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Topic: Scorpio
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calliope
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posted April 04, 2005 05:02 AM
 
Okay, here goes...If one disagrees with them over some issues, but doesn't want to lose them as a friend -
even if one doesn't quite understand their motives, but is trying to understand them, are they okay with questioning without comment? (i.e. will they not feel unnerved or threatened by this?) Will they know what you think anyway??! Will they understand that you like/love them, despite the differences (since I understand that what they do is very much tied to their own persona)? Are they okay with frank opinions - i.e. "not really too keen" (despite being direct themselves!)? They're so subtle and sensitive and emotional, and if you haven't been used to dealing with this sort of thing for a long time, it's interesting to get the feel of. There are some predictable patterns I've noticed, though. They do give a lot and expect you to give plenty in return. I'm just a little concerned that my "giving" capacity might not be up to what they expect. People say I'm selfish and perhaps I am, from a monetary point of view, because I can't afford to give much. I try to "give" in other ways, such as being entertaining or sympathetic or showing appreciation. Do you think they would understand this? I'm talking about a friendship here that really means a lot to me. IP: Logged |
aries-chick
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posted April 04, 2005 05:10 AM
If they're a Libra they'll understand 101%. If they are an Aries I suspect they wont really understand. Aries takes differences in opinion too personally. edit: oops they're a scorpio, trust me to read the thread and forget about the name.. I think scorpios would understand especially if they have Libra influences (which is very possible since Libra precedes Scorpio) But this wasn't a star sign question so I guess I should answer it from a non-astrological point of view. You should be able to be honest with your close friends. If you're scared your honesty will hurt, then do it as tactfully as possible. If you're scared they wont know how you feel about them, that you care and you love them etc then tell them that over and over again till they get sick of hearing it lol IP: Logged |
sue g
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posted April 04, 2005 05:22 AM
Calliope, I am a Scorpio and have just asked my husband what he thinks, how to handle them. He says you sound like you have this sign sussed already - the sensitivity etc. I think to be honest with them and show you care is important, Ive a "friend" at the moment, we had a difference of opinion and she has stayed away from me. I apologised in case I had hurt her but now she has put up the wall (shes a cancer). She has even kept her son away from mine, even tho they are friends - I find this very hard to accept. I think humility is important to a Scorp, and yeah you are right when you talk of their directness - I think they can take this back but hate being talked down to or lectured, but you sound very gentle and kind - your Scorpio friend is lucky, just tell her/him youre there for them, but not to be in their face - that is one thing I cannot stand, being crowded - we like subtelty - good luck and let me know how you get on and if I can help - let me know love Sue xxIP: Logged |
calliope
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posted April 04, 2005 06:54 AM
Thank you, aries-chick and sue g! You are right about being crowded. They need their space and make it clear when they do - so I back off when necessary. But I still love them and think they're great!
I'll bear in mind about the subtlety, and humility. With that in mind, I wanted to ask another question: if they're in the same line of work, do they mind friendly competition?
They are just so - WOW! Curious: I seem to have made at least three Scorpio friends/ acquaintances lately. 
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sue g
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posted April 04, 2005 08:23 AM
Hi Calliope, friendly competition hey? I cant speak for others, but I dont like being competed with myself - I find it a bit threatening, but having said that my Aries rising is sometimes up for a challenge and gets a bit too much at times. So suppose I am at times in conflict with myself, one side wanting harmony, the other a fight. What sign are you Calliope? xIP: Logged |
calliope
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posted April 04, 2005 11:16 AM
 The horned, cloven-hooved one.  But I try not to boast too much.  Mind you, Scorpios are themselves very good at self-promotion and bloody good at what they do, so theoretically they ought not to feel threatened by me. I don't tend to feel threatened in the same way by outright challenge - more by subtle persuasion or undertones, which are more difficult to deal with. I don't mind healthy competition, so long as the other person is not putting me down. Another thing: I can take criticism from Scorpios but not from anyone else. It doesn't necessarily mean I have to act on it, but I respect their opinion.
They're great when you're down. If you're voicing a complaint about xyz (not them!) they'll pause, and then say quietly: "it doesn't really matter much, you know". And you realise that in fact, it doesn't. End of story. IP: Logged | |
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