posted March 28, 2005 07:35 PM              

I've had some really difficult times with this guy though, and I don't know what to do! Since I met him, he's seen me at my worst, and he defintly contributed to some of my 51/50ness. I care about him a lot, however, because we've been through a lot together. He never talks though, so I don't feel like I know him whatsoever, and it drives me crazy. How can you trust an Aries Venus? One thing about him, he's rather passively controlling..like having his friends watch me, etc; so suspicious and whatnot, when HE's the one that cheats and denies it with a straight face. Numerous people have told me things about him that just aren't good, and I don't doubt it's true, because he lies a lot *as to not hurt me I suppose*, and he drinks a lot. I just want to know where our relationship stands. I don't want to get hurt, and have tried the serious relationship thing, only to be mocked behind green eyes, and tried the casual sex thing, only to feel dissatisfied... so it's like ahh what now? I got pregnant by him, and didn't talk to him for a month. He called me to say happy easter of course, after I'd told him previously that I don't want him in my life..anywho, we kicked it and I told him that I'd had an abortion, and he didn't say anything. How does someone remain silent to something like that? It just appalls me. I'm like okay, obviously you are just using me, and so I'm not going to put much faith in you or take anything seriously, and just go on with my life, having sex with you casually I suppose. I'm independently crazy on independence, so I don't much have a problem with the no-strings attatched, lovers & friends scenario, because I know anything more isn't possible between us I presume, and I'm sick of being the one to initiate it. If he likes me enough he should initiate it, but he doesn't talk as it is. He just smiles. It drives me nuts. I want to smack him! haha. Yet at the same time, even though I know he's BAD, ALL BAD, I can't hate him because he's so gentle on the surface, even though it's just a fascade. Damn Arian Pisces...I just don't know what he wants from me. He gets off on having a girl be completely dependent on him, like I love you I need you o baby o baby, and I refuse to play that role again, because he doesn't show any feelings back. It's as if he has no feelings. Argh. HELP!

posted March 28, 2005 11:24 PM              

My best friend Pisces/Taurus moon... venus/mars in Aries is normally honest and straight forward. She has cheated once where she was the other girl which I thought was pretty bad. I don't think she'd ever do it again though. It was ona those one of mistakes - the guy was a pisces to..

posted March 29, 2005 04:39 AM              

Personally, I don't think this guy is worth wallowing over too much for you..

posted March 29, 2005 10:43 AM              

You want a response but you really want to love him, that's kind of masochistic because you are not concetrating on getting love, just giving.
If you are a giver that's great, but now is the time to not wrap yourself up in anyone person for a while, that means being his friend without emotional ties-HE may not think sex is emotional, but you do, and so I urge you to date other men, as quickly as possible.

As for cheating with a straight face, you don't know that, and it's not significant for you to worry about him. I have Venus in Aries, and Mars on the Ascendant, Sag Mars, and I have been told I am inconstant and do not have long term potential many times. That's an opinion, but I need to have something happy to look forward to, and love isn't always happy. Guilt is a huge issue for me, if there is guilt I will leave, but I never stop loving anyone, or ever stop thinking about someone once I have made contact-not ever. In fact I am very loyal, if not always physically. I just got off a merry go round with a Venus in Cancer and he was not loyal and treated me like dirt.
So much for Venus signs!

Everyone needs something different to be happy, maybe your Pisces isn't happy in love? Maybe it makes him feel worse?

And why didn't you tell him you were pregnant before? Why carry that alone, did you want to punish yourself or him? You deserve more from yourself, don't be so hard on yourself all the time, stop feeling guilty for him, ease up, and find out what it takes to make you happy first, and then he will be happy eventually.

Venus in Aries does get a bad rap especially with Sun in Pisces, but these types do eventually settle into friendships mainly, they rarely get married that I can see, Scorpios on the other hand, usually love bonding and cuddling. It's not natural for a fox and a lion to mate!

You need cuddling bad,

Love, Hugs, and Kisses,

posted April 05, 2005 03:39 PM              

Sounds like you've answered your own question, but need some supportive advice. You've observed and recognized a lot in him, so I'd say you're on the right track. You may not have been around this forum a whole lot, or read my posts, but I'm no stranger to friends with benefits and the such. This does not mean it is a lifestyle I prefer. WE ALL deep down inside want that forever after love with someone made just for us. When we don't get it, we are willing to compromise. Just be careful how you're reasoning yourself into a compromise, and be careful.