posted June 12, 2005 10:35 AM            

Okie Doke, well, at the moment, I have a bit of a crush on a Cancer guy and a Capricorn guy... anywho, when speaking to them over the internet, can I help it if I flirt a little? And, interestingly enough, gage very different (and yet, similar) reactions from them! Both have in some way given me a bit of hope, the Capricorn saying he'll take me out when I'm 16 and the Cancer saying something like, 'Who knows in 2 years...?'.
I found this hilarious enough but the Cancer also said (something like) in response to my thoughts 'You can't like both me and (the Cap) we two sides of a coin. Girls like one or the other!'
And sweet, and oddly enough, he said he was flattered.

This must be the first time ever I've had two crushes at once... and opposites!

posted June 13, 2005 01:15 PM            

Back? Back from where? lol.
Do you mean the two days I didn't post? I was away camping! In a tent!

So... tell me, from your POV, as a Capricorn, would you like some girl to tell you she fancied you... and how is the best way to say it? Oh, one more thing- if a Cap guy has told a girl she looks 'lovely', does he mean endearing, cute, hot? I'm not quite sure how good lovely is.

And any Cancerians out there- if a Cancer guy tells you he 'likes you too', does he mean like as in LIKE like or like as in I like you as a friend?

posted June 13, 2005 01:25 PM              

How old are you 12? Just curious

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posted June 13, 2005 01:35 PM            

She is young.. but very mature.

posted June 13, 2005 01:56 PM            

TP- 2 crushes at the same time? Yeeeesss! I'm a busy girl!

posted June 15, 2005 03:23 PM              

Immature or mature...doesn't matter. I would never go around telling a 14 year old girl its ok to have a bunch of crushes at the same time. You guys should know better than that.

She should be focused on school at that age. Not h*rny little boys.

posted June 15, 2005 03:39 PM              

I don't think I've met a teen girl who doesn't have a couple of crushes at the same time, at any given time..

posted June 16, 2005 02:44 AM            

pixie- you are sooo sweet! No other crummy friend I know would say such nice things, thank you.

cancerrg- Thanks for the helpful insight!

TP- Barbies? hehehe that's hilarious. I don't see anything wrong with the crushes it's not like I'm sleeping with two different guys! And I'm trying to decide which one I really like, it's hard. And to be honest I don't like school that much anyway, even if I do go to like, the 2nd best secondry school in England. Oh, and they're not little boys. They're men. So I suppose that makes me even more of a hussy. lol

posted June 16, 2005 03:35 AM            

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So... tell me, from your POV, as a Capricorn, would you like some girl to tell you she fancied you... and how is the best way to say it? Oh, one more thing- if a Cap guy has told a girl she looks 'lovely', does he mean endearing, cute, hot? I'm not quite sure how good lovely is.

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Ok, this may sound a little silly, but I think it may be the right way to handle it.

I honestly think you should tell him through someone else. If you come out and tell him, he'll definitely be flatterred, but his reaction will be based on what he feels for you, and if he doesn't really know yet what his feelings are, it might be odd. I say make it known through a mutual friend if possible. If not, then go ahead and keep hinting. I'd even say don't be overly subtle about it. Be playful. Give him your permission to dream or fantasize about you, and see how he responds.

About, "lovely," I don't live there, so I couldn't know for sure. American men aren't always so eloquent. I would think it at least means, "Cute," but possibly more. I interpret it as saying that he has some affection for you without wanting to commit to exactly what that affection is. Maybe it's the age thing, and he feels like he can't lead you on too much, though he may like you a great deal.

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posted June 16, 2005 12:05 PM            

Haha lovely is more common here in England... even if I really have no idea what he actually meant...

And no, there's a slight difference. 16 year olds in England practically think they're adults but the truth couldn't be more different! Besides I'm 14 and I have no idea how 20 year olds view me!

posted June 16, 2005 01:15 PM            

everything has perspective.
Although comparisons are the cornerstone of our perceptions of others, they aren't always applicable.

And no matter how much you know now, no matter how old you are.. thirteen, forty five, your own experiences still grow and shape you as the time goes by.
What's right for me doesn't need to be right for you.. and really shouldn't be.
So when we judge based upon such things that have no grounding, we show judgemental atitude, not judicious guiding.

*steps off stool*

posted June 17, 2005 04:53 PM              

Glad to hear you're a sensible young woman, it appears you have a good head on oyur shoulders. I was a little concerned, because there are so many pervs that seek out young girls to exploit them. That is something that really pains me, to see young girls getting manipulated by adult males....

posted June 19, 2005 07:47 AM            

I said the bit about telling him through a mutual friend, because Capricorns (in my opinion) try to be honest with themselves and others, and I was just thinking that if YOU told him, he might not exactly know how to respond. I was just trying to shield you from being sensitive to what his reaction may be.

Then, conversely, if you had a friend tell him, he could respond or not respond to your friend without worrying about hurting your feelings. Also, if he hasn't considered how he feels about you, your going through a friend buys HIM some time to consider what his feeling are without having been put on the spot.

Does that make sense? We Capricorn men can be a little tactless, distant, and hard to read if we're put in a position where we have to analyze quickly something we haven't had time to consider.