posted December 20, 2004 11:46 PM              

I was so mad at him! Then I had another friend resent me for some advice I gave him. Then he was angry because broke with someone he wanted me to. It sucks to take bad advice, but you have to put it behind you. We all do this at times.

It's a good idea not to tell everyone what you are considering doing, and only let your friends and roomates know what you consider to be significant and real. The reason is that if you consult yourself first, you can decide how much you want to change or not, and you decide how important the answers are.

Control is easy to give to others, especially if you are dependent on someone financially, or physically.

We are all at that place at some point in our lives, you are feeling dependent, it's normal.

Can you find another job on your own that you like better? Why do you think that others project their own feelings about you and tell you about them all the time? It's because they see something in you that they lack and they desperately want to believe that you are the problem/solution in their lives.

You are not there to make anyone's life better/worse, you are not a change agent. They shouldn't depend on you to do so much.

But they lack something, maybe they are disatisfied with their lives and blame you? Then they need more money so they blame you some more, and resent you? People do this all the time.

There is a famous song by Bob Dylan that went:
"I know you are dissatisfied with your position and your place..but don't you understand that's not my problem?

He goes on to say how much he would do for others, if he could without feeling bad about himself, but when he does do things for friends, the act like they don't want him around because then they resent him so much! In other words friends sometimes blame us for their problems in life, which is unfair.

It's a great song, called Positively 4th St.
Dylan had great poetry on how friends sometimes resent each other for better or for worse. This seems to be a Mercury ruled trend, since Mercury ruled people do not like resentments. But then I could be projecting myself since Dylan has a sixth house sun, like myself.

In any case I hope that advice helps you,
don't be so hard on yourself!
When people push me around, and they do, I say "You are too controlling, stop it" Or, "Your problems are not my problems"
Natasha

Dylan:

"No, I do not feel that good
When I see the heartbreaks you embrace
If I was a master thief
Perhaps I'd rob them

And now I know you're dissatisfied
With your position and your place
Don't you understand
It's not my problem

I wish that for just one time
You could stand inside my shoes
And just for that one moment
I could be you

Yes, I wish that for just one time
You could stand inside my shoes
You'd know what a drag it is
To see you"

posted December 22, 2004 03:02 PM              

I asked about you a while back. What do you have in your 6th House? Also, the Ruler, it's Sign & it's House?

Me, with a lot of energy planets in my 6th House ... service to others is all too easy. But since all 3 of those Planets are in Scorpio, I suppose that is why I have such a strong spiritual side, or leaning thereof. Plus my 6th House Cusp is in Libra, my Venus is in Virgo (Ruler of 6th House) in my 4th.