posted December 07, 2004 02:52 PM            

Weirdly, my Scorpio friend also likes this guy, so we both would have a 6-8 relationship with him.... What does it all mean???

posted December 07, 2004 09:50 PM              

I've known 2 Aries guys who were shy. One of them had ADD and he was pretty strange but I didn't know him well enough to comment. The second I was pretty close to most of last year. I'm still friends with him. He has a Saggi moon, can't remeber his other placements. Anyways he was very shy and he didn't seem Arian at all, maybe he had a capricorn Asc, he came accross more as a cappy.

So I was convinced he's this shy lamb like Aries for most of the year, up until this Aqua girl realllly ticked him off and then he showed his true colours. He yelled and he yelled and he yelled (people heard him all the way to the front office, in our school and all these teachers came up..what AY drama) ...and Aqua girl was standing there going , later she just laughed it off and said "neva knew he had it in him".

So yeah shy as he may seem, i'm sure the Aries in him is gona pop out sooner or later (most likely if he's angry, if he's in a competition or if he feels someone underestimated his abilities). As to how you get through to him. Be friendly and nice, talk to him and be straight forward (most Aries people appreciate honesty and straight forward-ness) but don't get too close. Aries loves the chase.

You have you're fair share of fire and an Aries moon which makes you basically compatible with an Aries and other fire signs (Maybe not Saggi, only cause of Virgo Saggi square...and also your Gem mars). I doubt the Aries guy would be "scared" of you, maybe it just seems that way. You said he'd think you're a stupid lil kid. Why? Is he older? Cause if he's your age he'd have no reason to think that.

As for the Aries friend, if someone's going to be mean to you they don't deserve your friendship. When she's being mean, let her know it was mean..lots of times Aries people just don't realise when they're being mean.

PS with the Aries guy just be yourself, don't try to change or make yourself seem more interesting. I'm sure u're already interesting, you're prolly just underestimating yourself.

posted December 07, 2004 10:23 PM              

Aries is one sign IMO you should never wear your heart on your sleeve with, they will consider you "conquered" and thus, "boring"...

posted December 07, 2004 11:11 PM            

I couldn't agree more. I'm an Aries and aquarian girl took the words right out of my mouth. Show off how great you are, make yourself seem like a prize and let him come and get you, and right when he thinks you're in his grasp back off. Don't be cold, just a little less available. It would sting him if he thought you lost interest, with all our huffing and puffing and bravado ... Aries has a very fragile ego, so don't shut him out entirely.

oh! and a warning, don't chase him. let him chase you. Aries likes a challenge, that's half the fun, and we can't chase you if you're running straight towards us. I can't speak for other Aries but as for myself, it's such a turn off if someone pursues me. In fact, it makes me really uncomfortable. I guess I don't like the tables turned.

about your Aries friend, tell her she is upsetting you. like it was said before me, she may not even know she is hurting you. She just might think she's being honest. Also, Aries are quick to anger but quick to forgive. So while she might go from being a little annoyed to flat out ****** off and blow up in .001 seconds, she probably forgives just as quick. In fact she probably got mad, raged, then forgave you before you even knew something was wrong. Just talk to her in a calm rational manner. Don't get up in her face because she will probably just get defensive and think you're attacking her and everything you say will just go in one ear and out the other.

posted December 08, 2004 04:31 AM              

I've learned my lesson with the quiet/shy/introverted ones. I know the temptation, wanting to lure them out of their shell, encourage their self confidence and all that. But more often than not I've discovered there was something really wrong with them that was the real reason they were so secretive- they were afraid someone would find out.

posted December 08, 2004 07:22 AM              

Also Aries is on my 7th house cusp.

You just have to be careful not to bruise their ego or make them feel insulted - they really do not like that. It's a game, but don't cross the line. You act like you find them interesting and you might be interested in them romantically... but you never outright declare it. Make them work for it. Because if you let them know you're enarmoured, then it's game over, they think you're boring.

posted December 08, 2004 07:32 AM              

Leyla, that is good advice! How many times have I nurtured the introverted sensitive psuedo intellectual type, only to find out he's never read anything in his life? Ditto if he's been single for a looong time, or if his current dating partner has zero interest in him when he's around.

Something wrong!

posted December 09, 2004 11:35 AM              

And that's how it should be - if two people genuinely feel the same about, are relaxed with each other, and confident in themselves. Talk to him a bit, try to hang out with him as a friend, find out if you have any common interests.

posted December 09, 2004 01:54 PM            

Unfortunately, today, with my friend, I blew it completely within the first 40 minutes of saying hi. She is constantly attacking me now and my scorpio friend, because I think she's peeved I pay more attention to scorp than her. This is only because the scorpio is nice (most of the time) and not constantly insulting me (which could make my fragile virgo self-confidence collapse-Haha). I had the intention of being nice but whatever it was she said (I can't remember now) -oh, wait, that's it! She was misremembering the facts about something, as usual, trying to twist it to make it seem like she was perfect and I was thoughtless. It really bugged me being a virgo, because I'm a real stickler for the facts and she'd totally messed everything up and wouldn't change her mind. Even my understanding Gemini friend was trying to shut her up because she was making such a big deal. This is really getting to my scorp friend who told me she even nearly cried to her mum about it. She also keeps telling me to stop singing which really gets me down as well. Perversely, later, we were getting on fine and joking, whatnot. This is confusing me!

Oh, and the aries guy, I haven't seen for ages and when I do, all I can do is just smile, it's killing me- at least before I could say hello. The other older aries guy is still patronising me. I think it's because I can't loosen up around people I'm trying to impress.

posted December 09, 2004 04:22 PM            

"She is constantly attacking me now and my Scorpio friend, because I think she's peeved I pay more attention to scorp than her."

this stuck out to me. As an Aries I'll admit I can get really jealous of ... everyone in fact. I always want to be top priority and be everyone's favorite ... it's a fault I know. so when I'm not or I feel second best I get really hurt and get kind of mean. Maybe you're friend feels like she is the odd man out and that's why she is being such a brat. like I said before, sometimes Aries don't realize when they're being mean or hurting someone's feelings, so maybe she didn't notice the fact that you and you're Scorpio friend were hurting and by the time she did wake up and realize something was wrong all she saw was you two bonding together in your distaste for her.

my advice: talk to her, just put it all out on the table in a calm and rational manner. She will probably appreciate your bluntness and will feel horrible for ever hurting you.

posted December 10, 2004 01:19 PM            

~Doogie~

posted December 10, 2004 04:25 PM              

LOL

posted December 13, 2004 04:59 PM            

Again, with my friend. She has now moved on from harassing my scorp friend and has turned to bugging me to the nth degree. Honestly everything is at its worst now. It's almost like she is trying to get back at us for any bad thing we EVER said to her, she can't remember any one specifically but refers to them as "all those horrible things you said to me" agghhhh! and it's driving me crazy nobody can say anything without her craftily turning it into an insult to do with me! I don't know how she does it, but oh I'm trying sooo hard to be reasonable at every possible chance, I'm not shouting, I'm even learning how to deal with it almost, but this night, on the way home from school it got too much and I started crying a bit. It made me so angry that she'd reduced me to tears. My Gemini friend was even telling her to shut up. I don't know whether it got throught to her or not or whether she even noticed but she looked a couple of times. Not sure whther she figured I was crying or not. We very silent with each other for the moment. I'm worried this is going to errupt into something big.

posted December 13, 2004 08:31 PM              

Do you know what her moon sign is? Just wondering...I bet ya it's another fire sign.

posted December 14, 2004 01:53 PM            

Today was suprisingly peaceful and harmonious, we got on and joked on the way home. I don't know but maybe she doesn't want to p*** anyone off anymore, I mean, it IS christmas soon.

Thanks Jen, its cool to know that maybe if I ever see this shyer Aries guy again I might stand a chance.

Out of interest, in a relationship where an Aries seriously adores and is constantly banging on about his other half, is there a good chance she may be a Leo? It is a guess on my half about someone I know of. Just thinking, Linda Goodman was an Aries and didn't she have a soft spot for Leos? All just a theory but without actually knowing it's a bit of detective work on my part.