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aries-chick
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posted November 14, 2004 04:07 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
This thread was kinda inspired by what BlueRoamer said in the "love geminis" thread. If I'm not mistaking...BlueRoamer's a saggi girl (i remember reading that agesssss ago so I'm not totally sure..correct me if I'm wrong). :edit: lol I do actually know BR's a dude now.. soz BR

Anyways, it made me think how I always notice some animosity between opposites. The thing that totally blows me away is that, they can be sooo similar sometimes, and yet they can't stand each other. Like take for instance geminis and saggis, they're light hearted, they love different cultures and travel, they hate being stuck in one place or with one person, they love being free, they like different languages... Or aries and libra, I might be a bit biased here but I've always felt I have similar interests with the Librans I've known...with one particular girl, we both wanted to be lawyers, we're both friendly and easy going, both interested in spiritual matters and astrology, our ideas on what the perfect bf should be were pretty similar to.

I guess what I'm trying to say is I don't really understand WHAT it is that makes people in opposte signs NOT get along (mainly when they're of the same sex). My gem and sag friends always ***** about each other. I always hear comments like "she's a floozy" or "she's annoying..i don't like her". I wish there was a way to make people see the good qualities in their opposite signs without getting the grrrrrrrrr reaction straight away.

Anyways, I was curious about any good or bad experiences you might have had with an opposite sign, and IF you happen to be one of those people that instantly gets bad vibes from your opposite would you mind describing what exactly makes you dislike them, or feel uncomfortable arround them. It's just hard for me to understand where all the animosity comes from

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virgotaurustaurus
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posted November 14, 2004 04:20 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I really want to contribute to this, especially since I'm interested in why I just can't get along with my opposite sign. My opposite is Pisces. I've met plenty of Pisces, there seemed to be a bunch involved in the music scene I used to hang around. I just could not get along with them! Most Pisces in my life, I usually think they are wicked naive, they don't understand what I say even if I explained what I'm talking about over and over, and some of them I find are obsessed with sex. One Pisces girl I knew totally disrespected me by screaming to my boyfriend, in public, that she loves him...repeatedly. Pisces guys are even worse for me, one of the ones I knew was so hyper but miserable at the same time. The other one was a good friend of mine actually, until he totally backstabbed me. He jsut went totally psycho.

I actually have a good friend who is a female Pisces, and while she's obsessed with sex too, she's very caring and loving, and would never do anything to hurt or sabotage the friendship. She also really likes to just hang out and have fun. She also has a really keen eye for good art and clothes.

I just wish I could see more the similarties between Virgos and Pisces, I seem to be totally blind to almost all of them! It'd make it soooo much easier for me to understand them if I knew what they were.

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26taurus
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posted November 14, 2004 04:20 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
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It's funny, I have always gotten along extremely well with my opposite. I seem to be a Scorpion magnet. Most of my best buds are Scorpios. I get along great with both male and female ones. We seem to always just 'click' instantly. I've lived with a bunch of Scorp roomates over the years and it has (for the most part) always gone smooth. There are usually alot of laughs going on when I'm with one - we 'play off of each other'. Even through rough times, my Scorpion friends and I always come back together. Opposites attract. Like they say, "You either love your opposite, or ya hate 'em."

I love 'em!!

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sana
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posted November 14, 2004 11:19 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
hi all...
i m a gem n i simply havent come across many sags...its really weird coz i m simply fascinated by them but never had anyone close to me..long long back in school had a junior whom i adored n she was a sag..never fought with her n to this day i feel she was an angel.with her high morals n ideals at such a tender age.

n brutally frank n i appreciated that in her n found it amusing since i always say things what ppl want to listen to n never what i feel..i simply cant hurt them n i believe truth can sometimes hurt very deeply..

like who wud want to hurt cancerians when they are feeling insecure n ask you if you really like them...no matter how u say it if u tell them that u dont like it that way it ll crush them.

even ariens n leonines for that matter..tell them u believe them n flatter them a little whether u believe it or not and they ll never let u down n prove u right..its amazing..but they(leo n ariens can take the truth as well)

you know the funny thing...other way also works...tell a fire sign they are not capable of something n they ll prove you wrong...mayb coz they love challenges.

if blueroamer is a sag then it is understandable i guess coz i heard sags cant stand lies(no persional exp)..n some gem must ve lied n got caught...imagine that? lol..

love you all
sana

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aries-chick
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posted November 18, 2004 03:20 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thanx so much your replies . Soz its been a while since I posted..I havent been arround much these days.

Hey VirgoTaurus,

I can deffinetly see similarities between Pisces and Virgo. They're both very compassionate and caring and they genuinely want to help people with their problems. I know my pisces friend always listens to me and she gives really good advice. My grampa was a virgo and he was a legend, I always knew I could count on him. I think maybe they're a bit different in the WAY they help. Virgo's help is more practical and usefull whereas Pisces' help is more abstract and on a spiritual level rather than a physical level. I think both signs would be suited for Psychology though, because they are very caring. I mean Mother Teresa is a virgo and I'm sure most ppl would agree she was "compasion" personified.

Hey 26Taurus, do you have any Scorpio placements? I was just thinking that might be why you get along realllly well with them. I actually really like scorps to, I don't understand why they're described as scary and revegefull etc.

and a Warm Welcome to the Site to Sana..I know you've prolly been arround for a while but I've never seen you post before

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aries-chick
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posted November 18, 2004 04:35 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Ok, I had another thought

Since each element has the three modalities: cardinal, fixed and mutable, technically all the cardinal signs fulfill the same cardinal function only through a different element.And all the mutable signs (virgo, pisces, gemini and saggi) fulfill their mutable function. So then, Sag, Virgo Pisces and Gem have THAT in common. Now if you take Virgo and Pisces (as the opposite pair of the group),they are also in compatible elements. So technically the sign which most resembles Pisces, in the way it functions in the world, should be Virgo, as they not only have the same function but they're also in similar elements (out of fire, air and earth I'd think earth signs are the most similar to water signs). Maybe this comes accross more in relationships. Like, a relationship between a Virgo girl and a Capricorn guy could be pretty smilar to a relationship between a Pisces girl and a Cancer guy.

Cancer and Capricorn (nother opposite pair) also have quite a bit in common i think. Mainly the way they handle their finances and they both have very business orientated minds...Cancer is a homebody but then again I know a lot of Capricorns who wouldn't travel to far from home simply because air travel signifies a risk to them. My capricorn uncle has never caught a plane in his life. Cancers are a bit cautious like that to.

So I guess my "theory" is your opposite sign could actually be the most similar sign to you from an objective point of view (if there is such thing as an all objective point of view), though due to their 180 degree separation you might never see them as that. Though, now that I typed it all I'm thinking maybe it sounds a bit silly

Let me know what you think guys...

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26taurus
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posted November 18, 2004 05:31 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hey aries chick,

I have one planet in Scorp. It's Uranus and it strongly placed. It is conjunct my MC. That could have something to do with it. And I totally agree with you about opposites having alot of similarities. For one my opposite and I are both fixed signs, along with Leo and Aqua's. So that gives us a certain quality to ourselves that we have in common right there. But I believe that opposites while different are very much a reflection of each other. They may approch something in different way but have a certain similarity of understanding about it. (if that makes sense) They have alot to teach and learn from one another.

Great thoughts and thread topic.

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pixelpixie
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posted November 18, 2004 09:09 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for pixelpixie     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Yeah..
Like 26, I have always gotten along swimmingly with my opposite. *Taurus*
The men? Fascinated, as if I could 'know them' on a different level, but I haven't yet cracked one open. The women? Like 26 said, we play off the other.
Kind of annoying to come across a brick wall, and see yourself there.. annoying simply because it's kinda' like.. Man, am I like that too? Yep, I am! Even though their are vital differences, i find the Taurus's I know or meet, to have a similar intensity to the Scorpios I meet. The women always seem to have this incredible vibe. Classy and sexy, all at once. I believe we share this trait, too, although they could be called different things... sensual? Anyway, how do you define a vibe....

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ghanima81
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posted November 18, 2004 09:29 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for ghanima81     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Well, this is an awesome thread!!

My opposite would be Leo, but I have moon in Leo in my 5th house, so I do tend to understand Leo's pretty well. I am always instantly put off by some of them, they just demand so much attention and always seem to make hairs split.... buttt...

.. when I stop and actually talk to them, they do have the same idea as me, to try and help everyone else. The only difference is that Leo's tend to think that their ideas on what would be best for everyone is the way, which would be why they sometimes seem to come on so strong. There is a definate wonder in some Leo's for me though, when I was a bit younger, I was always drawn to them... I think it was their charisma, their willingness to speak out and take a stand. These people are great leaders, if they have a cause, they will usually be able to fight to the death to defend it.

So, the answer would be, I get along with Leo's, my opposite, but I'm not sure how well I would if I didn't have such a strong Leo vibe going on in my chart. (True node is also in Leo in the 5th house).

Love and light, my feline friends!!

Ghani

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aries-chick
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posted November 18, 2004 08:23 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Thank you 26Taurus, PixelPie and Ghani

"A reflection of each other", that's a really good way to put it 26T. IT IS kinda like looking in a mirror. They're doing the exact same things only in reverse hmmm


everyone

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LibraSparkle
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posted November 18, 2004 08:34 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Aries is my opposite, and I get along with them quite well.

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Astromis11
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posted November 18, 2004 11:55 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Virgo is my opposite as well and my Asc... I definately have both qualities... compassion/feeling and analytical

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virgotaurustaurus
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posted November 19, 2004 12:09 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I guess I just wanted to add, that it isn't actually all bad with Pisces being my opposite...I was thinking more about it today, and I realized, when it is good, it is very very good (I do have Pisces I get along with or HAVE to), but when it is bad...it is VERY VERY VERY VERY BAD. No other sign, when ****** off, can tear me to shreds faster or hurt worse than a Pisces. And I think it's because of what Aries-chick said, the similarities..while a Pisces and a virgo may see themselves as different, I think the underlying similarities...they know how to hurt each other because of how they get hurt.

On a side note, I LOVE Psychology.

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KarenSD
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posted November 19, 2004 02:51 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Am i obsessed with sex? Wow... maybe i am!

I get along really well with both people who are my same sun sign Pisces and with those who are my opposite sun sign, Virgo, both men and women.

I have difficult times with Caps and Sagis...

This is such an interesting topic!

KarenSD
(who has to be explained things many, many times... however, once i get it, i really GET it! honest!)

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sweetlibra
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posted November 21, 2004 08:56 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote

My opposite is Aries . I get along with them nicely [esp with men ]
I am like an aries magnet though i havent come across an aries gal yet

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Deira
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posted November 21, 2004 06:12 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
So if your opposite sign is a reflection of some aspect of yourself, than what about those with your same sign/element? Do people with the saem sun tend to empahsis the good/bad in each otehr or cancel each other out?

I don't get along any better w those who have Sag as a Sun than with any other person. As for Aries, fire like myself its a strong like or dislike, never in between. My High School BF and my sister are Aries, and I love them so much. However, some of the people that I have had the most discord are also Aries.

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aries-chick
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posted May 08, 2005 01:32 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
BUMP for anyone interested in opposites..

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Secret Garden
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im a gem and i dont get along with sags at all

i have a stellium in house no. 9, which is ruled by gemini, but i still dont like saggis

i dont like travel etc. much, in some ways i am hopelessly the typical Gem and in some ways very atypical (scorp stellium in house no. 2)

i find saggis to be very different than me...they are blunt, etc i tend to be a more gentle emotional sort of communicator, everything is i feel and i understand, etc. saggis can be very aggressive sometimes with those words, and cut thru my heart...i guess i am oversensitive (Scorp moon) but their words have wounded me one too many times (same goes for Leo).

i guess they can also be a little too unstable for me, i am attracted to fixed signs who are more predictable and like steady rocks in this crazy world...

i havent ever been with a very sympathetic or dependable sag, my uncle has five planets in sag i think and he could be so nice one sec and turn on u the next sec, bring tears to ur eyes with his insulting words

im not known to have a poisonous tongue despite merc and mars in Gem, everyone thinks i am a rather compassionate communicator, of my friends and family...

i dont find that sags are similar to me, as aries chick said about opposites being similar. in interests maybe but when it comes to how we live our lives, what our objectives are, our personality deep inside, completely opposite...

sometimes i feel very similar to the cancers i know, second most similar is aqua.

in love signs linda says the aqua male can be a total dead on version of the gem female, they are so similar it is FREAKY and they would understand each other better than any other sign could understand them

i donno why i relate with cancers so well

relate least with sag, leo, aries

Love
SG

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posted May 08, 2005 04:40 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
"i donno why i relate with cancers so well"

cause we are so cool!

i too enjoy my opposite the capricorn. we "bounce" off each other.

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thosa
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posted May 08, 2005 06:42 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I know a cap, whose moon is in pisces...and my asc is in virgo, plus a pisces sun whose moon is in aries, and my moon is in libra...I find that I've got A LOT in common with them! They are almost like twins to me, especially the cappy guy...I also have some things in common with the piscean, but there are some issues where we can't see things from the same side, and one of the things I really don't like abt this guy, is that he lies a lot, especially about social life.....but it's amazing how much I've got in common with the cappy, we are VERY similar! But he also tends to lie a lil bit abt social life...I think it's a piscean thing to lie about social life...they cover up over how their real social life is..

And there's also a cappy with moon in leo who I have a lot in common with, but with the pisces mooner, there's some sort of "psychic connection" lol...but it's true, opposites are VERY similar...and we can also learn a lot from each other. Actually we shouldn't be called zodiac opposites, we should be called zodiac twins!


On the other hand, I don't get along very well with cancers:S..I've experienced some of them to be conniving and obnoxious...and they have lot's of childlike complexes, it's really annoying.


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posted May 08, 2005 09:44 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for whiterabbit     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
hey I'm glad you found this thread- really interesting.. I found this little bit on a website, thought it was expressed well:

"They're not really "exact" opposites, but "complementary" opposites - meaning they "complete" each other. They have qualities which are similar in "function" but opposite in "execution" , so to speak.

It's like two people who pull on opposite ends of a rope - they may pull in opposite directions, but at least it's on the same rope! They keep each other in balance because, even though they challenge each other, they do it along the same lines. There is something in common, even if it is approached in different ways. You can learn a lot from "the opposition". "

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neptune's mermaid
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posted May 08, 2005 09:57 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Obsessed with sex? hmmm

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aries-chick
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posted May 08, 2005 10:20 AM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
Hey whiterabbit,

I read something along those lines somewhere. I can't remember where.. It said that oppositions are easier to deal with than squares because.. if a Libra calls something white, an Aries would call it black, so at least they're on the same wavelength (and can cooperate theoretically to get to some shade of grey). Whereas if a Cancer or Capricorn came into it they'd see that same thing as purple with pink dots.. or something..

I read this ages ago though so I think it got a bit distorted, but that's basically what it said

lols Neptune's Mermaid, yep you're a regular nympho

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posted May 08, 2005 10:59 AM     Click Here to See the Profile for The Mutable Night Force     Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
No no no no NO. I'd like to dispell any rumours that I might in any way be like a Piscean. Although Opposite signs will always be both Mutable, Cardinal or Fixed, they are supposed to be opposites, people! I have always found Pisceans to be the type of people whom I have absolutely no relationship with at all, like- not loving or hating them, we both just happen to exist in the same world. Plus, Pisces compassion and anything Virgos might do which may be seen as compassion are different. Virgo compassion may be out of obligation, duty or pity from where I'm coming from at least. I'm not the type of person who goes "Awww poor orphan children!" or "I'm sooo worried about the state of the world" because I just don't posses that type of compassion. I don't know. Maybe this is just me.


Can I ask everyone- What is your relationship with the sign AFTER your opposite? ie. For me this would be Aries, for a Scorpio this would be Gemini.. etc..
It's not a typical combination but I've usually found good friendships can come out of this.

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Carole
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posted May 08, 2005 03:55 PM           Edit/Delete Message   Reply w/Quote
I like Libras, I seem to get along with the one’s I know. I don’t understand how the sign after your opposite would work? For me it would be Scorpio, but for a Scorpio it would be Gemini.

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