posted May 24, 2004 10:06 PM              

How long has your longest relationship lasted?
When do your romantic relationships typically go stale?
Do you find yourself with friends and prefer their company over the company of your mate?
Do you flirt a lot?
Does it bother you if your mate or lover flirts in front of you?
Do you ever have nightmares?
What is your biggest fear?
What is your favorite fantasy?
And what is your favorite memory?

posted May 24, 2004 10:38 PM              

How long has your longest relationship lasted? With actual Labels, 10 monthes. But I don't really get caught up in that

When do your romantic relationships typically go stale? Couldn't tell you that, If i knew I'd prolly do something about it. I get into alot of distance relationships and those are usually doomed from the start.

Do you find yourself with friends and prefer their company over the company of your mate? I wanna spend time with all of them, but i guess when i am attached i'm with my boyfriend more.

Do you flirt a lot? No, I'd rather be left alone actually.

Does it bother you if your mate or lover flirts in front of you? Yes, it does.

Do you ever have nightmares? Omg yes, horrible ones where people die and things explode, demon possesions and all sorts of other twisted things. LOL i'm an insomniac

What is your biggest fear? I have a needle phobia I guess I'm scared that I'll die all alone because people see me as too "cold." LoL, not alot of people "get me" and I don't let many "in" either.

What is your favorite fantasy? Travelling around the world with someone special

And what is your favorite memory? Oo that I can't pick. There's a different one for everyone that's been in or is in my life. I can't think of just one that tops them all.

posted May 25, 2004 01:47 AM              

Night. Night.

posted May 25, 2004 09:15 AM              

How long has your longest relationship lasted?
--I've been married now almost 8 years, so a 9 year relationship...not too shabby, eh?

When do your romantic relationships typically go stale?
--Well, before getting married, I generally last about 6-8 weeks before I hit the "omg, what are you doing, you're closing off all your options and you don't want a relationship anyways" stage. With my husband it actually held off till about 4.5 months...after which my best friend convinced me that, after sticking it out that long, it must be love! hehe

Do you find yourself with friends and prefer their company over the company of your mate?
--I NEED to have my own life, a part of which HE is not. I have my girlfriends, and I want him to have nothing to do with them. I have my own hobbies, and ditto. But I still like to be with him, too lol

Do you flirt a lot?
--Am I dead yet?

Does it bother you if your mate or lover flirts in front of you?
--No, I think it's funny lol

Do you ever have nightmares?
--Sometimes, lol...but what does this have to do with relationships? Sometimes I dream that I murdered someone or did something really bad and then I'm being chased by the police. Sometimes they get me and I go to court and sometimes they don't get me...but I always wake up with a pounding heart!

What is your biggest fear?
--There are so many...to end up alone, to fail...to not be the best...

What is your favorite fantasy?
--Me with a whole two weeks alone to myself at a spa...calgon, take me away!

And what is your favorite memory?
--Saturdays: as a kid I used to get to go with my dad to the job site (he's a contractor)...I got to organize all the marrets and all the guys would let me pick out the best stuff out of their very well packed lunches. They were mostly Italians...ate so much zucchini bread and meatball sandwiches...yummmy! And afterwards my dad and I would go out together for an ice cream. I loved my time alone with my dad.

posted May 25, 2004 10:40 AM              

I also have Gemini on the 7th and Venus in Aries so I am not always balanced in terms of my affections either but I want to take a stab at it. The Gemini seems to swing back and forth depending on my moods so I need to feel somewhat secure in the future, for at least a year (that's good for me)

posted May 25, 2004 11:40 AM              

Longest relationship?
Eleven years.

When do the romantic relationships typically go stale?
It really depends on the relationship. To answer in broadest terms, I'd have to say when I become very disillusioned and/or lose respect for the person I'm involved with. Still, it takes me a long time to get there.

Prefer friends' company over mate's?
I make every attempt to keep an even balance between the two, with occasionally blending them. A pet peeve of mine is a female who forgets about her friends as soon as a man comes along, and I am happy to say that I have actually never done this.

Flirt a lot?
Only if I am unattached, and even then it is subtle and low-key.

Bothered by your mate's flirting in front of you?
Yes I am bothered by it; to me it demonstrates a lack of respect. I wouldn't do it to him, and I would expect the same consideration of feelings.

Nightmares?
Sometimes. Most of them are recurring, like being in a car that no one's driving, being back in school and not knowing where my classes are, losing teeth, falling, etc. Once in a while I'll have one about someone I love very much dying. Those are the ones that I wake up from crying.

Biggest fear?
Sorry, I'm too superstitious to say.

Favorite fantasy?
I thought a lot about this one. Honestly, I'd have to say simply to be at a place in my life where I KNOW I am completely self-sufficient: to be comfortable enough financially so I don't have to worry about it and can help others out, also to KNOW I can handle anything that is thrown at me and come through it stronger and wiser.

Favorite memory?
Oh, there are more than one. One that comes to mind was the day my second husband proposed. Everything about that day was so utterly romantic...one of the best. Another was the day my parents threw a Sweet Sixteen BD party for me. I was completely surprised, and overwhelmed at seeing all the people, realizing they were there for me...made me cry. But probably my favorite one of all was the night of my first daughter's birth. After 2 years of infertility, tests and major surgery, holding her in my arms and gazing into those eyes...it was very spiritual because I knew what a miracle she was, I was so HIGH; and not from drugs, lol.

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Natasha,

Good luck with your Gemini! For what it's worth my Gemini daughter's (mentioned above) boyfriend is also Gemini, with Moon and Mercury in Taurus, Venus in Gemini and a Virgo Ascendant. He is a wonderful young man...very good to and for her, and true blue about 4 years now. When I called him yesterday to tell him about her being at the hospital he asked to ride along with me. Not only was he tender and sweet with my daughter but he kept me company during the endless waiting, lending moral support and comfort to Amanda and me both.

posted May 25, 2004 11:53 AM              

Twin Lady, I am happy for you, and yes I have lots in Virgo, midheaven, sixth house sun, jupiter and pluto conjunct in virgo/10th house, and uranus trine the sun. Jupiter is important in my chart and it's in Virgo/10th house. I do sew all the time (very Virgo) and I am an artist.

But I have Neptune conjunct the ascendant in Scorpio and Sag/1st house conjunct Mars.

My virgo tries to curb my impulsive nature. But I still come off as impatient, and moody rather than the low key moody type. The Gemini's biggest complaint with me is that I am too impulsive, I don't like to plan anything that's for fun.

I do like the thoughtful part of this Gemini, he is caring and sweet and gentle. I have a lot of trouble expressing myself to him when I am emotional, I am looking at different ways to show how I care.

Natasha

posted May 25, 2004 01:02 PM              

I share a similar mix of planets with your friend. I am a Gemini Sun with Venus, Mars, and Mercury in Taurus, a Pisces Moon, and a Cancer Ascendant.

I am extremely faithful, yet unstable in love. I would never cheat, yet I always doubt myself to the point of inducing frequent little 'breakups' in all of my relationships to this point.

I have cried through every single relationship. My first intimate relationship was with a young man who turned out to have severe addiction problems coupled with manic depression. I was trapped for two years. He was controlling, possessive, and I couldn't get out without the help of my loved ones.

I took several years off and fell head over heals for his opposite. A man who was so in love with his career, he never made time for me. I spent four years trying to woo him with witty conversation, sexy dresses, and no talk of my feelings, wishes, dreams or desires. I was there to please him, when he wanted it, on his terms only. Both this relationship and the last led to severe boughts of depression and dangerous battles with anorexia.

I got to the point at 25 when I just decided, why all the tears? Why the starving? Why the hell would I want a man in my life anyway???

I should I suppose, share that I was sexually abused by a man for several years as a toddler. I know this plays an intense role in my relationship decisions.

In January I met a man that for the first time made me feel safe. He makes me feel okay to be me. Yes- I am still coping with the depression, with the fears of not being good enough, with being abandoned... they have not left me. But I am able to open up about them now...to share them...and to still be loved for all of me. It's hard because I am learning to love myself...and it isn't easy letting someone else love you when you haven't quite mastered loving yourself yet. I am getting there...I am in a relationship for the first time, where I am being nutured and loved, I am on the receiving end. Everyday I learn a little bit more, open up just a smidgion bit more, and thank the stars above that I am learning from my sad lessons in love, and that my previous relationships had a purpose and reason- to get me where I am now.

Okay- that was a bit off the beaten path. I'm glad your post triggered me to have these thoughts...and now to your questions.

How long has your longest relationship lasted?

Four years with constant breaks in between. Some of the times we spent a month apart- once an entire year. He recently contacted me an I could tell it was his way of trying to get me back again. But after meeting Mr. San Juan, I couldn't look back. I don't understand why I put up with it as long as I did. We shared a composite fifth house moon, and his Venus was in my Seventh house. That's all I can figure.

When do your romantic relationships typically go stale?

My relationships go stale if I feel smothered in any way- or if I self implode. I start obsessing about the relationship, my self worth, etc- to the point I starve myself and cannot physically or mentally support a relationship. I believe it is my karma in this life to learn to allow myself to be loved. To that end I am working on my relationship with myself every day.

Do you find yourself with friends and prefer their company over the company of your mate?

I adore my closest friends and will always have time for them. They hold a special place in my heart, as does my mate. Both are important, and I make time for both. Right now I am living in San Juan with no friends- so we have each other right now!

Do you flirt a lot?

I like to know that I am sexually attractive to other men. I do not openly flirt when I am with my partner, but I will flirt if I am out with friends.

Does it bother you if your mate or lover flirts in front of you?

Yes. It makes me feel fire inside.

Do you ever have nightmares?

No.

What is your biggest fear?

Poverty. Finacial ruin. Unlike most people, I don't fear being alone. I have always preferred it in a way- it's a 'safe haven'. It allows me to get away with being challenged by the short comings I see in my personality when I am in involved in a relationship. I suppose aloneness is a form of escape.

What is your favorite fantasy?

My favorite fantasy is that I own an online shop that sells a variety of occult goods as well as herbal remedies I have created, I would also like a bricks and mortar shop, where I can interact directly with customeres. I would also like to write books and teach on subjects I have studied for years including aromatherapy, crystal healing, card divination, and possibly astrology.

And what is your favorite memory?

How could I pick just one?

posted May 25, 2004 02:02 PM              

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The year we spent in Hawaii. Paradise. Isolation. Homesickness. Family Unity. Beautiful beaches. The smell of the air. The vegitation. The people.

posted May 25, 2004 06:21 PM              

You are right when you say the most important relationship is to yourself..you are your own best friend because you will know yourself forever, everyone else is iffy!

I guess I was just wondering if I ought to pay attention and date other men besides the Gemini, Geminis seem sensitive at the same time, there is no commitment. I am not going to ask him because obviously that looks whiny and he doesnt' like that. So I will probably continue to date others but not other Geminis. Geminis are special so I would like only one in my life.

Besides I have all the conversation I need:> Geminis sure like to chat! My aunt is a Gemini and once she talked to me for 6 hours straight without a break, just for breathing!

posted May 27, 2004 04:14 PM            

They have been married over ten years, been together probably 15, have two beautiful daughters, and still act like they are on their honeymoon. He is so devoted to her and their lives together.

They are both independent and have their own interests, which is probably what contributes to their energies complimenting each other so well.

Another example of a Gemini in true love, is Paul McCartney, so devoted to his departed wife Linda.

posted May 27, 2004 07:19 PM              

I have very early memories...I even remember certain events from when I was an infant! As hard as it has been to deal with what happened- I thank god that I am aware of it- and didn't repress it.

Natasha-

I was reflecting on your comment about it being hard for Gemini's to commit. It's so funny- because it was simple for me to move in with my boyfriend and set up house- but I find it hard to talk about the future. He'll say things like "that'll be something to tell our kids" and I just kind of nod. I don't lknow why- maybe it's a Gemini thing, but I think to myself- how can he be so sure of our future??? How can he be so sure of me?

It's been a whole new experience getting used to someone caring about me and wanting to be a part of my daily life. That's what I am learing about now...and I grow a little bit each day...and some days I withdrawal a little more...but I'm not at a point where I feel comfortable thinking about the huge and looming 'FOREVER'. It has absolutely nothing to do with the man I love...it has to do with me and the fear I have of relationships. I think many Gem's fear permanance and eternity- we like to take life day by day- because who knows what's right around the corner! We need that freedom.

posted September 29, 2005 03:44 PM              

When do your romantic relationships typically go stale? When I walk away

Do you find yourself with friends and prefer their company over the company of your mate?

No

Do you flirt a lot? No

Does it bother you if your mate or lover flirts in front of you? I'll murder him if he even thinks about it.

Do you ever have nightmares? Haven't in a couple of months.

What is your biggest fear? Loosing my family and friends.

What is your favorite fantasy? To many to name.

And what is your favorite memory? To many to name.

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Gemini sun, Cancer rising, mercury in Gemini, moon in Taurus *29, venus in Taurus, mars in Libra

posted September 29, 2005 04:15 PM              

How long has your longest relationship lasted? I have only had one boyfriend in my life and that lasted 3 1/2 years before I called it quits.

When do your romantic relationships typically go stale? As stated before I haven't had many relationships, but I have seemed to notice that when I am intrested in a person, that sometimes even after a couple of weeks, it's like a cloud lifts and I no longer have feeling for them. Its very rare that I even keep a crush on a guy for longer then a week or 2, but there are a few men who I have been friends with for years and if they ever showed any intrest I would drop everything for them.

Do you find yourself with friends and prefer their company over the company of your mate?
Do you flirt a lot? Anyone I have ever been with romantically was basically my best friends in ways, so I have always hung out in large groups of friends even when I am in a relationship.

Does it bother you if your mate or lover flirts in front of you? Mabye it is the Scorpio moon, but I can get really jealous , but then mabye 20 minutes later I could give a care less.

Do you ever have nightmares? I don't usually dream, but that is for a whole nother reason, and when I do I very rarely have nightmares, i can only remember mabye having less then 10 official nightmares in my life, and they are usually about my loved ones dying when I am not around.

What is your biggest fear? i dont know..
What is your favorite fantasy?...ummmmmm....hehe, i dont think i should let those out.

posted September 29, 2005 04:22 PM              

How long has your longest relationship lasted? 7 years

When do your romantic relationships typically go stale? when the affection wears off.

Do you find yourself with friends and prefer their company over the company of your mate? No I love spending "alone time" with my special someone.

Do you flirt a lot? yes at times but its in good fun!!
Does it bother you if your mate or lover
flirts in front of you? YES
Do you ever have nightmares? yes
What is your biggest fear? death
What is your favorite fantasy? finding my soul mate
And what is your favorite memory? the birth of my children!!

posted September 29, 2005 05:32 PM              

When do your romantic relationships typically go stale? Previous boyfriend too demanding and had no respect for my privacy - didn't last long (few months).

Do you find yourself with friends and prefer their company over the company of your mate? Have a bit of both worlds. Love quiet nights in with hubby but enjoy meeting friends for lunch and chat. Can gossip with friends more readily. Hubby a bit serious.

Do you flirt a lot? No.

Does it bother you if your mate or lover flirts in front of you? Very much.

Do you ever have nightmares? Occasionally.

What is your biggest fear? Losing my loved ones.

What is your favorite fantasy? Having my fantasy world come to life.

And what is your favorite memory? Too many to list. I have many fond memories.

Touch

posted September 29, 2005 05:41 PM              

I am, of course a rising Gemini.

I adore my friends. I complain relentlessly about them, but I treat my friends are like my family. They mean lots!

I don't flirt a lot (in fact, I'll go so far as to say that I do not flirt at all. I just am):-)

It does bother me if my mate flirts in front of me, because I should be the one with all his attention! Hello!

I have not had many nightmares (you know, the ones with me falling, death, etc..) at all. Mostly just odd snippets of scenes that seem like dreams...

My biggest fear: not being successful

My fave fantasy:Me finding a guy I actually connect with. Yup.

posted September 30, 2005 01:02 AM              

How long has your longest relationship lasted?

um, 1 1/2 yrs

When do your romantic relationships typically go stale?

After the first or second week

Do you find yourself with friends and prefer their company over the company of your mate?

hell yes

Do you flirt a lot?

no...see Bissie's thread

Does it bother you if your mate or lover flirts in front of you?

um, it depends on how much I trust my mate. As a norm, I'm not jealous and wouldn't care

Do you ever have nightmares?

occassionally, usually anxiety-related

What is your biggest fear?

a tie:

1. that I will die before I can do what I feel I ought to do with my life

2. insanity

What is your favorite fantasy?

meeting my soul mate/twin flame, who'll be a musician (of course) and we'll travel a lot, write cool music together and have great sex

And what is your favorite memory?

I have several, but I suppose I could say playing outdoors as a young child in San Diego

BTW I have:

Sun at 24 Gem
Mercury at 17 Gem
Venus at 4 Gem
MC at 13 Gem
Ceres at 21 Gem
Eros at 28 Gem
POS at 12 Gem

posted September 30, 2005 09:09 AM              

How long has your longest relationship lasted?

10 years

When do your romantic relationships typically go stale?

The Gem in me keeps them from getting stale...if I get bored, it is usually because the person is not smart enough to keep up...even lack of common sense will drive me to move on. Also, telling time limits seem to be at: 3mos, 6 mos and 1 year. There seems to be certain unspoken hurdles that are completed at these time junctures. Does this make sense?

Do you find yourself with friends and prefer their company over the company of your mate?

Never! I like everyone together and my mate with me always. Why would I want to be with someone who I do not want spend time with and preferred time with my friends over? He has to be my friend as well..no doubt!
Time spent with him alone and time spent with my friends with or without him is fine...but I do not like jealous lovers who do not want me to see my friends or talk on the phone with them..do not restrict me in this area!!

Do you flirt a lot?

ALL THE TIME!! It naturally tumbles out..I could be at a store, the market, on the phone with tech support...it just happens!

Does it bother you if your mate or lover flirts in front of you?

NO,usually not...as long as I know I am the woman he wants, I have no problem with open flirting. It is harmless flirting and I would not want to be restricted myself!!

Do you ever have nightmares?

Rarely-after the Northridge earthquakes in LA...and sometimes I have had premonition dreams when my ex would get into trouble...my dreams usually tell me. I am more apt to have vivid dreams of sexual and adventurous themes...

What is your biggest fear?

I will lose my mental faculties when I get too old. What Gemini could stand living without their inquisitive and intellectual mind?

What is your favorite fantasy?

WOW...there are sooooo many...making love in a lush and misty green forest of towering trees...growing old with my lover and still feeling like a teenager in love...dancing the most perfect sultry Tango with my man....the list goes on and on and on...

And what is your favorite memory?

The first time I felt the electricity run through my body when my soul recognized my love's soul...it was incredibly magical-and we both felt it at that exact moment!
And I hope to have one of my first child being born...maybe someday!

Hope this gives you further insight Natasha!

GemStar

Gem Sun, Gem Mars
Scorp ASC,
7th house: Taurus Venus, Taurus Juno, Taurus Nnode
Cancer Moon, Cancer Jupiter, Cancer Mercury

posted September 30, 2005 11:19 AM              

When do your romantic relationships typically go stale?- after the first few months?

Do you find yourself with friends and prefer their company over the company of your mate?-
I spend more time w significant other usually

Do you flirt a lot?- no

Does it bother you if your mate or lover flirts in front of you?- yes

Do you ever have nightmares?- hardly

What is your biggest fear?- life

What is your favorite fantasy?- traveling the world, and desirous, intimate ones. =p