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Topic: advice appreciated
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CancerianMoon unregistered
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posted September 24, 2004 11:26 PM
hi..id love some advice either astrological or personal.. i have been dating a guy..bout 3 months..he is great..i have 6 kids...he has none..he is 39..doesnt care if he doesnt have any kids of his own..he is great with my kids..they all love him...but he sometimes cant handle the chaos that undoubtedly happens with 5 boys 1 girl all under 12...we both love each other..he has a property pretty far from me..bout a 12 hour drive..and he loves it there..we talked about what we want from our future..he says he isnt sure he could live with in a house full time with all of us..but would be happy living near by(him moving) so hed'd have his own santuary...i can understand this..but the thought of it turns my stomach..ill post mine and his chart aswell..any insight/advice would be greatly appreciated narellemine.. Sun Cancer 5th Moon Gemini 5th Mercury Cancer 5th Venus Leo 7th Mars Cancer 6th Jupiter Libra 9th Saturn Taurus 4th Uranus Libra 9th Neptune Scorpio 10th Pluto Virgo 8th True Node Pisces 2nd Ascendant Aquarius Sun Scorpio 3rd Moon Capricorn 5th Mercury Sagittarius 3rd Venus Libra 1st Mars Virgo 1st Jupiter Taurus 9th Saturn Aquarius 6th Uranus Virgo 1st Neptune Scorpio 2nd Pluto Virgo 1st True Node Gemini 10th Ascendant Virgo IP: Logged |
purplezen unregistered
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posted September 25, 2004 11:48 AM
do you mean the thought of him moving closer to you turns you stomach? or the thought of him not living with you turns your stomach?IP: Logged |
CancerianMoon unregistered
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posted September 25, 2004 07:46 PM
the thought that he thinks he cant eventually see himself living with myself and the kids..i know i can trust him..there is no issue in that regards...intellectually i tell myself..u cant make someone love u the way u want them to...but to think they he would never want that(though i appreciate his complete honesty)...it makes me upset and sadIP: Logged |
DeenSam unregistered
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posted September 26, 2004 09:47 AM
Dear Cancer, I can understand why this would make you sad and hurt, but I know someone with alot of these placements and maybe you and your children are better off without him living with you. It might be hard for anyone to live with him, let alone you with your children. I hope this wasn't too blunt, but you have to protect your children and you just don't see one's true colors until you live with them. Distance can be a blessing. Hope this helps. Have fun! DeeIP: Logged |
CancerianMoon unregistered
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posted September 26, 2004 08:58 PM
thank you dee..much appreciated...i agree sometimes that distance can be an advantage..i guess its more whether i want to pursue a relationship...for myself..and my kids...that i know could possibly not end in living together(harmoniuosly of course)..i know this is early stages...but that is eventually what i want...though i cant help but think...why continue dating when u see a dead end.. would you care to elaborate on the person you know with these placements??IP: Logged |
purplezen unregistered
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posted September 27, 2004 04:54 PM
cancermoon, it's a proven fact that people are often wrong when they try to predict how they will feel about a future event. it's easy for that guy to SAY he never wants to live with you, but down the road, his feelings may change, and he might do just that! much luck. IP: Logged |
CancerianMoon unregistered
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posted September 28, 2004 06:57 AM
thanks purplezen...time will surely tellIP: Logged |
butterflyeyes unregistered
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posted September 28, 2004 09:07 AM
Have you ever thought he might be set in his own ways. Myself I've always dating older man and I found that when come to man who are 35 and older & they have no children of their own. That is a sign all by itself. Just remember YOU & YOUR CHILDREN ALWAY NEED TO BE FIRST! And what ever becomes of this, your children will always be with you. Good luck! Been There!!!!!!!!!IP: Logged |
astro junkie unregistered
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posted September 28, 2004 10:01 AM
Butterfly Eyes said it perfectly, and I agree just from life observation - men who don't have kids by the time they are 32 or so are usually more freedom-loving type guys. Not to say they don't adore children or wouldn't want kids. But they do place a little bit more priority on personal time for themselves. So even if they have kids, they tend to be a bit emotionally distant.I'm not saying pro or con - you know? - but my dad is just one example among many. ------------------ ... it's better to light a candle than curse the darkness IP: Logged |