posted June 03, 2005 01:40 PM
alanabelle86 -The first thing that came to mind was which Virgo/Mercury/6th House or Gemini/Mercury/3rd House influences he had. I find these people like to be "fixer upper's". The thing is, in reality they are obsessed with fixing themselves.
You can't fight his battles for him, that is not possible in any way, shape or form. So for him to even suggest it is possible is preposterous. Therefore, if he is not willing to compromise, or otherwise, TRY to compromise, that is an uneven partnership right off the bat. I don't know what keeps you two coming back to each other, perhaps could be a harsh Aspect between one of your Pluto's in Synastry. It sounds like that because it reeks of power struggle.
OK - so let's review what I brought up.
First, I brought up those influences he might have in his Chart. From the info you provided, he has his Sun, Mercury & Venus in the 3rd House, including Mercury which is sort of a double whammy because the 3rd House is Mercury's natural home. So the way he comes across is extremely important to him, as well as how his manner of logic is perceived.
And then, I brought up Pluto. You did not list your Pluto's (don't underestimate any Planets) - but your Sun, Mercury & Venus are in Scorpio, which is Ruled by Pluto. Your Sun & Venus in Scorpio are in the 1st House, so that IS very much YOUR IDENTITY. Shame on him for trying to challenge that.
Also, you both share a Natal Planet in Scorpio in your respective 2nd Houses. Your Mercury & his Mars. Remember what I said about his Mercury? Doesn't like to be wrong. But YOUR Mercury is probably the MORE potent here because of your other Scorpio stuff in your 1st House. His Mars in Scorpio (in the same House as your Mercury) tends to feel the need to be FORCEFUL. Since they are both in your 2nd House's, everything which is 2nd House-related will be the most affected by your disagreements & power struggles.
"Second House:
Money and possessions. But it goes beyond these. The 2nd House also shows the VALUE you place on things, including yourself, so it includes your sense of self-worth. This House corresponds to the 2nd Sign, Taurus, which is the sign of material goods."
So let me guess. You argue over "money, possessions, & both your self-worth's"?.
None of these specifically means it's a useless relationship. But going by his inability to share in your flexbility - well - that's the deal breaker. I've recently learned that when a couple has their share of disagreements, what will truly hold them together in the end is if EACH PERSON in their own right, really really wants and is willing to make it work. You're the only one who does.
(A good way in general to list your astrological stuff here is to go to astro.com, sign in, and then go to PERSONAL PORTRAIT. Scroll down to bottom of page, then cut & paste those tables over into your post here.)
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