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Topic: Aries and their MOMS????
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thirteen
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posted October 12, 2004 01:02 PM
 
Can anyone tell me about that. I have major issues with my Mother in Law. Or is it my husb and his mother? She is a sag. so they are quite compatible but I am virgo and aquarius ascendent so the virgo in me really clashes with just about everything she does. She is a controlling type and I can't get him to ask her to stop controlling all the time.IP: Logged |
sue g
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posted October 12, 2004 01:20 PM
I know of several men (and women) who have issues with their mothers! My dad is one of them, I have Aries rising and struggle with my mum and I have met a few men who say their mothers screwed them up and guess what............they are all Aries - isn't that interesting? is it something to do with Aries being the eternal child maybe? Hope this helps. xxxIP: Logged |
noreenz
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posted October 12, 2004 01:45 PM
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!How long ya been married?!!!! I too am Virgo with Aqua Asc and Aqua Moon, married to a Double Aries. Mother-in-law, is Aqua. In the beginning it was tough, it seemed as though his mother knew what was best for him and that she knew everything, lol I can't begin to tell you how many times I would tell him something, only to have his mother tell his the exact same thing and he would come home and say, "My mom says, yada,yada,yada" as if it were the very first time he'd heard it. Drove me nuts. If you have been married only a short time, then this is par for the course. I myself, can't wait till its my time! hahaha Just grin and bare it, in time it'll get better....................I think. Just start getting yourselves involved in things that don't involve the family and for gosh sakes don't let her know your financial business, and don't end up owing anything to her, keep your independance. She needs to untie that apron string, its a slow process. Good luck to ya schweetie. lol (sorry, don't mean to laugh, its just-been there done that!) IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
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posted October 12, 2004 02:26 PM
Omigawd, you don't even.............. *gasp*
*other drama queen sounds*Mother-in-laws.... Having only dealt with one husband, and of cours, the *ahem* lovely mother-in-law-isms that come with it..... I admit, my perspective is a little biased. Is this an Aries thing?
My Aries is an only child
Therefore, she cannot divide her vicious evilness amounst more sons/daughters, their chosen mate and chitlins they create together.
Yep, I get it ALL!!!!!!! *wheeeeeeeeeeee*
I am happy that she helps, but at the same time, *grrrrrrrrrr*
Case in point, we went on a date, while she took our daughter to a movie.. she offered to pay for our movie... handed my hubby thirty dollars. (we both have jobs, really.. we can afford a movie!!!) He says.. "No, no, mom, it's okay.. keep your money."
Me...  "Oh, yeah, no problem, just go have fun at your movie." *I TRY to be nice.
In the car, after the movie... " Oh, we need gas."
"Yeah, let's stop. You know, I am really glad you didn't take her offer of money."
"Uh..... well, I am getting thirty dollars in gas." *raised eyebrow*
"Oh. Then I guess I shouldn't have said that I was glad." Next time she wants to just be mother hen and control things a little bit? Well.. what can I say when she misunderstands me and wants to play the "woe is me, my bloodpressure" role, if I have a legitimate concern? What can I say? Nothing. I OWE her.
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thirteen
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posted October 12, 2004 03:15 PM
sue g/ I do wonder about that eternal child thing. Does that mean he will never stop trying to please her.
noreenz/ you know exactly what its like don't you. I deal with the "my mom said" thing too and I could scream when I hear that one. Its been 9 years. Some things are better ( me saying no... but some are just as annoying).
pixelpixie/Mine is the only son, there is a sister. My mother in law is generous too so I do find that I have to be real careful where I tread with her but she can take take take and I get exhausted trying to outsmart her.
Thanks for the posts, i need any insight i can get.IP: Logged |
ariestiger
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posted October 12, 2004 05:21 PM
I am an Aries and an only child too, and had issues with BOTH my parents, which is why I never speak to my mother (Sag - v. controlling) and to my father (Aries) only occasionally - he is extremely arrogant, though slightly more likeable, in that way many Ariens have of being likeable even though they're utterly monstrous. Both of them actually had issues with THEIR mothers too. Maybe it's just something about "mothers"...it kinda makes me glad I'm not one...!
My grandmothers had a lot of Cancer influences and my MIL is a Cancer. She is very generous and I don't actually mind being spoilt...though I don't like being "smothered", or having people try to convince me that my path of action is all wrong and that their way is the best way. I get faced with parental attitudes not only fom my parents but from in-laws and DH as well. I think it has to do with Aries being seen as the eternal child and therefore vulnerable. People seem to think they need mothering and looking after (actually, they do, but they need to be kept on absolutely no sort of leash whatsoever). We are very independent and have occasions where we would prefer to be helped as little as possible (we see having to be helped as a sign of weakness). It's nothing against the other person, it's just that we have a strong need to do things our own way. Also, I don't believe that Aries, as a sign, sits comfortably with the concept of "mother"-hood, as we don't really tend towards domestic/nurturing stuff. So maybe we can't relate easily to our mothers because of that.
On the other hand, I know two Aries men from the same family who get on very well with their mothers - but I think that is a reflection of the mothers' attitude and consideration for their offspring. IP: Logged |
astro junkie
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posted October 12, 2004 09:40 PM
Ohhhhh!
The mother-in-law thing.
("Slowly I turned ... step by step ... inch by inch...I ... took my revenge.") No, I'm not an Aries, and no, I'm not dating an Aries anything. But the "mother-in-law" word got my attention. Forever I've been saying, "I don't do mother-in-laws". I love to throw THAT one out to a potential mate, not out of satotage, but so they know, I don't do mother-in-laws. For some reason, you, the would be daughter-in-law, becomes an amplified and imagined "daughter" to the lady. It's like you are both her daughter and her daughter-in-law, doing her little boy. I guess this was one of the advantages of me having two emotionally indifferent parents. On the other hand, I have these fantasies that I'll be adopted. Maybe I just need to date dames again, I've been dreaming about that lately.  I admit, the MIL thing is probably one of the reasons why marriage scares the frinking hee bee gee bee's out of me. Don't want to biatch slap her in front of her son, you know? IP: Logged |
Eleanore
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posted October 13, 2004 12:57 AM
Wow, mother-in-laws. I'm not an Aries but my Moon's in Aries. 
My husband and my mother get along splendidly. In fact, after an initial rough spot with my dad, he gets along super with my entire family.
His mother and I could not be worse. His parents are divorced. I get along with his father and his girlfriend and her daughter. I get along with his sister. I even get along with his step-father for the most part. His mother and I just don't click. She's a Gemini, I'm a Sagittarius. However, I have Aquarius Rising and I have always gotten along with Gemini gals. This is the first Gemini female that I can't relate to at all. Fortunately for me, my hubby doesn't get along with his mother either, in fact, he can't stand her. I guess I shouldn't be smiling about that, but it's good to know that he and I can relate about her. She's just so negative and manipulative ... really, I don't think I've ever heard her say anything nice about him. She only ever relates stories that are embarassing to him or about him. Seriously, she says that she "can't believe he got married ... [she] never thought any girl would be able to put up with his cr*p" and she "still can't believe her little boy is trying to live like an adult since he's so immature, reckless, and irresponsible". She has serious issues.
My hubby just plays hypocrite with her, always quiet, never rude. He's an Aquarius, Scorpio Rising ... I trust that he knows what he's doing.
As for her and me, she never ever asks him about me at all, like I don't exist.  If we ever have to be around each other (which is rare since they still live in FL), I just smile a lot, keep to myself, and count to ten repeatedly. ******
I have an Aries friend who doesn't get along with her Gemini mother-in-law either. Well, they are very hypocritically friendly; they do speak ill of each other to the other family members, after all. However, my Aries friend's mother is a Pisces and ... well, let's just say her husband, a Cancer, goes out of his way to avoid his MIL. I never knew a Pisces could be so intimidating until I met her mother. The woman can be a kind, gentle, sweet, motherly lady ... or she can be evil incarnate. Her choice, of course. Her Aries daugher is her only daughter and she treats her like a gold statue. Poor little Cancer guy, sometimes I really feel bad for him.
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puppyblew
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posted October 14, 2004 12:14 AM
geez! i thought cancer boys were the ones with mother issues. been there done that with them. now i'm gonna be avoiding aries boys too!IP: Logged |
astro junkie
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posted October 14, 2004 12:17 AM
They start out sucking at a nipple, and then end, sucking on a nipple ... what do you expect? I'm constantly hearing guys say women don't know how much power they have over them. Well, I heard that a long time ago ... so I tried out a bunch of stuff and it's true. But I prefer buddy romance.  IP: Logged |
thirteen
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posted October 14, 2004 10:19 AM
I am enjoying the responses here. Im getting some good insight ( basically there is nothing I can do) and lots of humor. Keep em coming! I like the way it was worded. "hypocritically nice". Yep thats me.
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sthenri
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posted October 15, 2004 06:18 PM
I think when men say women have power over them, they mean they are scared of the feminine side inside themselves being brought out.
It's not personal, it's the femininity they are scared of, afraid of being "needy"Scary Nipple! To be fair there are a lot of women who can't let go of anything in pants, mothers tend to see sons as substitute lovers. Natasha
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astro junkie
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posted October 15, 2004 06:50 PM
Waaaaaaiit a minute ...Excuse me for my complete need to fumble around here, I didn't have any brothers growing up - what do you mean by - " ...To be fair there are a lot of women who can't let go of anything in pants, mothers tend to see sons as substitute lovers."  IP: Logged | |
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