posted February 11, 2005 01:26 AM              

What makes you men happy?

What are the things you like most about women?

What would your dream women be like?

What spark's male infedelity?

What makes a women marriage material?

What make you fall in love?

posted February 11, 2005 01:35 AM              

Are they THAT alien to some women? Do they want things that are totally and completely different than women? I dont think so. Theyre pretty simple really.

And at the same time theyre all completely different. One guys answers will not be the same as the next so.......

posted February 11, 2005 01:46 AM              

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It's nice to get individual points of view though. Maybe I will learn something new.

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posted February 11, 2005 07:33 AM              

Intresting! I think it is an accumulation of several things.

If the guy isn't really that into the relationship/partner, he may view it with little concern and as such not worry too much about straying? Ignoring any feelings the partner may be going through - a sort of I'm all right Jack attitude

On the other hand it could come from a lack of attention? If he feels his partner has switched off to him in some way - even if he totally adores her, if he cannot get close to her, there is a high risk he will stray - not because he wants to be unfaithful or isn't in love with his partner - more a case of in need of some attention? some confirmation that he is wanted in some way.

Of course there could simply be the caveman instinct, that he feels the need to prove to himself he can do it - not a very nice thought, but it happens!

Another thought is that of passed hurts. If he and his partner have gone through a rough time and perhaps the partner has hurt him in some way in the past - which he may have accepted and moved on but without ever really discussing it with the partner, he may be inclined to give up a little on the relationship and if the opportunity of straying comes along, he may well take it. A sort of Well I was hurt and so stuff you, attitude.

There must be a hundreds more reasons - personally, I can't stand it - If your with someone, then that's who your with - if you feel the need for someone else, you should be single, not attatched.

Hope that offers some insight into one of your questions???

posted February 11, 2005 09:32 AM              

What time is it where you are?

It's 2 20pm over here

posted February 11, 2005 10:09 AM            

The woman who sent the following in an email gets a gold star for going straight to the bottom line.

posted February 11, 2005 01:29 PM            

I have had close female friends before, and maybe it is the Sag in me, but I get so tried of the constant b1tching.."oh, he cheated on me, does he still love me?" or "he is in a bad mood and won't serve me"...You know what I mean? I had one female friend that I just stopped speaking to because she was a full on man hater. She would complain ALL the time about how horrible men were, how they were all dogs, cheaters..etc.. well, hell, she kept choosing losers. Not only that, her depressing outlook on the male species prevented her from enjoying what a man can offer. She even told me "It is only a matter of time before your perfect fiance cheats on you or does you wrong". Ummm.. nope I don't need that poison in my mind..

We are basically the same, but with different parts and slightly different chemistries. We are wired different, yet we all have the same purpose.

Sure, I do not always understand men, but most of the time it is when I realize I am overcomplicating the matter. Men don't like to be jumped on as soon as they walk in the door with a million questions. Hell, I hate that as well..just let me have a few minutes to decompress...

They don't show their problems like we do. When we have a bad day at work we like to come home and talk about it. They feel that talking about it shows a weakness..they are all about seeing the problem and finding a solution. We are about analyzing the problem, picking it apart, discussing it with our friends or loved ones..analyzing it again..etc..

I have also found men don't want to trouble the women in their life with problems. You have to understand their subtle cues. Mr Taurus seemed a bit distant the other day. I could have stressed and said "You don't want me anymore do you..why are you do quiet and distracted". We just shot the breeze..talked about how things were..and then I just said

"Hey baby, I noticed you aren't your normal self..you seem a bit flat- is everything okay or is the cold weather getting you down?"

He kind of acted non-chalent "Yeah, the weather is horrible..I am just in survival mode, trying to get through this."

Then I sensed he wanted to talk and I said "I wish I could understand where you are, I know you miss home. I miss you too- don't worry things are okay here..if you need to talk just let me know. I understand that you are not all mushy, you need to focus on finishing your training..that's my Taurus".

Then he just let it out. The problems he was having and how much he missed me and home. I thanked him for letting me know and that now things made more sense- because there was a time I was feeling neglected, but typical of a man- especially a male Taurus, he was just trying to get through his 3 months in MO in the winter and like he said "I have to focus on this, I can't split my mind up between two places and let my missing home get to me, not if I am going to get through it."

We both laughed at how we finally understand things and that neither of us had been in a situation before where he was away and left a relationship / fiance and I had never had a fiance leave for 3 months LOL..

We see men as being so strong- so stoic, but then we expect them to just gush out their feelings. That is called mixed signals. When we tell them about our problems and then get angry when they tell us how to solve them, we feel that they don't care. Guys fix things..

posted February 11, 2005 02:03 PM              

If men do the bitching it's only becuase the women start it. I mean you women nag and nag us until we say something and then you take offense and take it as bitching!