posted August 23, 2004 12:18 PM              

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My husband and I have been together ten years. I'm 30, he's 34. It takes us both a very long time to make big decisions, 'cause we want to make sure we're doing the right thing. We go back and forth over the question of whether or not we should have a kid (or two) over the next few years, before we get to be too old for it. Bottom line is that we feel we'd be happy either way, and neither of us has really strong feelings in either direction. So I was hoping for some good astrological advice. Who knows?

ME: 4/4/74, noon
Aries Sun
Virgo Moon
Cancer Rising
(I forget the rest)

HIM: 12/22/69
Capricorn Sun
(and sorry, I don't know the rest!)

We love love love each other, and we'd do the same for a child, but we're unsure whether we really want to go that route.

Thanks,
Drury

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posted August 23, 2004 12:32 PM              

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looking at your charts I can tell you this; you will both be very fulfilled even if you decide not to have children, don't worry about it, it's interesting enough and you both have a lot of desire for eachother!!!

But his jupiter in your fifth house indicates that if you have a kid it would be alright too, you don't have the "traditional" baby aspects but you do make a good family and that's all that counts, whatever you decide to do you'll be alright, hope this helps a little.

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posted August 23, 2004 03:03 PM              

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That does help, and thank you, Ariesrocks! (I like that name, though not sure why...) My main worry is, if we don't have children, will we at some point have deep regrets? And of course, that's impossible to predict. On the other hand, if we do have children, will we be too busy for our much-appreciated solo time, and romantic time together off traveling now and again? It's all so scary. Heck, if someone just has general parenting or non-parenting advice, I'd appreciate it!

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posted August 23, 2004 03:18 PM              

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I know a lot of married couples that have chosen not to have children. It seems almost like a new movement... like not getting married.

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posted August 23, 2004 03:29 PM              

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I'm going to have to be a Libra and balance it out here by saying, yes, have a baby. I don't have any but they say it's a type of love not to be ignored.

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posted August 23, 2004 03:38 PM              

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You're not that old, people are having babies at 40 now, just wait until you feel 90% sure. No one is 100% sure of anything.

Natasha

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posted August 23, 2004 05:56 PM              

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Just go ahead and have one. The time will never be right! Something will always come up, so ditch the birth control and see what happens. As long as you have money coming in and are emotionally and physically healthy - go for it.I'm 41 and don't feel healthy enough to consider children anymore or chase any if I had them.I wish I would have met someone 10 years ago!

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posted August 23, 2004 06:08 PM              

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A lot of people are under the false assumption that having a baby will somehow make your relationship with your spouse closer and more loving.

From my experience, this is not the case. It makes things a lot harder. You have to put a lot more effort into your relationship once a child comes a long. Some husbands develop jealously issues with the child because of all the attention baby gets from mom. Financial situatuions change casuing more stress. Lack of sleep. No personal times.

These things should be taken into consideration before having a child.

Nothing will ever be the same once the baby comes a long.

I'm not trying to discourage you from having a child, if that is what you really want... go for it!

Just don't go into it blindly thinking once the baby comes everything's going to be all butterflies and roses.

Good luck to you

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posted August 23, 2004 08:36 PM              

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YOU DIDNT MENTIoN THE BIRTHTIMES

sorry for the caps...hit the cap button by mistake.....anyway,
do you know the time of birth for both of you?

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posted August 24, 2004 01:51 AM              

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My husband isn't sure what time he was born. I was born right around noon.

It's funny that astrological compatibility stuff always seems to say that Aries and Capricorn will butt heads and argue, and that it's not a good pairing. Maybe it's my Virgo Moon or my Cancer Ascendant, or who knows?, but we're perfect together. We laugh a lot. We're best friends. And the only other person I was ever in love with previously was a Capricorn, too. I'm supposed to go for other fire signs, Leo in particular, but I've never been even remotely attracted to a Leo. Go figure! I guess love and attraction aren't all that easy to pin down.

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posted August 27, 2004 07:29 AM              

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To have a baby means always that the couple in question drifts apart. And you say ur close. That will change with a baby, you will slowly drift apart. But thats a natural thing in society. And you cant be passionate all the time. when people are aging they grow less passionate especially Aries and Capricorn together. But my personal advice is to make a baby, becuase there isnt going to be any problem for you. If drifting slightly apart isnt a problem for you. You would problby be better parents than most combination I reckon. I would advice to have two babies at once, right after each other. Then they never have to very lonely if they become lonely from others they still have there brother or sister. I would recommend an Aqarius and an Sagittarius, thats an excellent combination of children for you persoanlly. And remeber that dont be to pushy when bringin them up. they need to do what they want to do. If you decide on taht combination of children your husbend and you will not drift apart as much as if you have other combinations. I hope I helped, I know I did if you follow my advice.

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