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laglady unregistered
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posted January 19, 2005 10:09 AM
heya.. i wasn't sure if the relationship post should go to the sould unions forums.. i hate my relationship. i want him to just go away, find another gal to haunt. i know that's harsh.. i'm being blunt.. i don't remember the good times anymore. please, if anyone can help me with this it'd mean the world to me i'm R... he's M IP: Logged |
LibraSparkle unregistered
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posted January 19, 2005 10:12 AM
Hon, if you hate your relationship, and you want him to find another gal to haunt, why are you still in the relationship?It seems you're looking for an answer you already know. IP: Logged |
laglady unregistered
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posted January 19, 2005 10:14 AM
you cannot edit titles, so it'll remain misspelled
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astro junkie unregistered
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posted January 19, 2005 10:16 AM
Are you "M", or are you "R"?IP: Logged |
laglady unregistered
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posted January 19, 2005 10:17 AM
i'm stuck here.. two babies, at home mom.. no income. maybe i'm just biding my time.. maybe things will improve.. maybe i'm just scared
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laglady unregistered
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posted January 19, 2005 10:17 AM
oh! i'm R.. edited first post to clarify that. thank you for your lightening fast replies lolIP: Logged |
Archer unregistered
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posted January 19, 2005 11:06 AM
what sort of a chart is that?IP: Logged |
astro junkie unregistered
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posted January 19, 2005 11:49 AM
In astro.com, they label "Synastry" Charts as "Comparison's" above the Wheel there.IP: Logged |
astro junkie unregistered
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posted January 19, 2005 12:24 PM
OK - here's what popping out at me, and then I'll try to clarify.* His Mars in your 8th House * Your Moon in his 8th House (8th House is ruled by Pluto. His Mars appears to try to wrestle and pin down your 8th House. The 8th House is ruled by Pluto, and YOUR Pluto is YOUR 1st House! And since your Moon is in HIS 8th, it as if by default, you encourage him to do so.) * His Moon & Saturn in your 10th House * His Moon & Saturn in HIS 1st House
(He relies on something about your social standing to make him feel secure inside. Might provide him a lot of motivation to keep you, but he may not be able to express his feelings easily so they flow.) * Both his Jupiter & Chiron in your 7th House (I could be way off on this one, but perhaps his Jupiter keeps you optimistic about your 7th House (ruled by Venus), but then his Chiron makes it seem like it just ends up being about HIM. He may not feel comfortable about that, but you may help him heal a great deal.)
* Your Sun, Mercury, Mars & Neptune in his 6th (He's a Virgo, and his Sun is in his 3rd House, which along with the 6th House, is ruled by Mercury the natural Ruler of Virgo. This puts a lot of emphasis on his Virgo tendencies. HIS Virgo Sun and Venus in Leo land in YOUR 11th House which may help him lighten up more about himself when he's around you. But YOUR Sun, Mercury, Mars & Neptune are in HIS 6th (remember, Virgo's House?) - so you may struggle to have things in his life organized a certain way. You may have a battle of wills on "how things should be".)
* Your Venus Conjunct his North Node (as long as your are loving, nice, and supportive - he is able to envision your future together.)
* Your Pluto is in your 1st House * His Pluto is in his 4th House * YOUR Pluto in HIS 4th House
(Pluto is where you are not afraid to challenge your partner, and take control of your life. Your Natal Pluto being in your 1st House means this energy plays a large part in who you are, or how you come across to most people. HIS Pluto is in his 4th House of family & home, and he has definite set plans on how his 4th should be run. And wouldn't you KNOW it? - YOUR Pluto lands in HIS 4th.) It seems to me your have a love/hate type relationship. Full of tug of wars, but incredibly beautiful when you finally find a solution and agree on things. It can be addictive if you BOTH are not careful, and try to be just a tad more objective.
That's my take, and it could be totally wrong, but that's what I saw. IP: Logged |
cristiname Knowflake Posts: 66 From: Earth. Welcome! Registered: Apr 2009
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posted January 19, 2005 03:22 PM
try this:build a way for u to become more independant: go to school, learn some skill, whatever... hey! get a job! start slow and low and built it up... and someday you will at least have ALTERNATIVES! stay or go... don't see what exactly u need astrology to do for u here.... if U don't want it...what else is there to say?!? IP: Logged |
laglady unregistered
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posted January 19, 2005 04:57 PM
thank you astro junkie, it's refreshing to learn what other folks see in a chart.i've been told "if you aren't happy leave" more times than i can count.. somehow life complicates itself, sometimes there are no options.. not without causing more hurt to the ones i love.. i don't value myself enough to cause pain for my own happiness. somehow, in reading the synastry.. i'm interested in learning from this.. whether or not it works out.. it may not be pretty, but it is life's experience IP: Logged |
Gemini Nymph unregistered
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posted January 24, 2005 09:27 AM
Well, to be blunt, if you're being told the same thing over and over, maybe it's what you need to hear but are refusing to believe that. Yes life is complicated, and if you really believe that and are not just making excuses for yourself, than you'd know that it's more than this guy alone making you miserible. Chances are, until you figure yourself out more, you'd just make the same mistake you made with this guy but with someone else, were you able to get out of this relationship right now. From an astrologically viewpoint (my own, specifically), I'd say that you are the one with more emotional and personal investment in this relationship. You probably think you're doing *him* a favor by sticking around - specifically him, although you may be saying you're doing it for others, like your kids or other family - or that he needs really you...it probabaly is more a matter that you need to feel needed, and crave that form of validation to boost your ego and identity. You've likely convinced yourself that he does need you a lot more than you need him, even if in truth, he'd probably do better without you than vice versus. Granted, I doubt this this guy's much of catch - it looks like he'd be awfully immature and irresponsible until he's about 60, not able to communicate his feelings very effectively and be constantly at battle with himself - but as the saying goes "where there's a will, there's way." And wherever your will truly lies - either to stay in this relationship or get out - is exactly the way you're heading...especially with a Cap Sun and Aqu moon. And I'll be honest with you...as I'm something of an astrological Prophet of Doom and also not known to be that nice to Caps in general...EVERY Cap/Aqu or Aqu/Cap Sun-moon combo I've known or study a chart for has been *beyond* reproach. They simply WILL NOT listen when they are being told it's on their shoulders when they are convinced someone else is at fault, with seems like always with them. And they always seem like they're miserible. And often eagerly say they are. And always claim it's someone else's fault for doing/not doing something to/for them. Or it's "life" or "society" or the entire freaking universe that's dead set on making them miserible. They also have been the most judgmental people I've ever come across, always finding fault with other people, even over the most trivial, petty things. No wonder they all have been miserable - if someone expect others to make them happy, but others never are "good" enough for them, how the hell can they ever be happy? I'm not saying that this is how you are, but since I have yet to come across a Cap-Aqu or Aqu-Cap that rises above that pattern, and I've been studying astrology for a decade now, it might be something for you to ruminate over for a bit, if you are willing to give astrology a chance. One of the most benefical things about astrology, in my not so humble opinion, is also one of the most unpleasent: it does show the ugly truth underneath it all, if you are brave enough to look, and that knowledge is power. Astrolgy can teach us what our shortcomings are, especially when either we won't listen to another source, or it's something that others don't see or won't confront. And if you know your own personal shortcomings, you can work on them and make the choice to live as you choose to, and not as your shortcomings dictate. IP: Logged |
laglady unregistered
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posted January 24, 2005 11:04 AM
gemini damn you're blunt..lol that has got to be the most brutaly honest post ive read. much of it rings true, however unattractive it makes me feel. i've been given some things to think on. thank you for your input IP: Logged |
LibraSparkle unregistered
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posted January 24, 2005 11:24 AM
GN I've missed you IP: Logged | |