posted November 06, 2004 10:22 PM            

I've known a Taurus for a few months and I noticed that he's recently started to warm up to me with some flirting. At the same time he keeps his distance and I don't know how to take it. Is he testing me? Who can give me some input on Taurus behavior?
How should I respond to him? I know Bulls like to go slow and easy....but you know us Leos get, lol

posted November 07, 2004 05:57 PM              

I have a Taurus Moon... I seem to attract a lot of Taurus men; even if I don't want them. So, I think you have one thing that is working for you, at least...

posted November 07, 2004 06:16 PM            

what should I do????

posted November 07, 2004 09:04 PM              

I find Taurus moons attractive but not so much interested in changes. That can feel like fear to my Venus in Aries which naturally likes to push. For that reason I like this placement as a friend,

What you expect is not what you get with Taurus Sun or Moon, just the opposite, as they give what they feel like giving,

posted November 08, 2004 03:39 PM            

miss muffet, what's your sun sign? I like knowing there are fellow Taurus moons around...

posted November 12, 2004 07:17 PM            

I felt SWEPT off my feet!!! He was relentless and to this day is still incredibly romantic, passionate and very STUBBORN

Although he had dated or gone out with many women, he doesn't have a long history of major relationships. Although, the ones he has had has been with 2 Sagittarians and 1 Gemini - now me...another Sag

After I met him, it seemed that Bulls were climbing out of the woodwork to meet me..LOL..maybe it's the fire- who knows.

In any case, they can be reserved, taking everything in and deciding about how they want to approach, or wanting you to approach. With me, he kept at me until I finally went out with him. I mean, we had this 6-8 conversation one night before we went out on a date and he wanted to pick me up the next morning to meet his family in North Carolina....

Now, I am adventurous, but..HELLO!!!

At any rate, he changed his plans for the following week and we ended up having a 4 day date. On the first date he said he loved me and that I was woman he was going to marry and have kids with. We're engaged now and I live with him in Arizona I am glad I took the chance.

posted November 13, 2004 02:07 PM            

I have a question for you VTT--with your Taurus, did he flirt with you a lot at all? or did you have to do all the work?
My Taurus (I guess he's mine, lol) is very flirty, but in a cautious way. does that make sense? I'm guessing it's the rejection thing.

pidaua, thank you too hon.
Wow, your Taurus sounds adorable and determined, LOL!!! It's so cute. I'm glad everything is going well with your Taurus. It's funny, you wouldn't think a Sagi would be with a Bull....but you wouldn't think a Leo would either..what else is in your chart pidaua? I have to agree with you about a Taurus getting stressed. Have you ever seen one at work? I have, watch out! lol

Oh, I just thought of something else that happened w/my Taurus..we were all going to hang out after work and I told him I really wanted him to come. he was like, "no, I'm anti-social." I told him I was too and he should just come out. he still said no, but I could tell he liked the attention (hmm, he was being STUBBORN, lol). I kept telling him it would be fun and he told me, "Well, I think you have a secret crush on me, that's what I think." I said, "I DO, so come out with us!" (of course I was half joking--couldn't let him know that easily, hehe)...
he smiled at me and I laughed it off, but he never did ended up going out.
sorry to go on with that, but my question is, what is THAT all about?! was he making sure I liked him or what? Another thing I find interesting is he always tells me I'm hot or he'll say, "Hi hottie" so I'm thinking, well GEE, if I'm that hot, what's the hold up? LOL....oh help..sorry
again, I ramble too much, I just want to understand is all. *sigh* is it too much to ask?

I want to thank you for helping me out a little--and putting up with my jabber jaw.
you are such dolls and it makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside!
this Leo is feeling the love

posted November 18, 2004 01:21 PM            

Yes..you would think it odd for a Sag and Bull to be together...BUT..he has Scorpio on the 7th, but Sag takes up the bulk of that 7th house. My Venus (the ruler of Taurus) falls right into that house and conjuncts his Neptune (as does my sun, but that falls into his 8th house).

His Jupiter (The ruler of Sagittarius) is in Aries - which forms a strong conjunction to my Aries Moon and falls into MY 7th house.

My Moon falls into his 12th house and his Moon falls into my 12th house.

Taurus men think that they are plain spoken and easy to read...but that is only when they are secure in "you". Until that time, it will be a bit of a get close, go away thing.

It is easy for me to understand that, because that is how I am naturally- almost ALL the time.

Taurus men like to 1) Be in charge- make the move, be too assertive and they kind of cringe - BUT that is only in the beginning. Don't let them walk all over you,in fact, be hard to get - that leads me to the second point 2) Make the Taurus man WORK FOR IT.

I always say that to him...when we first went out things got into the way and our first date had to be postponed. We talked on the phone that night and he kept saying 'Come on..I know it's late, but I really want to see you...I can be there in less than 30 minutes".

I was like "NO".....even though I wanted to go - I was not going to give in like that.

In the end he told me he loved that about me- that I had my own life and made up my own mind...and made him "work for it". He asked me when I fell in love with him. I said "somewhere between dinner and the day after". He said " I fell in love with you during that long phone call. I told my best friend - I am going to marry this girl. Funny because since that first date almost didn't happen, I almost didn't return his call - had that happened...who knows..I might not be engaged to him right now.

Taurus man HATES being told what to do. You have to explain your side and "ask" cajoling, peer pressure, joking them into something well, that just makes them even more STUBBORN and OBSTINATE...like a rock.

For example - my guy has to be up at 3:30 am for work. So the other night I said 'Hey baby, it's getting late, you have to go to bed". He got up and said "No, I don't HAVE to do anything.."

Yep..I thought "oh great he is going to stay up and be cranky just to prove me wrong lOL"

So I said "No honey, I know you are strong enough to go on just a few hours of sleep. I was just concerned about you".

He smiled and said "Okay, now I am ready for bed..because I choose to go to bed".

LOL..okay...whatever.

But it works - he understands my highstrung nature- more than any other man I have ever known and I understand his sedate nature. We have our problems - trust me, but we have learned to talk about them.

The Taurus man analyzes his prize from a distance. He looks at you and really does size you up. When he is ready he will make the move. It wouldn't hurt if you said "Hey, sorry you couldn't meet up with us, it would have been more fun to see you out of this context, but maybe another time".

posted November 19, 2004 03:18 AM            

Teo, you sound a bit like me. I get so restless in certain situations, I just want to know where I stand. I need to contain myself. all that Taurus in both
your charts...extra stubborn, but I bet it can be extra nice too, huh?

VTT, no problem just glad to hear from you again! When I flirt with the Taurus he seems confused by it. It's like he knows, but he doesn't want to assume. I'm really trying go easy on him...really trying. It's hard
for us Fire signs...or maybe it's just me, LOL! One night at work, I trying to get through a crowded room and casually brushed my hand on his side. When I passed by he joked, "hey, were you trying to cop a feel?" I wanted to say uh huh, lol but I just smiled. He knew what I was doing. He had to pick up on it. His behavior puzzles and facinates me.

pidaua!!!! LOL..thank you-thank you dear. I love everything you said and couldn't agree more!! sounds like my Taurus.
When I'm around him, I feel like I can mellow him out. at first, it was like we had this power stuggle with each
other...then, he started to gradually open up me and my heart just went out to him.
I don't want to mess it up. I haven't seen him for a few days. I'm frustrated with myself because I never got his #. The eager thing again..(Mr. Bull:
"but I thought you were gonna give me YOUR number")...don't know if I'll get a hold of him so I'm kinda stressed. It's my fault. sigh. I could email, but I don't want to be too agressive.
any more thoughts on this?

XXXOOO

posted November 19, 2004 06:58 PM              

Reading your description Pidua,
I have to agree this works for Taurus, I don't mind a mate who needs space, as long as it's not a game. I would be irritated if someone held me up on purpose, but if genuine that's different.

I have noticed how that 4th house sun can pamper, finesse and calm the Bulls into anything, I have to wary when I run across one, I enjoy the pampering too much,

posted November 22, 2004 02:12 PM              

lovely lioness - It's funny you mentioned it hard being patient. Patience is not naturally one of my vices. But once I realized he was a Taurus and I had no control over the situation and couldn't rush him, it's been much easier being patient. Normally, I'd walk away, but this time I can't. There's just something about him.

posted November 22, 2004 05:08 PM            

How are you? I hope all is well with life.

I agree with you that the 4th house Sun does do well with Taurus - I have a way of smoothing things over- even when I "go off" a bit. I hate domestic strife in the house as much as the Bull- yet I am not willing to just let things go or manipulate him for my own gain. That would be wrong. I think his Sun / conjunct Asc in the 1st house also works well with my Saggie nature- he has some fire -but he is not as hyper as me (Thank goodness).

We both love pampering- but yeah, I know that my 4th house sun insists on doing it. He loves how the house is taken care of- LOL..he hasn't had to do laundry or more than a couple of dishes since I got here - but that is just my nature- always has been -unless someone takes it for granted- then I stop.

We have had our battles - mostly about work- there was a bit of resentment on my part -about sacrificing potential jobs to move to this city. Also..what may be hard to relay - is that he loves to spend time with me- which is great, but it throws me off. I like to be free (and got used to that) to come and go as I please to a point. On his days off I get a bit miffed when he spends more than a couple of hours on the computer in his office- I feel put out in that I could be doing other things. He feels like he needs that time because of his job and schedule. We had a nice long talk about it. I told him I didn't mind his need of space and supported it, but I just wanted him to realize that i need that too. That is he wants his alone time, then let me know so that I can do what I need to do. Heck, my dad lives only 3 hours away, I can meet him halfway for lunch or to hike some of the ruins around here.

I let him know that I felt guilty that I wanted to take a few days a month to go see my dad and step mom- because then he would be on his own and he hates that -but I felt it would give us BOTH space and we would value the time we had together even more.

As far as the work thing - he conceded that I needed to be able to travel for biotech / pharmceutical sales. I had previously passed on 2 jobs because they would require me traveling 2-4 days a week. But, it may be what I need in the short term to break into this industry in this state. Right now I am just an Easterner as far as they are concerned. This is even more important as he may be deployed to N. Iraq and will be gone until August. At least if I am in sales -I can put some serious money away -like him with his pay increase for going to war and we can use that for a down payment for a house.

LOL....that made the most sense to both of us- Taurus...being security minded..and Sun in the 4th house wanting a strong domestic base.

I have found that a Taurus can deal with a partner that has frustrations with things- sometimes they also get frustrated. The one thing that is hard sometimes, is dealing with his Venus in Cancer. It does get old with the interrogations...but I have learned to throw it back and then quickly say "That is what you are doing...it's not fun being interrogated".

I also think he is feeling more "secure" with me -even with my restlessness, he knows it's not an indicator that I don't want to be with him. It is more that I need many things going on at the same time to function at my best. In the same respect - it offers me a ton of security to know that he can be so even tempered and..stable, so that I don't feel afraid to voice my fears and frustrations.

posted November 22, 2004 06:11 PM              

The Gemini and I never talked, other than to listen to him, tell me that he wanted more out of life, but he wasn't interested in offerring up any solutions. I like to stay on the path I'm on unless I have a better idea, or at least a working partner. He would do the thing where he would want to be with me all day every day, even if we weren't doing anything special.

That drives me nuts, as I would just leave.
As you can imagine, Venus in Cancer, doesn't like that! Once I just left him in the car to go for a walk for about 20 minutes. He felt I had abandoned him, I felt I was gone a minute. I figure I am a very restless person mentally, and that's my thing, I must stay on my life's path but I need a mentally sharp partner to keep me focused if I am stay in the room all the time.

I can see your need for space, for me it's either non stop talking about the smallest details (Virgo), or non stop worrying about the future (Gemini), or non stop trying to bother me physically-everyother sign. I love to be hugged at night, but other than that I need some space.

Partly because I have to be there for so many people right now at Christmas Season, sister, neice, nephew, and two families who rent from me. When you rent to people, you become Grandma to all their troubles, fights, and marital problems. That wil be there for a while, if I want the responsibility. I struggle with that question everyday as it's a real emotional drain.