posted October 28, 2004 08:22 PM            

I realize that this is very common behavior for a child his age, but I worry that if he doesn't learn some restraint and learn to be a little less bossy he'll have a hard time when he gets older.

Anyone have any insight into maybe what makes this little guy tick? It's a little challenging for me, astrologically... I've got lots of fire and air in my chart and he's very earthy. I've read reports online, but if anyone has anything additional to offer, I'd love to hear it.

posted October 28, 2004 08:27 PM            

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posted October 28, 2004 09:29 PM              

OK, that's is a lot of Taurus going on there. Too much? Well, it's in a good house to balance out Taurus's tendency for self-absorption: the 11th house is concerned for others, and often on a very broad and humanitarian scale. So I wouldn't worry about that.

I think this Pluto opposition has a lot to do with his intense stubbornness though, and that'll need work. Pluto can be a very powerful, productive, energizing planet - but likewise, if not channel properly, it can cause someone to be excessive demanding, stubborn and ego-centric. And it's infleucnes are very hard for young child to deal with - I know because I have Pluto rising , and boy, was I a problem child! LOL.
In our son's chart, Pluto's opposing his Mars *and* moon, which are in the 12th house cusp, techincally. A little slippery - you see, when energy enters the 12th house domain, either by placement or through aspect, it becomes harder to "own" as it affects us on a subconscious level. This tension of Pluto bearing down on his young ego (Mars) and inner self (moon) is going to be very hard for him to understand. He may be reacting to things in the wrong proportions, because even little everyday annoyances, like being hungry or tired, or not getting sweets when he wants them, may give him an opportunty to vent some of this subconscious tension.

While I wish to avoid playing psychiatrist with such a young person, I have to say this Pluto influence will largely effect his ego development. So I personally be very mindful with things that would effect that. Discipline should always be consistent, logical, and not excessive so as he grow older, he understands the need for discipline and can't argue around it - this will help teach him a healthy sense of ego. Be consistent with positive incentives and rewards too. Don't let him play on your emotions. Objectivity adn consistancy are the key with dealing with unruly Pluto influences.

Also, this subconscious tension needs healthy outlets. Find activities that help him express his inner feelings, like art, music or storytelling. With all that Taurus, he should be very inclined to creativity and take to that very well. Allow him to express his indivudality, even now at this young age, so he grows up not feeling inhibited (although make clear what is and is not appropriate - Pluto can be a bully sometimes it is doesn't know limits). But he'll also need to learn to balance this individuality with the needs of others, which I suspect will come in time, thanks to that 11th house.

I think that particular stellium will be a great strength as he grows older. There'sa lot of potential there for someone with both a very creative and sensitive mind and a capacity to love and help others. He may always have something of a big ego, but that's not always a negative thing if he undertsands simple things, like he can't always have things his way and that he can still be loved and appreciated as an individual even when he makes compromies and personal sacrifices for others. I wouldn't be surprised if he proved himself to a be a difficult child for years to come, but that doesn't make him a bad seed by any length - just one with a special need for your patience and guidence along the way.

posted October 28, 2004 10:21 PM            

He is a very sweet and loving boy, but very determined in getting his own way. I'm glad to know about that Pluto opposition as well... helps me understand why little things become so monumental with him.

You've been a big help! Thank you!

posted October 29, 2004 07:33 AM              

I was a terror as a child, I never stopped screaming from birth.
I broke everything and had to live with my grandparents, they taught me how to play music, sing, play sports, organize and get along.

Trust me, it will get better as he gets older, with internal discipline. Being in charge of yourself, is a job, creating willpower.

I agree with sports as long as it's not taken to extremes, and being with older people especially grandparents teaches patience by example.

posted October 29, 2004 03:28 PM              

Take your time with him on this, make sure he doesn't dismiss it quickly, that he really lets it sink in, that he actually feels it.