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Topic: Biggest turn-on and turn-off
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Swerve
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posted March 10, 2005 10:20 AM
 
Ladies,What are your biggest turn-ons in a man? What keeps the fire burning, rather than something that just initially attracts you. How is this affected by your placements in your opinion? I guess the personal planets of the Sun, Moon, Mercury, Venus, Mars and the Ascendent would be most relevant. And on the flip side, what makes you go "ugh" or "eeww", you know, that moment where you KNOW the guy just took himself out of the game, but unfortunately the man isn't usually aware. Again, how is this affected by your placements? See if you can really get to the heart of the matter, rather than list little things that are of annoyance. Give us the "deal-breakers" (unless you have Venus in Virgo or such like and then they may be one and the same!). I am waiting in anticipation as I am fascinated by the female pscyhe in relation to these matters, plus what the different signs like and hate . Seems to elude my otherwise sharp instincts, and I know it must be close to being your favourite subject on a universal scale I would imagine.
Cheers,
Swerve
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astro junkie
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posted March 10, 2005 11:51 AM
Sun - Libra in 5th
Moon - Cancer in 3rd
Mercury - Scorpio in 6th
Venus - Virgo in 4th
Asc - Taurus - Ruler in 4thI think constancy and communication is most important to me. Very "3rd House Moon" wouldn't you say? But you know what? Even more important than that in terms of there even being a bond to begin with - smell and chemistry. If they don't smell/taste good TO ME (in terms of my own chemistry), it's not going to happen no matter how many other good points he/she/or the relationship has!!! That's for sure. Dealbreakers? There are many (Venus in Virgo). Too many to list. Don't have the time. Probably too boring to even mention, and if I did, I'd probably insult someone inadvertently. Just be honest, kind, and try your best. When it comes down to it, that's all I could really expect from anyone. IP: Logged |
Bluemoon
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posted March 10, 2005 11:59 AM
Sun Cancer
moon Aqua
acendent AriesI need lots of attention. deep passionate kisses, lots of touchy feely. the deal breaker: DONT LIE TO ME!!!! IP: Logged |
sue g
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posted March 11, 2005 06:20 AM
Sense of humour, compassion, a warm and understanding heart, sexy, slightly mysterious.........oh dear I have just listed all the qualities I see in myself xIP: Logged |
sue g
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posted March 11, 2005 06:22 AM
p.s.turn offs - LIES, not speaking out, as in being assertive and detachment from the others'emotiionsIP: Logged |
GemStar
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posted March 11, 2005 07:13 AM
Sun-Gemini
Moon-Cancer
Venus-Taurus 7th
Mercury-Cancer
ASC-ScorpioPros-
Honesty, (no LIES), intelligence, affectionate, humor, romantic, good listener, giving nature, appreciative, great chemistry, good morals, compassionate, open-mindedness, interesting philosophies, spiritual, a 'doer' (as opposed to lazy and let someone else do it), enjoys lots of genres of music, well-travelled, has many good friends (long-term) yet is particular about who he hangs with, attractive(of course!), positive attitude, enjoys family (even if they are far from perfect), responsible financially, RESPECTFUL...
Turn-offs-
Lying, bad hyigene, poor dresser, self-centered, not smart (worse if he thinks he is!), not considerate of others, narrow-minded in thought, drinks too much, not a 'toucher', bad manners, unkept fingernails (incl. feet), lack of patience (when driving and otherwise), unworldly/not travelled, uses money to try to attract me..no creativity. OK-Just a few thoughts...there are so many things to write...I guess it is highly individual when you get down to the nitty-gritty of personal taste. Ta-Da!! Smiles-
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Swerve
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posted March 11, 2005 07:48 AM
Honesty comes up again and again. Interesting....IP: Logged |
maya-v
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posted March 11, 2005 08:55 AM
I think its confidence more than anything else. For me to find a man attractive, he has to be sure of himself, his strengths and his weaknesses. And yes, honesty is important, but I also dont condone hurting someone's feelings in the name of being 'honest'. True honesty comes from within, when a guy is in touch with his emotions and has the courage to face up to those emotions and express them to the girl he loves, irrespective of the consequences. I guess sensitivity, emotional and moral strength and a faith in what you stand for would make you attractive to the right girls, while everything else would be just window dressing to attract the wrong kind of attention. IP: Logged |
Bluemoon
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posted March 11, 2005 09:19 AM
Honesty is the best policy!
Besides, if you dont lie you don't have to worry about getting caught.You dont have to be brutal about it. If you say you are going to do something that is what you should do. IP: Logged |
Swerve
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posted March 11, 2005 10:03 AM
Hello maya. I find the confidence thing to be the most obvious. If a guy seems to really have it together and be comfortable in who is then girls feel comfortable around him. Then if he throws a little game their way to tease or keep them guessing whether or not he likes them it seems to be a lethal cocktail.And the ability to make a woman laugh, really laugh, seems to be the killer. Just from what I have observed anyway. If I really knew I wouldn't have asked the question in the first place. thanks Swerve IP: Logged |
sthenri
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posted March 11, 2005 10:12 AM
I second what astrojunkie wrote about smell/taste,confidence is not always visible, sometimes men fake it. They act sweet, and funny, and then one I receive a compliment in his presence, he falls apart and starts to criticize me. I have yet to meet that many truly confident men, instead most are just trying to get my trust. Criticisms about minor details are a real turn off,
bad teeth,
stick in the mud attitudes about women Natasha
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cancerrg
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posted March 11, 2005 10:14 AM
ok gals but i am confused , i think cancers are one of the most honest ppl( at least) in thier relations , they have a sense of humour as well , may be they are not very good dresser but apart from this they have all the major things that u gals asked for then y are the without a galfriend ( i think this is true in majority of the cases) tellll meeeee !IP: Logged |
cancerrg
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posted March 11, 2005 10:18 AM
OK I AGREE WITH WAT STHNERI SAYS CONFIDENCE , I THINK THIER SHY NATURE MAKES THEM SEEM A BIT UNCONFIDENT AND I AGREE THIER NOT AS CONFIDENT IN THESE THINGS AS ARIES OR SAGGI OR LIBRAS .
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whiterabbit
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posted March 11, 2005 11:31 AM
Things change once you know someone well and you've got all the big stuff out of the way, but thes apply when I'm first getting to know someone.
Intelligence, creativity, witty humour, gentle sarcasm, being good at everything they do, having a passion which consumes them other than the one they have for me or for sex. It can be anything from hairdressing to Philosophy as long as they'd just about give me up for it. A touch of madness, also, is essential. I attribute all of the above to my Aquarian Sun, Venus and Mercury. I also like people who seem like they're almost not interested in relationship and sex, they almost seem asexual- and it comes as a shock that they're actually secretly sex animals. But secretly is key. I think that's the Mars in Scorpio.
My Libra rising and Leo moon occasionally make me seek freakishly good-looking people, but all the Aquarian in me usually wins out in the end and I don't end up caring much about what they look like. At first it seems to matter a lot, though.
I am put off by people who are self-centered, unobservant, ignorant, bound by conventions, put too much thought into their appearance, have cell-phones, eat a lot of gross junk food, listen to exclusively one kind of music, are closed-minded, men who are afraid of women, people who think see goodness as a weakness, people who don't know anything about countries other than the one they're from, people who don't want to know anything about the rest of the world, people with drastically different political views than mine (I couldn't handle it), argumentativeness, missing subtleties, not enjoying the good things in life like wine, sex and literature, obsessive health-nuts who work out all the time and don't eat carbs, mean vegetarians, homophobes, bigots, anyone who owns a gun, is possessive and jealous, pigs, Aries men for whom every woman is a new conquest even while they're dating you, people who try to make me jealous when it just doesn't work, people who pretend they are smart and talk for a long time about things they know little about, people who criticize things they know nothing about, people who don't care what you have to say and only want to listen to themselves talk, greedy people, men who don't go down on women, religious fanatics,
men who expect everything to be perfectly shaved all the time, lazy people, people who watch too much TV. That's all I can think of for now. Those are all deal-breakers. I'm not sure which of my astrological placements can explain these preferences. IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
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posted March 11, 2005 11:57 AM
Hi Sun Pisces
Moon Aqua
Asc Aqua Turn on's -First thing to get me after I realize that I am attracted to you is your sense of humor. I love a man that can communicate well and is warm with a gentle or docile touch. I like really masculine brothers with a great smile. I am turned on by a man that has a great relationship with his mom and he has to love kids...LAst but not least he must not be afraid to espress his love for GOD... Turn off's- A liar, cheater, A cheapster, a bugga boo, please to not crowd me that just sends me into a zone. And if I sense a inkling of possesiveness I am out. A lil jealous is okay but no posessiveness. A man with no job and desire to get a job Never has a chance. NO Momma's boys I like a man that can stand on his feet and not need his mommy to help him make decisions.. Thats it... IP: Logged |
The Mutable Night Force
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posted March 11, 2005 12:54 PM
Turns ons- Passion, they have to be kind of tempting all the time, you know? And they have to express that they want you and tell you compliments, be talkative... and witty. Wittiness is such a turn on.Turn-offs- Moodiness, getting very silent... self-centeredness- like only caring about their problems and never yours... I suppose all I'm saying is I don't like the strong silent types... I suppose I like guys who are a little bit gay  lol IP: Logged |
neptune's mermaid
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posted March 11, 2005 01:51 PM
Turn on: if he owns an expensive car.
Turn off: if he doesn’t own an expensive car.
 Oh, I’m only kidding. So basically…after the initial infatuation, what keeps me around. Turn on
If he makes a real effort to see me happy. If my happiness is important to him. Nothing huge, just little things. Little and often. I’m not talking about spending money.
Also, actions speak louder than words, so he must show affection. It’s always a turn on if he’s all lovey kissy  ( not in public though - we’re not animals  ). Turn off
If I’m not important to him, or if I’m made to feel that way. This is hugely important, I can not stress it enough. I’ll forgive almost anything…but not that.
Never do this to a woman…unless you want to get rid of her.
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Mama Mia
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posted March 11, 2005 01:58 PM
Aaaawwwhhhh MN As a fellow Piscean I do understand totally why that would be a turn off. I feel the exact same way...You know how we like to feel loved and important.. IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
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posted March 11, 2005 02:00 PM
Sorry I meant NM, I can be so backwards sometimes. I THINK that comes from my Aqua Moon.... LOL!!!!IP: Logged |
pixelpixie
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posted March 11, 2005 02:05 PM
I keep looking at this string, and thinking.. Do I have anything to add?
I don't think I do.. but here's mine anyway.There are basic tennants..
*treat people, including me, but (especially) not only me.. with respect and kindness....
*Listen and talk. Don't just wait for a lull to jump in with a point....
*Be ready with the loving when I need some.  loving can be sub-categorized depending on need.. quickie, hug, passion filled kiss
*touch me gently in public unconsciously and I am yours forever... or at least where it counts.
*wow my list is getting longer, I really DO have an opinion. But basically...I know when something is there, and I recognize it...
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I know when something is missing and I do something about it. IP: Logged |
neptune's mermaid
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posted March 11, 2005 02:06 PM
Hiya Mama Mia
lol, I have Aqua Mercury.
Yes...I do need affection, and lots of it  He shouldn‘t just tell me he loves me - he has to show me.
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pixelpixie
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posted March 11, 2005 02:08 PM
oh.. and taking care of your hygiene and caring about your appearance is a major major.. okay, necessary... turn on.
and saying thank you, and giving me compliments with sincerity.ohh.. I am
Scorpio Sun (4th house)
Capricorn Moon (6th house- doing for others .)
Leo Ascendant
Sagittarius Venus (5th house)
Scorpio Mars (4th house)
blah-de-blah-de-blah...
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virgotaurustaurus
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posted March 11, 2005 02:10 PM
Hmm..Sun - Virgo in 5th
Moon - Taurus in 1st
Asc - Taurus
Venus - Virgo in 5th
I bet my Uranus and Mars are important here too Turn Ons - a witty/weird/morbid sense of humor, intelligence, a nice smile, someone with a sense of hygiene and cleanliness, sense of respect for others and self, someone who can talk about anything in the world (cultured?), someone with a bit of a mystery to them, gives me my space, has a warm personality, friendly, good cook is a plus..., sense of adventure/likes trying new things, musicians or severe interest in music, tiny skinny dudes... Turn offs - rude, serious case of b.o., way too much insecurity to the point where it's inhibiting, jokes in an insulting manner directed at me, too much ego, smothering, someone totally anal about everything being spotless and in it's place all the time, a totally muscular body or sports freak or someone who just sits on their arse ALL THE TIME and doesn't ever want to do anything except watch TV, too self-absorbed to even listen to me, spends money like it's going out of style... IP: Logged |
Mama Mia
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posted March 11, 2005 02:10 PM
What you say NM show and prove or get the boot...Thats a good way of putting it. IP: Logged |
The Mutable Night Force
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posted March 11, 2005 02:11 PM
I think it's important here for me to add 'horny' to the list IP: Logged | |
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