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Topic: Men who Don't Feel Threatened by Aries Women
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ariestiger
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posted January 10, 2005 01:42 PM
 
Astrologically speaking - are there any men out there who are comfortable enough with themselves to actually enjoy the typically obvious indications of an Aries woman liking them, and give as good as they get in return, without feeling threatened? I can't help the fact that I need to at least do some pursuing!!! LOL AriesTiger IP: Logged |
whiterabbit
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posted January 10, 2005 02:05 PM
I'd say your best bet would be another Aries! At least the ones I know.
Recently, a gorgeous Aries man (I seem to be surrounded by them lately) told me
"I hate always having to be the one initiating things. Chasing the woman. Why can't women chase men more often?"
he also said
"I am a feminist"I dunno...sounds good, huh?
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LeylaLeFay
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posted January 11, 2005 07:36 AM
I've always found Aries men are the ones who aren't threatened by me! I intimidate the hell out of most others.IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
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posted January 11, 2005 08:58 AM
Leo is always great for returning affection tenfold. You pursued them in the company of others, touting their praises?
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pixelpixie
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posted January 11, 2005 09:01 AM
I guess the trick is in pursuing ... but allowing them to really take the lead once the affection is 'planted'... making it seem like they are pursuing ( after a nudge from you*
Mr. Obvious is sometimes Mr.Oblivious with some men.... also those other kind of men who can't understand what "I am not interested" means. The two should really meet in the middle.IP: Logged |
Aphrodite
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posted January 11, 2005 09:13 AM
Hey, care to share a little more on what it is you're doing being "obviously" interested in a new guy?     IP: Logged |
ariestiger
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posted January 11, 2005 09:30 AM
I mean as in myself and Mr Aqua, or guys I've been interested in in the past. I occasionally have this need to say, "god, you're gorgeous, I just can't resist you" or talk about how wonderful I think they are in other ways, or be very passionate  and they seem to be uncomfortable with that, and prefer something more subtle - constant gentle support, maybe? Though I think this is a function of men in general.
Take Mr. Aqua, for example. If I'm nice to him and all over him, he hates it and feels smothered, yet when I'm nice and just-out-of-reach, or even better, really annoyed with him, it sparks his interest. He loves it!!! He says that's why he likes me, because of my "fighting" spirit ?!!Again, I wonder whether this is an Aqua being contrary, or just men in general. But maybe I just need to rein the urge to dazzle in a bit. IP: Logged |
Aphrodite
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posted January 11, 2005 11:58 AM
Wow, you are really confident! I am an Aries Sun too, but you take the cake when it comes to pursuing guys.  Kudos to you for making the first cold call moves.IP: Logged |
miss_apples
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posted January 11, 2005 12:03 PM
My boyfriends brother is a Leo and his girlfriend is an Aries. They live with us and from what I have observed, he has pretty much got her whooped so to speak. They are completly inseperable. However when they do disagree or argue their fighting can be quite intense. IP: Logged |
ariestiger
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posted January 11, 2005 12:22 PM
I did use to do a lot of cold calling. In advertising sales (seriously).When trying to hook Mr. Aqua, I "played" it so that he would make the first move (he did) because up until then, nobody had ever asked me out (sob). Everyone used to say this was because guys were afraid of me. Several guys admitted I scared them. I can't understand why. I mean, what would I have been likely to do??? AriesTiger IP: Logged |
Aphrodite
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posted January 11, 2005 12:32 PM
Hmm, have you imagined yourself in their shoes before? Try thinking outside yourself and see what you come up with . . . How do you think it makes someone feel when you approach them in the way that you used to? IP: Logged |
sthenri
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posted January 11, 2005 12:35 PM
a man with a strong mars, or an unaspected mars would show an Aries faith and love. Even if he had the sun as a singleton, plus some stabilizing earth influences,I have a lot of aries in my chart, and the best man for me so far had an unaspected mars, sun singleton, saturn in the 1st, venus in the 5th, and Sag on the midheaven conjunct my Ascendant. His mars and mercury conjunct my sun,
he had no fire in his chart but he taught me a lot about patience and commitment due to his impatient but honest nature. He pursued me after I gave him my number, but he followed me to my car first, and he said he watched me and picked me out first. He was in another relationship and ended it for me, so he was brave, but I wasn't secure enough. Aries can suffer from insecurity, Natasha
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Aphrodite
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posted January 11, 2005 12:37 PM
Whoa nelly! That sounds like an Alpha Male!  IP: Logged |
sthenri
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posted January 11, 2005 12:38 PM
a man with a strong mars, or an unaspected mars would show an Aries faith and love. Even if he had the sun as a singleton, plus some stabilizing earth influences,I have a lot of aries in my chart, and the best man for me so far had an unaspected mars, sun singleton, saturn in the 1st, venus in the 5th, and Sag on the midheaven conjunct my Ascendnat. His mars and mercury conjunct my sun,
he had no fire in his chart but he taught me a lot about patience and commitment due to his impatient but honest nature. Natasha
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ariestiger
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posted January 11, 2005 12:50 PM
Hi Aphrodite,
In answer to your question:
I might perhaps have been flattered - for a moment. Depending on who they were. But then, I might have thought, "Hang on, what do they want? Bit INTENSE, aren't they?"Oh...um...yes...I see your point, Aphrodite (takes a bow) Mr Aqua can't stand me saying he's gorgeous (he is), because he thinks I'm being insincere. I'm not actually, physically I find him very attractive, and if I get within a 10-centimetre radius of him - when he kisses me - the pheromones go to work and I end up chasing him round the house. He says he supposes he ought to be grateful, most men would in theory give their eyeteeth for such a woman, but he's "just not into it"! (Sigh) IP: Logged |
jwhop
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posted January 11, 2005 02:14 PM
Hmmm, I wonder how many times I've given this advice about Aquarius?DON'T CHASE AQUARIUS!  Men or women! They feel pressure and you can't run fast enough to catch Aquarius!  ....in general. They adore friends and being friends. They have things to do, plans to make and plans to make their plans come to fruition. They love the unusual, people, things, places, surprises, relationships and minds. The degree to which you can engage Aquarius as a friend, make them laugh, intrigue their minds and keep enough back to surprise them on occasion will more than likely determine what the relationship will ultimately be. When they have you all figured out, it may be time for them to move on. Don't bore them This should be music to your ears....when Aquarius says, "I never know what you'll do next"....."you surprise me". Just remember Aquarius is an Air sign and a much cooler and impersonal personality than say, ....the fire signs. Especially if they are also Venus in Aquarius. IP: Logged |
ariestiger
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posted January 11, 2005 03:54 PM
That's interesting. Mr. Aqua has quite often said he doesn't know what I'm going to do next, and that life with me is rather exciting (as far as I can see it's a rollercoaster with most Aries spouses). He always complains I don't tell him anything, or that I organize things first and tell him later. Which is true - otherwise I'd get a lecture!!!
Regarding "chasing", he says that I'm like some sort of funny lustful little woman in a cartoon, that jumps out from unexpected places, that's funny, rather than sexy. "Sorry," he says, "but it just makes me laugh more than anything else." He RUNS AWAY from me!!! He really does! I'm moved to wonder whether I have inherited my drive from my Aries father, who would chase anything in a skirt, I seem to be a female version of him.
Actually, I tell a lie that no-one asked me out pre-Mr. Aqua. A guy who fancied me in secondary school made it VERY obvious to me. I actually secretly had a bit of a thing for him too, he was exactly the type of guy I liked, played guitar, wore Megadeth T-shirts etc (I was "Gothic" at the time), BUT was a complete psycho, he used to follow me up the path from school shouting that he loved me, he was quite ugly, and I worried like crazy what my parents and peers would think. Last thing I heard about him, he was a down-and-out, which was a shame as he was a whiz at electronics, he used to be able to put parts from several different machines together and get them to work. I don't know what his starsign was. He wanted me to play drums in his band!!!
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trillian
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posted January 11, 2005 04:05 PM
jwhop, I think you just defined the Gemini male, too.  ariestiger...I have 3 personal planets in Aries. Plus, like Pid, I have Leo rising and Uranus and Pluto both conjunct the rising. So I know exactly where you're coming from. I have control issues. And I don't like to play it down or dumb it down to please anyone...I like being myself. But I realize I can be a little overwhelming. The only Aqua male I've ever know would've loved you. He was always looking for a strong woman to take charge of the romance. Pity I never saw the rest of his chart. Good luck! IP: Logged |
The Mutable Night Force
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posted January 11, 2005 04:21 PM
I never would have thought Aries on Aries would have worked. I've never met/heard of an Aries/Aries couple before. They'd just be too much! No one can handle the power!
I wouldn't say the description fitted a Gemini male too. Are you kidding? Geminis love attention (especially the men)! They are in ecstasy when lots of people are around them telling them how fantastic they are. I bet they'd just lap it up if you spent all the time telling them how gorgeous they are!IP: Logged |
trillian
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posted January 11, 2005 04:27 PM
My mom and dad were a very successful Aries couple, separated only by death.Now, as for this, from jwhop, on Aquas: quote:
They adore friends and being friends. They have things to do, plans to make and plans to make their plans come to fruition. They love the unusual, people, things, places, surprises, relationships and minds. The degree to which you can engage Aquarius as a friend, make them laugh, intrigue their minds and keep enough back to surprise them on occasion will more than likely determine what the relationship will ultimately be
C'mon, this doesn't sound like a Gemini??!! I'd say it does indeed!
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CNO732
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posted January 11, 2005 04:27 PM
My close Aries friend always has this problem ... She's tuff with men and tuff on them and I always told her that her gruff, honest, combative manner will always keep most men at bay ...She's aggressive like a man and thinks forward ... She takes charge and when she tries to the do the "step back" let a man take control thing her aggressive nature takes hold and they usually end up fighting ... She loves a man to be a man but she likes to meet him head on in most things ... Most guys recoil in horror Aries women can be quite difficult but only because they are seeking full idealogy when it comes to men and have high expectations of what and how men should act and usually she gets burned, cause well, men ain't perfect and are only willing to put up with so much and so many ultimatums and suggestions ... Me and her get along great ... I'm Virgo/Libra cusp ... with Sag rising/Leo moon ... But I have tons of patience, have the nurturing manly thing down pact and we also have same impulsive, cardinal fire energy and high expectations of folks in our life ... BUT she's work and when I tell her this she just doesn't get it ... constant stimulation with highs and lows that are taxing on any man ... But she gets this and is always evolving who she is as a person and that is a major plus for most guys ... I think Aries go great with other Fire signs (lots of combusitable energy where egos clash however) ... Air/Water signs are too easily bendable from what I've seen in her relationships and lack a lot of coviction ... Scorpios and Virgos are nice mix of staid, stoic, stand right, passionate men ... But both these signs need tons of space and freedom and will hate the roller coaster ride of emotions ... Taurus or Libra might be nice fit IP: Logged |
astro junkie
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posted January 12, 2005 01:29 AM
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ariestiger
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posted January 13, 2005 06:25 AM
Hi Trillian, I have Pluto in the 1st (Sun and Merc in the 8th, Mars and Saturn in the 10th). So, um, I guess I love being in control. I just can't resist the urge to CHASE. It's fun. Maybe it's something to do with all that Mars energy. (Sitting quietly? What's that when it's at home?) I was interested in what you said about your parents being a very successful Aries couple. This reminded me of the (legendary) relationship between my Aries German great-grandparents. They had nine children, and my great-grandmother received a medal in the 1930s for her contribution towards the German population.
With so many kids, discipline was the order of the day, and German post-Victorian discipline was naturally the best it could be. Unfortunately, when Great-Grandfather started belting one of the boys, he got so apoplectic that he couldn't stop, so Great-Grandmother used to snatch the boy from his grasp and substitute it for another one. She was actually very loving, gave the children and grandchildren lots of love and affection (true to Aries woman form). When she died in her 80s, my great-grandfather died not long afterwards - of a broken heart. LOL  AriesTiger IP: Logged |
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posted January 13, 2005 11:49 AM
Well trillian, that might also apply to a Gemini man! I wouldn't have any first hand experience in chasing a Gemini man though It would also depend on which Gemini Twin happened to show up on any given day as to how they would react to anything! quote:
They adore friends and being friends. They have things to do, plans to make and plans to make their plans come to fruition. They love the unusual, people, things, places, surprises, relationships and minds. The degree to which you can engage Aquarius as a friend, make them laugh, intrigue their minds and keep enough back to surprise them on occasion will more than likely determine what the relationship will ultimately be
ariestiger, your hot, instant on nature may threaten Aquarius men. I did say their nature is much cooler than yours. On the other hand, it's good that he finds you surprising at times. Hmmm, he would lecture you...if you explained what you intended to do in advance...instead of just doing it and then telling him after the fact. Check a synastry chart ariestiger. Look for his Saturn aspects to your Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus and Mars. It's possible he thinks he has things to teach you. Also look for his Pluto aspects to your Sun, Moon and Mars for control issues and opposition and square aspects to your Venus.
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posted January 13, 2005 01:26 PM
I don't know why, but if I picture myself as a fearless Aries woman, I picture myself involved in as many thrill sports with other men as possible!  IP: Logged | |
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