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Topic: Whats in a picture...
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Mama Mia
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Registered: Feb 2010
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posted January 13, 2005 04:23 PM
  
Hello I have a question ladies, I say ladies cause I really feel like men could care less about this type stuff. Here it goes. I have been seeing this guy like 7mnths now its okay there has been some really rocky times but some how we over come it. There is no commitment we ard just going with the flow and enjoying each other we have a really ggod friendship. I have given him several beautiful pictures of me and he has a really nice picture with he and I on it and my mom. On on his walls in his house he has pictures of friends everywhere. (Aquarius he is) I can tell some of these pictures are real old and some are some what new. Anyway he has never put up any of those pictures of me or the one of us. This past Sunday I ws at his house and noticed where he has put up a picture of this young lady( first time seeing that too) I got so choked up cause I felt like dag I am not special enough to get my picture up there. Anyway I kept cutting my eyes at him all night he had no idea why he just kept looking at me funny. So here is my ? would you or would you not be upset? Would you or would you not mention it to him. Remember this is an Aqua guy know how he loves his freedom would not want to infringe on that right... WHATEVER!!!!! IP: Logged |
Devilfish
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posted January 13, 2005 04:40 PM
i would not be upset just curious & i would definately say something, but i'd be casually sarcastic.
like & remember this is really what I would say so take it with a grain of salt:
" what the hell (insert name)im not special enough for your photo gallery, you know my pics been know to scare away mice and burglars alike pretty useful stuff if you have the guts to put it up there ha/ha"
  thats my devilfish style
oh yeah i wanted to add that i would only do this at his house after looking at the picture wall , like the only reason i thought of it was because i was looking at it . ewww i sound so sneaky  IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
Knowflake Posts: 117
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Registered: Feb 2010
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posted January 13, 2005 04:52 PM
Yeah that is right I am curious too. Also he has/had a lil mouse in his place too.. LOL!!
I am going to mention it. I am going skiing this weekend but when I get back I am going to mention it.. Thanks.. IP: Logged |
ghanima81
Moderator Posts: 520
From: Maine
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 13, 2005 05:19 PM
Hmmmm... good suggestion, but I guess I don't see the big deal. Does he have pictures of ex-girlfriends up? That would be something to be upset over... but a bunch of pictures of friends? but you're not up there... I don't know.. you did say that you're not committed, and nothing is totally solid, just kind of enjoying each other and seeing how things go... Aquas, although they do like freedom and not being told what to do, are just as insecure when nothing is set in stone as far as relationships go, so maybe he thinks it would be bad luck or something if he put it up? Eh, it's just a picture... if it bugs you, just tell him, but don't worry too much about the reasons behind it... those pics may have a special place of their own   Ghani IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
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posted January 13, 2005 05:26 PM
Ghanima81 it is a combination of pictures men, women, kids, old people just people.
It just kind of made me wonder why he never put my picture up b4 this just makes me even more curious, but not to the point where I am going to worry to death. I get an answer soon enough. IP: Logged |
future_uncertain
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Registered: May 2009
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posted January 13, 2005 05:55 PM
When I read your story I even got upset when you told the part about the new girl on the wall! Of course that's the kind of thing that would stick out to me and turn my belly into knots. Not that it's reasonable, mind you... sometimes I get jealous over the small stuff. Maybe he hasn't put up your pic because like you said, nothing's set in stone and maybe he thinks you're the one who wants it to be casual and he doesn't want it to look like he's taking things too seriously... just a thought!IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
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posted January 13, 2005 06:03 PM
Yeah well a few things have crossed my mind futre-uncertain. That new picture really did stick out. He has alot of female friends as I do male friends so I am not really tripping on that, but what bothers me is I know what we are doing have things in perspective we are lovers and friends and my picture is not up there. When I saw that Ihe was in the shower I laid down on the couch and just kind of cooled down and got my emotions to gether got still for a minute then I thought would he really do that I mean would he really put up some new chics picture and make mw feel bad and not care. I know that he cares for me I attempted to leave this relationship so many times and he pulls me back. I am going to talk with him about it when I get back from out of town. Not asking that he take it down not asking that he put mine up just curious why hasn't he in all this time. IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
Newflake Posts: 8
From: ON Canada
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 14, 2005 02:14 AM
Maybe he keeps it somewhere special to him.. somewhere private? Maybe it is so creased from use and his fingers holding it constantly, that it is un-put-up-able?*yes, It's a word, whatever do you mean?
Next time bring a digital and take a pic of you smooching him, and at the last minute, lick his cheek like a cow.
Aqua's love that shite!IP: Logged |
Secret Garden
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posted January 14, 2005 02:21 AM
I would suggest not mentioning it...because if he puts it up there simply to satisfy your comment and not because he wanted to, then whats the use? Also, dont let his pictures fool you...Aqua men are very elusive and you may never know your pic may be in his wallet IP: Logged |
Lilith1075
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posted January 14, 2005 09:21 AM
Him not putting a picture of he and you up on the wall with all the other pictures could be a sign that he sets you apart from his other friends. Just a thought.IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
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posted January 14, 2005 10:08 AM
LOL!!!! Pixel you are too cunning. That is funny as hell just to imagine that cracked me up. If that is the case that would be nice. Thanks for the laugh..Secret Garden yes he is very elusive always challenging my thoughts, so it could very well that or if not close. Thanks for making me look at it in a different light. Lilith1075 Now that is something that I had not thought about either. I do feel set apart from all the other people in his world mainly bc I brought something really different to his world. That makes so much sense. Thankyou also for opening that other eye... IP: Logged |
pidaua
Knowflake Posts: 67
From: Back in AZ with Bear the Leo
Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 14, 2005 02:18 PM
I'm a Sag..I would ask him in a very non-confrontational way. I would say "Hey babe, who is that lady?" He will understand your curiousity and I believe he will answer honestly. Did you put your pictures in frames? If not, he may not want to put them up because he doesn't want them to get damaged..again, the best way to find out is to ask. LOL....With Mr. Taurus I found that he sticks his old pictures in an envelope on the dresser. He showed them to me, they have a couple of pics of his wedding, a couple of old girlfriends and friends. He said they mark time. I can't be upset because I have at least 4 photo albums full of my friends, wedding and exes. I also have my "memory" box with trinkets and love letters. The only time something irked me was when I saw a frame (small) with two ladies in it making drinks. Behind that pic was a couple of pics of ex girlfriends. I put it face down and stuck some crap on top of it..LOL...I put OUR picture on the dresser now. LOL..the thing was, he was waiting for me to say something and DO something about it. He still thinks that I am not as INTO the whole relationship thing as he is lOL..whatever! But we also have a different level of relationship because we live together. I would just ask your dude about the pics I am sure you will be pleasantly surprised about the answer. IP: Logged |
astro junkie
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posted January 16, 2005 01:50 PM
Pixie has a point. Aquarius' don't show their "strong love" that easily, so it could be that.But my first reaction was in a bit of a different direction. What does that gallery of hanging photos represent to you anywayz? I respect people's space a whole lot, and it would trip me out if someone I liked was as bothered about something like that. But that's just me. Who knows what THEIR motivation is for hanging them. I'm as silly as to assume it is a form of expression for them - so - freedom of expression ... IP: Logged |
sthenri
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posted January 16, 2005 05:46 PM
I don't know I would be irritated, I mean my ex g/f had his ex g/f on his answering machine three months after we were going out and until I asked him to take it off. But even though he did, others had mentioned it and he still didn't do it. So, I would say that it was a sign that we were going to fast, or else he was really lazy about moving on from her because she lived with him and I didn't. I would consider asking yourself if you see a future with the Aqua, that is living with him so you are more into his space. My ex g/f was a Gemini and he really wanted someone to live with him. That is an air man's ideal because they are kind of spacy alone, even though they like space they dont' mean physical space. Maybe you ought to think about how you are the one who takes does the relationships things? And ask yourself if you want to progress rather than waiting for him? Or ask yourself if you want to be less important in his life? Sometimes we pick air signs because we like being alone and having space, but instead he may need something very different. I would ask him WHY, not if he would put up your picture, but why he has not done it, really? And come up with some reasons, such as he is not ready, or he is missing you? I just really think Aquas, need someone there, as in physically grounded in their space for them, since they can't do it themselves. He can always say No, but he likes the boundaries tested, if you don't test then you don't pursue. I know a lot of male Aquas, and I always get the feeling if I moved right in, they would love it, as if they can only be comfortable with someone who really wants to get to know what it's like from the inside, the empathy may be lacking, but Aquas need someone with empathy. If you think air signs can't commit it's not true, and they do like to live with someone, but can't ever bring themselves to ask, if that's a problem with commitment...it may be or insecurity. Natasha
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