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Topic: Ever wish you were someone else?
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sthenri
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posted January 09, 2005 07:37 PM
 
Do you think think this is an 8th house or 12th house aspect?Missing my ex Gemini b/f right now, and starting with a new b/f, a Cancer, same age as me. Feeling sort of lost and wish I was someone else right now, here is a song that expresses it. Actually I have only been single for three weeks, but it feels like years. "Well, someone told me yesterday
That when you throw your love away
You act as if you don’t care
You look as if you’re going somewhere
But I just can’t convince myself
I couldn’t live with no one else
And I can only play that part
And sit and nurse my broken heart, so lonely" Is it always this hard for some people to let go of the memories of someone else and start with a new someone? letting go feels like letting go of myself, I will miss those memories. Thanks,
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ghanima81
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posted January 09, 2005 08:52 PM
Natasha,It must be something about Geminis... I find them increddibly hard to get over. I have dated a few, and they really had implanted themselves permanently in me somewhere. Not sure to this day if it's a mind thing, or a heart thing that keeps me longing for my Gemini ex at times... A very strong feeling will come over me, and all I want is to have him in my arms again, it's quite odd. Normally I get over people fairly quick, at least enough so that I can move on with someone else if it works out that way. And I know I can and have come to the point that my missing him does not stop me from being with anyone else, but when those flood gates open and the memories start pouring out....they totally engulf me and I want him near me very much. So strange too, we broke up over a year ago, and I have since had a serious relationship (over now), so you can see, he clings and clings... Oh, we broke up about 3 times in our 4 year relationship also.. seems I had done the same thing to him...  Ghani IP: Logged |
sthenri
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posted January 09, 2005 09:48 PM
Ghani, are you still in Maine? I will be down in Portland this week if you want to have a coffee, maybe we can talk about Geminis.Yes I know your story about your Gemini, isn't he in the UK and with a Scorpio? And did you have a Libra ex? If that's true, it's funny because I have a Libra ex too..and I have had two Gemini ex's and they do drive me crazy. The first man to give me a Valentine's Day card was a Gemini. He made it himself, and wrote a comic strip with it starring both of us. He said he was the luckiest man in the world to find a woman like me..so of course my heart went zoom. He had Venus and Mercury in Cancer, I did not get along with his mother and so it ended, even though he lived in Australia I was happy to emigrate, that wasn't the problem! Yes those Geminis can play with the human heart. I still will keep this Gemini in my heart as a friend, I will visualize him always as a friend only, the way it was meant to be, and so I do not open my mind to more images. I have asked him for closure where we sit and have coffee sometime and I see him as an ordinary man instead of how we fought the last time we saw each other. It's awful when the end is dramatic. Geminis are best at being friends I think, even when they are committed to be honest, they are unhappy and always looking for that ideal friend/buddy who is accepting. So even if you get one, he's always going to be wandering looking for that other half of himself, he can't give it all to one person, or be exclusive. It's better to be the buddy woman with respect, talking openly and honestly, I think than the woman at home. I know I can do that, I am strong enough. However, this particular Gemini has trouble keeping his hands to himself so I will have to watch him carefully if I see him again. That makes it tougher. I didn't like it, but in a way I like a man who can grab a hold of me and hold me tight. If I can find a man who can do that to me, hold me very tightly I think I will be fine, but this particular Gemini did hold on to me so tightly sometimes it felt like love, but it was just comfort. Natasha
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whiterabbit
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posted January 09, 2005 10:46 PM
Natasha- just wanted to tell you I love that song.never been with a Gemini- can't say much about that. wanting to be someone else? I think it's an inherently human thing when we are unhappy. IP: Logged |
Secret Garden
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posted January 10, 2005 12:46 AM
hi natasha how are u
u always start the best threads 
Im sorry to hear about that nostalgia / longing...well thanks for all the Gem. compliments. I personally think that no one misses me hehe, I was just on the ph with my mom and I was like mom i miss u! and shes like ok, i have to go bye
And my ex bf Leo who tugs my heart strings and still gets those butterflies in my stomach, and heart racing, always seems semi flirtatious but never emotionally at the same level (yes i miss u too sorta thing). Oh well... hehe I guess its part of human nature, like white rabbit said, wanting to be someone else, wanting to be this perfect, popular person that people will also love and long for. Although no one is perfect, some people hang onto our heart and build these irremovable memories. I totally understand and have been there. I am currently going through a divorce (with that abusive virgo that I talked to you about once, Natasha, hehe). And although he was abusive and completely drove me nuts, there were good memories, especially in the beginning. I think I have an especially HARD time letting go of love interests. Probably because of Venus in Seventh and making some difficult aspects with Pluto (wanting control and stability in love relationships). The other night I happened to hear this song that he used to sing for me and theres this particular line in it where the singer sings about his lover-girl dancing with her tinkling anklets (Im a big anklet freak and I love dance) and I always used to love it when he sang that for me. I almost started sobbing at the coffee shop! hehe It was hard to hold it in till I got to the parking lot
But you know single life has its own charms and benefits... and the way I see it, we should fully enjoy both... I like being out there on the market, the freedom of knowing that there are several potential possibilities and all that. That I dont necessarily have to put up with someone, that no one can make me cry unless I want to make myself cry, I dont have to take orders from anyone. And then there's always the fun of flirtation when you're single. People, flirtation is wayyy underrated. Being an atypical gemini, yet I still find flirtation very therapeutic and wonderful. Even when you feel like crap, all of a sudden you go...HEY! that guy finds me cute and its bright and sunny agin. Lol.
I can understand the feeling of missing yourself too. When I was taking a nonverbal communication class in community college a few years ago, our teacher said that couples tend to become one social entity instead of two people (they sorta fuse into one, for example, lets invite the Joneses or Henry and his girlfriend, instead of two distinct people, ex. lets invite Henry and Sara too). So you begin to feel like one social entity, besides the oneness you achieve emotionally and physically with the person. So ...in the beginning you will feel a certain yearning..I know that yearning lasts way longer than just the beginning for me lol, but anyhow its a normal stage of parting. *Hugs*
I doubt this will make you feel any better, but Gemini men can be particularly diabolical. Hehe, dont want to offend anyone (hey Im badmouthing my own sun and moon signs here!)-- I find Gemini and Scorpio men very diabolical in that they can be devilishly appealing (both sexually and otherwise) as well as make your life hell when they want (intentionally or unintentionally). Im sure you'll find someone wonderful..and that Cancer sounds marvellous too.
Sorry thats a huge reply hehe
But you know how us Gems are...never can give a brief answer
Btw thought that card with the cartoon strip was sooo cute. I have totally done things like that for my exes. Im totally the overdriven hyper bouncy perky girlfriend that gets flowers sent to corporate meetings and does totally inappropriate mushy things as well. Lol. Hey, if you care about someone, you better let them know right?
Oh forgot to answer ur qs. Lol. Yes I totally wish I was someone else sometimes. Someone who was completely enlightened, wise, wonderfully polite and sweet, knowledgeable, independent, popular, in love and complete in every way..but then thats too idealistic right hehe
I haven't really thought about being any other sign in particular. Sometimes I wish I was a Cancer woman because they're supposed to be so pretty and elegant and feminine. However Ive seen some very insecure Cancers that crave attention and love and I dont want to crave it more than I do already  Sometimes tho, I really appreciate my Gem Sun with Scorp moon and Venus Aries because it gives my Gem. sun a very atypical fiery, passionate, stable side. I tend to attract a lot of money because of my prominent 2nd house, and a lot of potential mates because of Venus in 7th and positive aspects to my 7th house
So overall I would say Im glad. I feel like I can use my Gem powers or my Scorp sexual charisma to my advantage... Although thats prolly not true, just gives me some much needed confidence lol
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moonbaby
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posted January 10, 2005 03:59 AM
you know ive never wished i was someone else...cos i know evryone has their own baggage...it might be minute to you but ot them its a mountain. i think einstein said it best: its all relative.though i have always wanted to achieve piece of mind by the time im 25... IP: Logged |
ariestiger
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posted January 10, 2005 04:50 AM
I'm glad I'm me. I used to wish I was other people, but there's no point. I think it's important to feel reasonably proud of and comfortable with oneself, and be able to express oneself with total confidence.
If I ever feel down, I return to that old chestnut about somebody always being worse off than I am. It does work. Despite the fact that my familial relationships are constantly fraught and always likely to be a problem, in many respects I count myself extraordinarily lucky.LOL AriesTiger (Sun & Merc in 8th) IP: Logged |
ghanima81
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posted January 10, 2005 10:06 AM
Yeah, I'm in Maine still. I'm still wheel-less, but I may be able to borrow mum's car. I'll let you know, pretty much every day is good for me. My ex is here in Maine, and I've tried my darndest to stay away from him and the scorpio.. I don't want to get involved in that drama again. He has a very bad habit of pulling me into his eyes all over again, and then not being able to committ... I would feel terrible if that girl got upset with him and I spending time together, so I'm just saying ''no'' to a Gem-Aqua reunion... He too has Venus in Cancer, in his 12th house, and Merc in Gemini, also 12th house... very good at emotional manipulation, I always felt I owed him something, and that if I wasn't there for him whenever he needed me, that there would be hell to pay... He would get all moody and retreat back to the bottom of his venusian pond... He has a Libra moon too, so it must actually be hard for him... oozing all that sex and love all over the place! Yeah, I feel sooooo bad for him... :rollseyes: My e-mail is hipactrs81@yahoo.com, if you wanna e-mail me about getting coffee... Ghani IP: Logged |
ghanima81
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posted January 10, 2005 06:03 PM
*bumpity bump for Natasha..*IP: Logged |
pidaua
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posted January 10, 2005 08:12 PM
I am happy being me and since I can't be anyone else, I don't even entertain the thought As far as Gemini men- I am usually instantly repulsed by them (unless they have a ton of Earth or Water). I get along great with the women, but astrologically the men just can't keep my interest. Maybe that is because the Gemini I had a relationship with about 10 years ago ended up breaking 3 of my ribs and tried to smash my face in before the cops broke it up. He was a liar, a womanizer and would disappear for days. He wanted to marry me, but would get violent because I wasn't ready. In the end, he was thrown into the Marines equivalent of jail and got a dishonorable discharge. It was VERY easy for me to get over him. All I had to do was remember his face when he charged me and I flew into the back of a van. Or how jerky he was when he addressed me and couldn't handle my opinions or strength. IP: Logged |
Secret Garden
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posted January 10, 2005 11:30 PM
wow pidaua i totally totally feel awful for you. Well, the good thing is that you're a strong individual who didn't let that perverted guy push you around (well at least more than once and Im sure you probably didnt see the one time coming?). Ive been in an abusive relationship myself and for me it was hard to get out of the cycle of him being the abuser and me the abusee and I would feel guilty if he apologized and I didnt accept the apology...Anyhow now Im so glad Im out of it!
I think I said before that Gem men can be diabolical...lol I totally think so still. They have the freakiest minds and a buncha skeletons in the closet, believe me. *shudders*
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pidaua
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posted January 11, 2005 12:36 AM
Thanks SG...no worries, it only took that one time of him physically hurting me and I was gone. For me, I have a hard time with feeling sorry for people. I kept my marriage going with a Virgo for years longer than I should have because I was worried about how he would fare without me. Turned out it was for nothing. BUT..we live and learn. We become stronger for it right? *hugs back to you SG* IP: Logged |
seveneieghtorange
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posted January 11, 2005 03:29 AM
sometimes...I wish I was an Aquarius because maybe I wouldnt let much of my senseless emotions get to me. But being an Aquarius rising, that is actually much easier to do than I give myself credit for. IP: Logged |
Secret Garden
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posted January 11, 2005 04:38 AM
omg i second that wanting to escape your emotions thing. despite my gem. sun i am always trying to run away from my emotions because i know they will totally go overload and drive me nuts. my emotions are more intense than anyone else i know (scorp. moon and venus in aries, another couple of planets in scorp. too  ) however, ive found that surprisingly, i completely become placid in front of others. i hate letting others see me as emotional. even when my father died (i was 12 at the time) i didnt shed a tear in front of anyone because i didnt want to seem weak. when im going through emotional distress i like the satisfaction of knowing i am strong enough to comfort myself and dont have to break down in front of anyone...anyone at all even if it be my best friend or lover. the emotions running high do give me one big plus point however, i think it also gives me added sympathy and empathy for others, and a kind of spirituality and interest in mysticism and religion that keeps my intellectual thirst churning. IP: Logged | |
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