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sthenri
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posted September 09, 2004 06:02 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I have just recently learned that someone I know has let her abusive boyfriend (Sag with almost every other planet in Scorpio including ascendant) back into her life. I called her house and he was there, much to my surprise.

I have tried to help her get her life back on track for the past three years, after he drove her into financial ruin and she lost everything.

Please send healing words, and messages out to her, and to me so I can understand.

Hopefully next time she is feeling low, she will call a true friend.

Thank you,
Natasha
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noreenz
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posted September 09, 2004 06:40 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
My heart goes out to you. You have done all that you can do, she is on her own. You are doing whats right by wishing her well.

Perhaps there are things that she needs to learn and experience, and we can't change that.

She was blessed to have had you as a friend. Now, deep breath, chin up high. Don't let her decisions drag you down, yet still be there when and if she needs you.

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aqua
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posted September 09, 2004 06:46 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for aqua     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
i guess these'll help u-

1. No man or woman is worth your tears, and the one who is, won't make you cry.

2.Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the person, we will know how to be grateful.

i'll send some more later...

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astro junkie
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posted September 09, 2004 07:39 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

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Sheaa Olein
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posted September 09, 2004 08:54 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

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"The past is history, the future is a mystery, & this moment is a gift.. that's why it's called 'the present'." Anon

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Aen
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posted September 10, 2004 05:42 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

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pisces-girl
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posted September 10, 2004 03:04 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Many victims of domestic violence go back to their partners. THey're confused because even though they are being abused or have been abused, they are also recieving love, or have recieved love from them. They are hoping for the best. Try not to tell her she's wrong for getting bach with him. She might distance herself from you, feeling she can't come to you anymore, when and if she will need you. Encourage her strength within herself. She should know that she is not to blame, no matter what he did to her. It was HE that did it to her, He is accountable. Help her see that the abuse isn't normal. Usually it just gets worse. In fact it does, especially if the guy doesn't get help. Listen to her, support her strength, try not to judge her, she is confused. She may get with him many times over again, and leave him many times over again. It's hard. Especially if there's no support group. She's hoping for the best...but you can't change someone unless they are willing to change. Be there for her and voice your concerns. Hopefully she will make the right decision, whatever it is, for herself...

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astro junkie
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posted September 10, 2004 04:19 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Sounds like Pisces-Girl did her homework on this. But always remember the NUMBER ONE thing you must always remember to tell people is that THE most dangerous time, and when most women get murdered, is when the guy figures out she is even PLANNING on leaving. Always remember to make that point Pisces-girl - extremely important, and unfortunately true. We even recommend victims learn how to clear their computers cookies or history, so the abuser cannot find any posts of her trying to reach out.

Natasha has seen some of my posts in the past dealing with the blue moon domestic violence situations which end up here somehow. I've done lots of volunteer work a local organization called Harbor House Orange County Center Against Domestic Violence. And I'm a survivor as well.

Thank you for voicing your concerns and all your wisdom.

.gloria

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pisces-girl
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posted September 10, 2004 09:29 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Good thing you caught that AJ.

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Autumn wind
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posted September 12, 2004 11:20 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
All My thoughts are with you and your friend Natasha.

Chris

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Heart&Soul
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posted September 12, 2004 01:04 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
At this time I am going through a similiar experience.
My friend, who came to me for help when her husband was abusing her.......pleaded for me to call 911 to stop him.....was back with him the next day.

And it seems for now our friendship is severed.....for I can't bring myself to go along with her denial and pretend that everything is ok, like everyone else has done. I have written to her explaining that I care very much for her, and don't think less of her for what has happened.
But.......I just can't bring myself to chum up to them with small talk, for I feel like I am enabling her situation even more.

Perhaps she knows that to be near me now will bring her to have to face up to things.....take a long look in the mirror, so to speak. And she isn't up to that. Much easier to not have to face up to, so she can continue on with her life as nothing has happened.

I've been through this before with a past friendship. That friendship also fell away because eventually I found that it had become a completely unhealthy relationship for me. Because I am empathetic and sensitive, their pain wrecks me as well. And knowing I am helpless, and that it was her own decision.......eventually I had to break ties with her, for the whole ordeal was wearing me down as well.

Is there anything more one can do? I don't know. I believe she knows she may always come to me if ever she is ready to be real.
Until then.....it is very sad indeed. And I've been mourning the loss of her presence in my life.

Best of luck in your friendship and prayers for your friend to come to see what is best for her.

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Suzume
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posted September 12, 2004 01:43 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Just whatever you do in this situation, dont sound as if your pressuring her into anything. She is as pixie said confused, and if you even slightly sound as if your pressuring or judging her she will become distant and potentially block you out of her life.

Just be there for when she falls, and until then, be like you always have been. Ignor he is there and treat her normally.

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pidaua
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posted September 12, 2004 04:49 PM     Click Here to See the Profile for pidaua     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I wishing your friend good thoughts Natasha.

I know this has to be a difficult time for you- to watch your friend suffer like this at the hands of a complete coward. That is what an abuser is after all, a coward that is insecure so he needs to feel powerful by abusing a woman, child or animal.

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