where all are Indians & where leadership is episodic.

GROUP MARRIAGE OR EXTENDED FAMILIES::
This type of situation is suited for Aries woman. The advantages may outweigh the difficulties if friendships are solid & sex is shared comfortably by all. May use as opportunity to work through her fears of homosexuality, act out her bisexuality, and learn to "we"-conscious as opposed to self-absorbed. She will eventually want to revert to a one-to-one stiuation that takes less energy to control, though she will miss the scope, both passionate & intellectual, of group marriage.

MENAGE A TROIS::
Prefers the third person be a male. If jealousy does not rear its head & territorial imperative does not become more important than passion, this is a workable relationship.

OPEN MARRIAGE::
Because of her frankness, Aries woman is better suited to this revollutionary arrangement than most other types. If determined, she can make a go of it. I suspect that she will be more involved on principle than from gut desire.

GAY/BISEXUAL LIFESTYLE::
Author has met an unusually large number of openly gay Aries women. Many come out of traditional marriages. Provides her with forum for her avante-garde beliefs, her androgynous sexuality, & her anger at sexist socialization. Because she tends to live in extremes, she may swing back to heterosexual behavior again w/equally strong convictions.

posted April 20, 2004 08:31 AM              

Gemini BTW, been married almost 8 years and never gone stray, so I hope it's not all about being as flighty in sexual issues as in general....lol

posted April 20, 2004 10:57 AM              

I do know openly gay Virgo women..

But from the looks of this I am a Scorpio today, but I feel like an Aries most of the time. It's tough having moon in Cancer in the 8th!

posted April 20, 2004 03:44 PM              

She sometimes embraces so many different lifestyles & habits that she perfects none. It would behoove her to spend a little more time in each different environment she enters; perhaps she could then enhance the lives of those she encounters there.

Her free spirit and dual nature largely determines the various aspects of her lifestyle. She can be the stereotypical nagging wife, the corporate vice-president, the dutiful wife & mother, or the seasoned jetsetter. Then again, she can be, or try to be, all of the above at once.

She likes nothing better than change. She is often the vanguard of libration on her block, and her powerful verbal support for any movement can often enlarge various subcultures - for she can make things seem so glamrous that others can't wait to get involved & have fun too.

She often has a deep-seated loneliness that propels her from place to place, person to person, experience to experience. Her seemingly undending search for her other half requires that she embrace many different people from many different walks of life. After all, she can't be sure where she'll find what she's looking for.

OPEN MARRIAGE::
This arrangement is possibly the best solution to her need for excitement & change. She doesn't handle jealousy very well, which can cause problems w/ this lifestyle, but her commitment to a primary relationship can actually enhance the philosophy of open marriage. In an aboveboard, honest marriage, trust is an absolute necessity.

MENAGE A TROIS::
She commands & often demands center stage. She adores being adored. A menage a trois is better with two people who have the same goal in mind: exciting, pleasing & satisfying for her. She's long on having experiences but needs to work on her compassion - both for herself & others.

GROUP MARRIAGE::
Another good opportunity for her to have stimulation from many different directions & people, though the management of such a lifestyle could posibly be too tedious for her. It requires quite high levels of tolerance as well, & she usually moves too fast & in too many directions to become highly tolerant. She needs to become actively interested in what others have to say, how they perceive life, & what they need in order to function in such a sophisticated marital arrangement.

COMMUNES::
Can be exciting & fulfilling, however, the commune must encompass many many people. She has a tendency to go through groups like a twister cuts across Kansas. She can provide much stimulation, excitement, and pioneering spirit. She can elicit wit & cleverness from almost anyone. Has a knack for making people try harder. First, she must learn to relax & develop consistency in her habits. She tends to drop the ball out of boredom or in favor of something more exciting & each person must carry their load. She must also learn to control her manipulative powers, since they are often at the root of disharmony among her friends.

posted April 20, 2004 06:22 PM            

All I can say is my experience has been I have yet to find a man who can keep up with all my...appetites...

Its awful fun to watch them try though...

Good thing for me love keeps me faithful...ish

posted April 20, 2004 11:42 PM              

She enjoys - even requires - monogamy in marriage. She works hard to provide comfort for her mate & children.

Her innate nature cannot ignore the changes in our society. Couple that with some proof that an emerging lifestyle can help meet new demands, & Taurus will adapt to it. Once she sees the value & the blossoming of a New Age concept, her nurturing methodical nature will see to it that it grows.

Why she may want to be nonmonogamous::

1. Lack of complete respect for her mate.

2. Years of neglect & disregard for her needs.

3. Complete falure of her mate as a lover. She is the embodiment of love. She MUST have intimacy, touching, caressing, stroking, or she wilts like an orchid planted in the Sahara.

4. Lack of total financial security. If she doesn't feel, see & sense security, watch out!

5. Constant loneliness. Again, her need for intimacy, for being needed & appreciated.

OPEN MARRIAGE::
Almost never works. Her innate possessiveness & jealousy generally preclude even slight consideration of this alternative. The mere thought of giving another woman permission to enjoy HER man can cause her thinly veiled self-doubt to emerge & devastate her for days.

MENAGE A TROIS::
Again, her jealousy & possessiveness do not lend themselves to this kind of sharing. But this situation could be ideal for Taurus; it could help her bolster her inner security, eradicate her deep attachment to possessions (her man being the primary one), & even enhance her self-esteem. The possibilities are endless.

GROUP MARRIAGE::
If gotten past monogamy for monogamy's sake, this situation can provide her w/even more security & emotional richness. The opportunity to enlarge the colony of people who rely on her stability & dependability is definitely there. Again, it would take a high level of growth for her to consider this. Experimenting with this can be good for her. If it doesn't work out, she shouldn't feel like a failure.

COMMUNAL LIVING::
She's an excellent candidate for a commune, especially if she is entering as a single woman. She loves to care for people & help them make good decisions for themselves. The gardens & larders would be the envy of the county, for she loves few things more than working the soil & tending the kitchen. Her practicality & productivity can be infectious & can serve to solidify the diverse attitudes of the residents. Her love of teaching & her tremendous money-management talents could prove invaluable. The problem would arise if her possessiveness & jealousy took over. She could easily assume "ownership" of each & every member & then be crushed if anyone tried to contribute equally. It would become HER commune, & although she would generously provide for everyone, the spirit of the concept would ultimately be lost.

GAY/BISEXUAL LIFESTYLE::
If she opens up to another woman in intimate circumstances, she often finds she prefers the gentle interchange. Her sexual needs are great, indeed, but she prefers lengthy, sensual, & erotic sessions in bed. Another woman can often identify w/the attention to detail & the give-and-take attitude that typify Taurus' sexuality. Her strong masculine side can be attractive to femine women.

posted April 21, 2004 12:10 AM              

This woman often works to make her lifestyle match her current infatuation. As a perennial student, she is apt to adopt a transient lifestyle. She doesn't like the idea of being tied down; often she rejects the conventional. She has a deep sense of community, but again, that community is more apt to be a community of the world - a global village, if you will.

She tends to take up w/people who will automatically allow her freedom of expression & who aren't overly protective & jealous. There are times in her life when a little protectiveness from friends & intimates would do her good, & she should learn the difference between caring & inhibiting. Too often she mistakes the advice of friends as an attempt to slow her down, to bring her closer to their values.

She'll try almost anything once. Unlike her Aquarius sister, the Sag woman takes little stock in what the folks back home think about her. She's flashy, extravagant, & impulsive. She has probably pioneered more alternative lifestyles than any other woman in the Zodiac. To her, open marriage isn't a lifestyle - it's a necessity. She was forming communes & espousing the need for getting back to nature long before it was vogue. Her sense of optimism & her sheer luck make any alternate way of life work for her.

As she grows & evolves, she must learn it takes work & a certain amount of long-term dedication in order for any new growth movement to succeed & achieve credibility. Her magnetism will be a positive force in getting more people involved in exploratory lifestyles as we face the New Age.

In cases of nonmonogamy, she may sometimes find it difficult to wait until the time is right, & can become embroiled in some fairly bitter divorce & adultery situations

OPEN MARRIAGE::
It will be to her advantage in the long-run to enter ANY marriage w/openness in mind. She should carefully inspect the true motives of her intended partner & completely educate him about her BEFORE making a marriage commitment. She is often misunderstood partly because she doesn't make her needs clear enough & partly because she changes so rapidly. This satisfies her need for multiple sexual experiences.

MENAGE A TROIS::
Probably the only thing that she would really enjoy more is a good orgy. She has strong, assertive sexual tendencies & must be careful not to take charge of the other two people. She should let it flow & take its course naturally, without prodding or asserting herself unequally.

GROUP MARRIAGE::
Ideal situation if she has evolved & has learned the value of self-confidence. She'll probably want to take the entire group on her distant travels & explorations. Provides the perfect stage for her exhibitionistic talents & progressive spirit.

COMMUNAL LIVING::
Her life is the essence of communal living! She likes nothing more than sharing experiences, learning new talents, perfecting charm, & spreading joy. She is a born teacher & leader, something often diminishing in our culture. She believes in personalizing things, in conserving & in embracing nature. Her intuition is invaluable, and the expansive, progressive nature of this lifestyle means she'll do well. Again, she must polish her bluntness & extreme sense of honesty in order to protect the feelings of those w/whom she lives. Her eagerness & optimism will help boost the spirits of others when the going gets rough - and then there is her abundance of luck!

posted April 21, 2004 12:31 AM              

She is totally for or against monogamy on principle. Either way, she is unbending, self-rightious, & willing to argue vehemently on the subject. It is often enough to take an ideological stance without practicing it. She believes in justice & equality, so why not in freedom? - freedom of thought, if not of action.

Why she may become nonmonogamous::

1. Search for a more perfect partner. She believes, sometimes unconsciously, that there is always a potentially more ideal partner or husband than the one she has. She is willing to wear rose-colored specs & live in the Land of Dreams for a while, but when the glow & dreams wear off, she is in the market for a new lover.

You can tell when she's approaching this state by how attentive she is to her mate. My advice to her man is to redouble his attentions. Ask her what she is missing. Since she is suggestible & appreciates being pampered, all is not lost.

2. Lady Chatterley. Libra can trap herself in the role of the refined lady or vestal virgin at home, leaving herself no place to go with her animal passion. The whorre in her needs a man who forces her to get out of her head & her role. She is quite able to balance relationships w/two men, & may live out some raunchy fantasies this way.

3. Personal growth. Libra changes many times in the course of her life, destined to experience a great deal in relationships. When she is more in tune with her higher self & w/EROS, she will need a man with whom she can share all of herself. She will do best to keep in mind that she is spiraling upward in her development, toward being a balanced, sharing, total woman.

4. Great appetite for life. She has plenty of JOIE DE VIVRE. She wants to swim in Bali, ride a camel in the Sahara, ski the Alps, drive in Monte Carlo, & make love on Telegraph Hill. If these opportunities come along, she will most probably take them. Thus, if she is without her mate & her ski guide is handsome & attentive, she may just have sex for lunch.

5. Low self-esteem. Libra has many moments of high anxiety about beauty & aging. She may try to shore up her sagging ego by taking another lover, even a new husband.

6. Insensitivity from her partner. She's a complicated creature of many sides & moods. If her partner is unable or unwilling to accommodate her, she will sooner or later grow very disenchanted.

7. And others are doing it too. Libra likes to keep up w/the trends.

OPEN MARRIAGE::
This arrangement is a very poor choice for Libra because of her insecurities. She is uninterested in talking things out. She is very interested in getting her way & usually believes that total honesty is undesirable & impossible. An open marriage simply would not provide her w/enough control or reassurance.

MENAGE A TROIS::
She might well adore it. Unlike her Aries sister, who prefers two men with her, Libra would probably prefer to have another woman. This would give her a chance to interact fully w/another woman, which has long been one of her fantasies (in some cases also a reality). She will patrol her territory very cleverly, & it is likely that the trois will revolve, however subtly, around her.

GROUP MARRIAGE::
She is usually too jealous, but she might be willing to try this for possible richness it provides - materially, sexually, intellectually, spiritually. Verdict: doubtful.

COMMUNES::
Good choice. Rotating chores, a variety of partners, contact w/people in all social & age groups, lots of socializing, & the opportunity to learn new things make this an especially good possibility. However, her jealousy may become a problem, especially if she lets it build up & eat at her insides.

posted April 21, 2004 12:35 AM              

Now... for a station break...

You know I MUST comment on Libra, since I am...

Every single word is true to me, which is a bit unusual because I have so much water in my chart, I usually don't relate to "general Libra interpretations" 100% of the way. (Except for the one part it said about preferring two women to two men... ummmm... no preference).

posted April 21, 2004 03:26 AM              

That about sums me up. What I found intersting is that all the other signs had "why she might choose to not be monogamous", and for the gems, it was more like a defense for why she might choose to be monogamous lol. I've an unaspected taurus moon in the 7th and find I related to the taurus post more.

Thanks, Gloria!
Nackie

posted April 21, 2004 10:39 AM            

Most of the Saggie women I know are not into "sharing", "orgies", "Adultry", open marriages...it is against every principal in our Archer being.

I can say though, that we are not willing to commit unless we are very sure that we want that kind of relationship and then it is only in dire situations that the Saggie will stray.

I have the book Sextrology - which I posted on here awhile back - but I only posted the turn ons. The book itself has large chapters on the signs motivations, fears, desires...etc..from the perspective of the male and female.

That book was actually more true to form that some of the run of the mill astro sex books.

Saggie is a selfish sign..meaning we are more centered on our own emotions like many of our fire sign brothers and sisters. To share a lover in an orgy or threesome can be extremely degrading and also does provoke jealousy...even in our Archer bones. I just think it's gross. LOL

But like Gloria said...take it with a grain of salt..it was still fun reading it

Thanks!!!

posted April 21, 2004 12:20 PM            

It all seems right on the money...except the choice of a woman for me. I find women more beautiul than I find men handsome but I have no sexaul attraction for them...I see a woman that I find beautiful and try to figure out if I can 'give off' the same preception to others...

Monogomay!!! I'm all for it!!!! However I must admit if I am not 'growing' in my relationship I would probably seek else where. My partner would have plenty of warning but I can't deny that it would happen...

posted April 21, 2004 02:40 PM              

She is excellent marriage material. She needs & wants a sustained relationship that fulfills her social, material, & emotional needs. She may be looking for marriage or a strong primary relationship, & she may not wish to separate sex & love, but she is normally a late bloomer in finding happiness. She is also late in achieving self-awareness & developing the kind of skills it takes to make a relationship work.

Typical Capricorn pattern in terms of changing lifestyles::

1. Early adulthood (20-28 but sometimes as late as 25-32). Apt to be immature & insecure. She may either withdraw into a totally monogamous relationship that makes her feel safe or go to the other extreme & spend years running experiments to broaden her skills & horizons. If she marries young, & is of the old school, she is most likely to stay monogamous all her life.

2. Middle adulthood, (usually 35-60) Period of great individual variation, & its only common theme is predictable upheavals, especially at 35, 42/43, 50, and 58-60.

3. Late adulthood (60 on). Typically at her best, PROVIDED she has not formed crystallized habits. If she has given in to fear & depression, she will have serious physical problems. If not, she blooms w/the advancing years like a rare, precious flower.

Why she may become nonmonogamous::

1. Bitterness or disappointment w/her life & mate.

2. The feeling that life has cheated her & that she must do something radical about it; the feeling that life has passed her by.

3. The search for glamour & excitement. She often feels these quality must come from someone else, for she believes she lacks them herself. If she views her mate as also dull, she is almost certain sooner or later to try to find a man who will let a bit of glamour "rub off".

4. The search for a male mentor (especially in the case of a very upwardly mobile career woman). This is most likely to happen if her husband does not have interest in her work.

5. Loneliness in her marriage.

6. Trnasference. If she is having emotional problems, she may blame her contemporaries, possibly including her husband, & turn to an older man.

7. Misplaced anger at herself or at her mate.

8. The search for new sexual knowledge.

OPEN MARRIAGE::
Just about impossible for her. She is possessive, & her need to be exclusive is permanent. She is quite happy w/monogamy, the more so if it is the socially accepted lifestyle of the times.

MENAGE A TROIS::
Fine as a temporary exploration of her potential for relating. She should stay away from Aries, Leo, Aquarius & Gemini types.

GROUP MARRIAGE::
Capricorn likes insular lifestyles. If group marriage is formed in an atmosphere of trust & financial & emotional security she may give it a try.

COMMUNES::
These differ from group marriage in that a bonding ceremony may have been omitted & they are not based on couples. Has about the same potential as group marriage, & may work, given conditions above.