posted May 20, 2004 07:28 AM              

I have a friend who is cancerian with venus in cancer. We are good friends, hang out a fair bit, talk on the ph for hours together. I m not sure if she knows that I do like her though.

I m just wondering if people especially cancerian women, can give me some insights into how cancer girls behave when they like a guy.

posted May 20, 2004 08:29 AM              

My Cancer friends always want the ones that are hard to get (Scorpios) or need sympathy (in the hospital).

posted May 21, 2004 06:05 AM              

Sometimes I feel that she is interested in me, the way she talks to me so much, the way we hang out, sometimes she does cook for me, offers me food all the time i m with her etc. And I find that our visions and dreams of a home (when we do get married, not necessarily to each other) are very very similar. Theres not a thing that we disagree on or differ with.

But are these signs? I dont know! I n not so sure.

posted May 23, 2004 02:05 AM              

Wow!! Your feedback was excellent. Helped me a lot. I dont know what time she was born is but going by her birthday she has venus in cancer and I am assuming that doesnt change with time of birth.

She sometimes does give me subtle hints (which i interpret are hints anyway) to suggest that she likes me . Just the way she agrees with how a married life should be, a house should be, life should be in general etc. Our conversations could go on and on for hours and hours and I cannot think that she would not be interested. Yes i know she is measuring me at the same time. The only thing I do not have that she wants in a man is a job. But i am desperately looking and she knows that. At one point she suggested even, that I become a minister (because I keep preaching to her about God and stuff) and immediately after said to me that she wouldnt mind being a ministers wife and being a breadwinner for a while. It only hit me later on that she said that.

She is not clingy although most information suggest that venus in cancer is clingy. She might be clingy in a relationship, and that is yet to be seen. At the moment she really likes her space a lot and I give her that when I get hints. Btw, I am a piscean. Most information suggest that Cancer and Pisces get along really well emotionally. Emotion and conversation coupled with emotion is really important to me. It can take me to the greatest hieghts. I see that in her as well which is probably why we get along so fine. We also think the same although starkly different in some ways. Although our differences never come between us. Its very strange.

Anyway...

Thanks heaps.

posted May 27, 2004 04:03 PM              

Sun in Cancer
You are an emotional person who is sensitive to the subtle ways that people communicate with each other.
You very much need to have emotional support and to know that your loved ones love you, especially your mother. When these needs are fulfilled, you are a very generous and giving person.
However, if your own basic needs are not provided for, you will withdraw into yourself and act very insecure. An insecure Cancer can be very selfish, just as a secure one can be very generous.
You probably have a secret, quiet place that is all your own, where you can go and be alone with your thoughts. Wherever you go in life, one of your first objectives in new surroundings will be to find such a place for yourself.
Your home and family will always be important to you.

Venus in Cancer
You like to be very close to people, and you need to have an especially affectionate relationship with your parents. You always want to be sure that you can count on someone for emotional support. At the same time, you are willing to give the same support to anyone you love.
If you decide that no one loves you, you may be desperate to find a friend to give you moral support.
Nevertheless, when you like someone, you like them a lot, and you show it. You will never do anything to hurt someone you like unless they hurt you first. Then you are likely to strike back.
Your relationship with your mother will be especially important. However, if you have a good relationship with her, your other relationships throughout life will also be good.

More;
Having Venus in Cancer makes one highly receptive to love, a seeker of amorous situations both real and unreal. Why is that? Those with this placement are emotional beings full of life and love, and if a match isn't at the ready, they'll just create one in their own fertile minds. The creativity and imagination of these individuals will serve them very well once a relationship is in place, so their lovers are in for a treat! Is a union filled with fantasy, make-believe and the joy and wonderment of a child what you crave? Well then, seek out that kindred spirit with Cancer in their House of Love. Play dates, and dates in general, will never be the same! When the Crab rules the game of love, it's a sweet bite, indeed. Nurturing and sympathetic, these kindly souls are likely to have a retinue of friends who are giving and true, just like them. At times, there may be mood swings which are just a response to a touchy and somewhat unsettled situation. Most of all, what lovers guided by Cancer need is emotional security from their mate. If this can be achieved, every day will be a parade for this blessed duo!
Also!!!;
Venus in Cancer: can express affection by "mothering" you, and that’s usually how they expect to receive affection as well. Venus shows what it takes to make us happy. In Cancer, it’s frequently a comfortable home. These people are sentimental and loving in romance. Watch out if you get involved with one because their feelings are easily hurt. They adore food and are very sensuous so wear soft feeling clothes, smell nice and cook hot, delicious food for them in a beautiful enviroment and you will win their love!!

U 4 her; Sun in Pisces Sun in Cancer
Both highly emotional creatures you get on a treat together. You understand each other's sensitivities so are less likely to crash into criticisms, or hurtful remarks . You are both highly self protective which can make it difficult for you to open up to each other initially but once you have made the breakthrough then you can create a cocoon for yourselves which shuts the world out. Cancer will take more initiative than you and , though a water sign, are energetically competitive in the outside world. They will make the home you always dreamed of come true. Moodiness and sulks can be a problem since both of you retreat into your shells suddenly and with little exterior reason. You are both highly impressionable to the atmosphere around you so you will feel at times as if you were being tossed around by the high seas without any controls. You must always watch the company you keep. Difficult, anxious, nervy friends will pull you both down.

Her 4 u! Sun in Cancer Sun in Pisces
What a dream you make together - all love and light, affectionate sympathy and telepathic awareness of the other's needs. They are blissfully emotionally sensitive and highly adaptable. So they will float round you like a cloud of ectoplasm ready to fit in with your wishes, needs, desires and lusts. You want security, a home, family and a luxurious lifestyle. They have taste, elegance, usually a creative flair to match your own, and need an anchor in life. Together you can be too impressionable to emotional atmosphere so Full Moon days can be a horror as both of you float around adrift on an ocean of feeling. But both of you innately understand the other's fear of rejection, humiliation and abandonment so you will not wilfully hurt them. Both of you can be quite vague in the application of your love. You spread it right round the family. They disappear into their inner world of dreams and fantasies or relate to the entire universe. But neither of you wants totally exclusive calls on each other's time and feelings once you are settled together. Pisces can be an orgiastic sign so you may fight for control at times as you feel swallowed up. But that is a small price to pay.

PS, Lovely film star Liv Tyler from LOTR as Arwen is a Cancer.
Born under a Cancer Sun, family is a high priority for Liv Tyler, and will remain a focal point of interest throughout her life. Most Cancers have lifelong close ties with family, whether those ties are harmonious or troubled. Tyler is caring and compassionate with those she loves and is truly loyal. As is the case with most Crabs, however, Tyler feels things deeply and is prone to occasional bouts of moodiness.

posted May 28, 2004 12:02 AM              

Meanwhile. I sent her an SMS txt message telling her that I liked her. She hasnt responded yet. Dont know if she will. Puts us in a difficult position being friends and all that.

posted May 28, 2004 09:59 PM              

Maybe shes thinking about it. If i know her well she s on the ph with her mum and her best mate. who is close to me too.

posted June 03, 2004 09:02 PM              

She says she s not ready for a relationship. Honestly i dont know what that means. I spoke to her best friend about this and she thinks that we are so made for each other and she s probably terribly confused. I didnt expect her best friend to take my side really. Now i m totally confused. Not sure whether to silently wait for her or...move on. I ve heard of cancerians taking time about relationships..is that true?

posted June 16, 2004 11:30 PM              

What I see is that you both have an excellent chance of making it work. You both excel at work, are very responsible and helpful. Both romantic and able to be committed. If she's holding back, but you know there's strong feelings there, it may be because she needs to make sure you are completely stable. That you've got your life together, that you have ambitions and are willing to put effort into the relationship.