posted May 18, 2005 12:13 PM
Hmmmm, well, I would say a Sag Sun / Moon and Merc would have commitment problems. Like I said- too independent for most of those than seek stability..and TAURUS seeks stability. Yes, I am with a Taurus (he has a couple of great fire planet placements which helps add a spark and I have a few heavy Earth placements).
My brother is a Sag Sun / Scorp moon (Venus in Aqua / Mars in Aries). He needed his time to grow, see the world and then married at 25 years of age. He now has 2 kids and is VERY happy- his wife is a Scorp (funny now that I think about it, we are both with astrological opposites and when we talk about Mr. Taurus and his wife we have some of the same issues with them, namely the possessiveness).
Most Sag men can be very self-involved. I know of another Archer male / Taurus female- that went through the same thing ( I would ask Maya for some advice on that one).
We Archer ladies though are a bit different. I am more apt to love my home (4th house Sun) and I, in some ways, cater to the stability prone Taurus and take care of the castle. In turn, he spoils me and has shown me an emotional side of myself that I really supressed. I taught him to laugh more, dream more and to look more into the future versus being rutted in just today.
BUT...we were both older when we found each other, we both had failed marriages and then lived on our own before finding each other. That is the key for this to work. The Taurus person needs to have lived enough to know that they CAN'T possess someone - especially a Sag and a Sag has to learn they CAN'T just come and go as they please when others are involved.
The two have to come to some agreement a sort of compromise, but not a sacrifice. Mr. Taurus comes out more- we go here and there because I NEED to get out and I NEED to see people. In return, we have our weekends where we hardly venture out at all- we will have a Saturday movie fest where we just sit and watch movies all day on the sofa (yep...that is HIS thing LOL..) I have learned to love those times and now I even suggest them.
Still, we butt heads...he does not like that I am more high-strung at times and I get frustrated at what I feel his is total lack of energy (immovable object). He says I am willful, I say he is bossy. He says I am flighty, I say he is possessive. He says he owns me (his little joke) I say you cannot own the wind.
At the end of the day, there is no one I would rather come home to- he gives me my freedom and I give him his space. We accept each other and we even accept the fights..it's a growing experience.
Personally, I could never be with a Sag Sun / Moon/ Merc, as much as I like freedom, I also seek stability.
Your friend is better off without him.